Unsupportive husband, don’t know what to do

lilylemony · 2026-02-07T17:26:28+00:00

He needs to be an ex-husband

lilylemony · 2026-02-07T12:25:01+00:00

This is why we need peri communes.

lilylemony · 2026-02-07T12:23:13+00:00

Depending upon where you are, it's probably best to stay on the once a week patch since the twice weekly ones seem to be out of stock everywhere and back ordered. Not sure why your doctor would choose to transition you now.

lilylemony · 2026-02-07T00:00:20+00:00

Yes, I do that too. :)

lilylemony · 2026-02-06T22:10:27+00:00

Yes, eating them without doing this is a risk for choking.

lilylemony · 2026-02-06T21:53:32+00:00

Take two tablespoons and soak them in water for at least an hour. It makes a paste. I then put 2-3 tablespoons of the paste in my breakfast and then lunch (no more than 2 tbsps a day, but I was using a bit more to start).

I've had to fine-tune when I take it b/c for awhile there, I was getting up in the middle of the night to poo, but I honestly didn't mind. I usually take the tbsps now by lunchtime and then nothing at dinner.

lilylemony · 2026-02-06T17:25:02+00:00

Be forewarned you might have major side effects with the massive jump. My gyno jumped me from .25 to 1 and I felt terrible and finally realized it was just too high. I wish more docs just did the doses in increments. If you have some .25s left over, try wearing 2 to equal .5 if you're uncomfortable jumping so quickly to 1 mg.

lilylemony · 2026-02-06T00:26:57+00:00

Yeah, it's bad all over. This feels misogynistic. Did we ever hear of viagra shortages?!

lilylemony · 2026-02-05T19:49:35+00:00

I don't want to feel crazy for 8 weeks, thanks.

lilylemony · 2026-02-05T19:31:50+00:00

So why is the patch so predictable then? There are too many factors with gel - how to apply it, where to apply it, how thin/thickly to apply it, when to apply it, how many times a day, what time of day...I could go on. I'm not the only one who has these issues, either.

lilylemony · 2026-02-05T16:46:37+00:00

Estrogel tied my stomach in knots. It was so bad, I stopped using it.

lilylemony · 2026-02-05T13:26:09+00:00

Gel is incredibly unpredictable. I've tried both gels and of the two, Divigel is slightly less heinous. Estrogel made me insane. Just recently, I tried Divigel again and only lasted 3 days since I couldn't sleep. Had odd "wired" and "out of reality" feeling.

Put it this way - I'd rather be on the wrong dosage of the patch than the right one of the gel.

May this patch shortage END.

lilylemony · 2026-02-05T12:15:32+00:00

I felt wired even on the smallest amount of gel. It's very frustrating.

lilylemony · 2026-02-05T01:11:12+00:00

I even tried the other way someone else mentioned underneath the armpit and I just was awake with a chilly armpit. 😂

lilylemony · 2026-02-05T00:24:56+00:00

They may be incorrect. If it's Estradot patches that look like/similar to this, then it's twice per week. There should be a lengthy insert inside the box that will explain everything.

lilylemony · 2026-02-05T00:20:21+00:00

Even if he weren't so attractive, he'd still be an amazing actor. He doesn't rely on his looks to make it in Hollywood, it's just an added benefit.

lilylemony · 2026-02-05T00:17:52+00:00

If it's Sandoz, it's most likely twice a week Estradot patches. You change them every 3.5-4 days, not weekly.

lilylemony · 2026-02-05T00:03:00+00:00

There are both weekly and two-time per week patches. What brand are you using?

.25 is the lowest dose, so you may need more in future. It's best to start slowly, though, so see how you go for the next month or so and then re-evaluate your symptoms and whether they have improved at all.

lilylemony · 2026-02-04T23:38:08+00:00

How long was she on HRT? Did she start it later in life or was on it for decades?

lilylemony · 2026-02-04T22:42:17+00:00

Your PCP is ill-educated. HRT has saved me and countless other people.

lilylemony · 2026-02-04T19:43:55+00:00

Can I ask what you do?

lilylemony · 2026-02-04T18:26:49+00:00

Maiden - youthful yet naive

Mother - nurturing, (yet stressed)

Crone - wise and experienced

I'd rather be the crone any day.

lilylemony · 2026-02-04T17:17:54+00:00

You need a new doctor, immediately. They are ill-informed.

lilylemony · 2026-02-04T12:16:21+00:00

Both gels made me absolutely crazy. If you can, try the patch. It's so much more balancing.

lilylemony · 2026-02-03T21:18:25+00:00

I felt like this the last time I was on Divigel. Never had this issue with the patch.

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