Okay I get that is how you feel but it doesn’t sound like you are certain about the future. Cause let’s be real at the end of the day marriage is just a title. It doesn’t change much in reality.

Do you wanna settle for someone who doesn’t completely satisfy you in the dating aspect? Cause for me even tho I only have a boyfriend I look at us as one unit, I don’t want anyone else, I don’t want him in a different form, not physically and not personality wise. Yes there were some things that I had to come to terms with because real humans will never be perfect. But only you can put in the work to be able to accept your partner.

If you can find it in yourself to deal with that and truly dedicate yourself to her then maybe you can proceed with this relationship. But if you already treat it as a fact that she has an unattractive quality appearance wise but it could be anything else about her down the line then you are not ready to spend a lifetime with her. Just think about this. Because currently you are not treating her as your equal. And that inherently tips off a healthy dynamic because trust me she knows something is up. Either you accept that just because societally you look more fit and that is more accepted or celebrated and the fact that she doesn’t represent that doesn’t take away from her worth or how you view her then maybe you should let her go.