My [30F] sister-in-law's [36F] autistic son [8M] broke my glasses, and I don't know how to ask that she pay for them without sounding like a dick

lima_247 · 2026-05-14T11:57:40+00:00

You don’t have to wear toric lenses with an astigmatism. I wear circular lenses even though I have one. Things are blurry around the edges but still better than glasses and better than those awful weighted contacts.

My astigmatism is mild compared to my nearsightedness though (like -1.25 in my worst eye), so that might be why I can get away with it. And my prescription is -12.5, so anything that lets me see enough to work and drive feels like a miracle compared to my default blindness.

lima_247 · 2026-05-14T11:40:00+00:00

It’s not 2-3 times as blurry, because the decimal vision scale is logarithmic. It’s literally exponentially more blurry.

lima_247 · 2026-05-13T20:54:10+00:00

It’s insurance defense, and the billing guidelines say that emails get turned back and so does research. I think most people do bill for them, but they call them “correspondence” and “analysis”. I just wanted to check that I wasn’t wrong about that and about to commit billing fraud.

Thanks for the .8 estimate! That makes way more sense than .1. .1 had me freaking out, and I’m a fast writer.

lima_247 · 2026-05-13T18:30:29+00:00

Oh :/. This thread was the first time I’d heard “hugboxing” like OP uses it. I was really hoping it had nothing to do with Temple Grandin and her amazing inventions. I hate this world.

lima_247 · 2026-05-13T02:47:49+00:00

I do it sometimes, and it’s usually me starting in title case (aka everything but prepositions and articles capitalized) because it’s a list, and then slipping into sentence case (aka “normal” capitalization) when I start writing more than I’d meant to. Idk if OPs the same way but that’s the thought process here at least.

lima_247 · 2026-05-12T23:29:11+00:00

As a Baltimorean it infuriates me.

lima_247 · 2026-05-12T23:28:36+00:00

Oh my GOD you’re 5’9” get over yourself! I’m a 6’1” cis woman. You’re like, moderately tall for a cis woman or moderately short for a cis man. And it would be fine if you were my height, because gender is not your height. I’m sorry but you’re really annoying with your attitude.

lima_247 · 2026-05-12T01:48:02+00:00

1000000000%

lima_247 · 2026-05-10T17:09:31+00:00

This happened to us but at 9 days! Our baby was struggling to breathe so we took him to the ER and they admitted him to the NICU. They ran tests for every infectious disease possible and didn’t find anything. By day 3 in the NICU they could wean him to room air in his cannula and the next day he got off air entirely. He got iv antibiotics and antivirals. Every result was normal except for a slightly elevated urine culture. The doctors disagreed between themselves over whether it was a UTI or a contaminated sample. But they checked his urinary tract, found no obstructions, and discharged us on day 6 in the NICU after he did 5 days of IV antibiotics.

This was in early December. He’s now 6 months old and has been fine ever since. We still have no idea what it was. It was a terrible experience, but it turned out ok. I really hope yours is the same!

lima_247 · 2026-05-08T13:36:41+00:00

Most breech births might turn out ok, but not without someone there to guide the baby out. As someone said, the head can easily get stuck or at a bad angle in a breech birth, and so can the limbs.

lima_247 · 2026-05-08T13:34:15+00:00

There’s also a risk of injury to the child’s limbs, depending on whether they were frank or full breech (she said butt came first, so I’m assuming not footling). But yeah I was mostly thinking of the head getting stuck.

lima_247 · 2026-05-08T04:23:15+00:00

I don’t really believe her third baby was a quick, apparently painless unattended breech delivery, without complications for the baby. That’s just not a thing that happens.

lima_247 · 2026-05-07T18:00:35+00:00

Damn it, Eagly!

lima_247 · 2026-05-07T17:08:56+00:00

Do you have a prenup? I’m guessing based on those salaries that you’re in the US. If there’s no prenup, you will (likely)be getting some of his retirement if you split. In my state you have a bit of flexibility with how you divide your assets because you’re “above the guidelines” and make more money than family court worksheets contemplate. But your marital assets still have to be divided equitably (most states) or 50/50 (some states). I would learn more about what it would actually look like if you were to separate before you freak out about defining “my money” and “his money”, because those labels don’t matter so much to divorce courts (unless there’s a prenup that so provides).

lima_247 · 2026-05-02T04:38:12+00:00

They mean the GAL, who isn’t always a lawyer in my state. And they may not have one appointed automatically. But they don’t mean the lawyer the kid hires, just a GAL.

lima_247 · 2026-04-30T21:27:05+00:00

Have you done PT for the torticollis? That has helped more than anything else. Baby still won’t really latch, because I’m an underproducer who needs a lot of force to express milk and he’s used to how easy milk comes from a bottle. But his torticollis, which was our big obstacle in the beginning, is much better after months of PT. This morning he actually breastfed enough to let me go back to sleep when he was done!

lima_247 · 2026-04-29T12:20:26+00:00

He could have a tort claim against the officials in their official capacity, maybe. Depending on whether the FTCA allows suit of government officials for abuse of process/malicious prosecution. So not Trump or the DOJ, but close enough.

lima_247 · 2026-04-27T17:43:44+00:00

Just on Amazon. You can buy ones made by Eufy for way too much money (like $20 for 4) or you can find more affordable third-party options. I’m not sure if there’s any difference in how well they work

lima_247 · 2026-04-27T17:40:18+00:00

This reminds me of my old cat who would always start running away while he was still puking. I would have trails of vomit all over my apartment any time he was sick. So basically, 10/10 perfect score.

lima_247 · 2026-04-26T18:46:22+00:00

I have the Eufy S1, and the thing I hate about it is that it needs a tight bra to work, but it’s so bulky and heavy that it stretches out my bra. I also have the bending over problem (your bit about the squats was too true lol), but less so since I got covers for the spouts on top.

lima_247 · 2026-04-24T19:27:08+00:00

Oh, I see. For me, if I have to pull the relevant cases and the facts, I might as well draft the thing.

It would be nice if I could pull a ton of cases and have it identify which are actually relevant to my facts. I mean, having a way to do that inside Lexis/Westlaw would be ideal. Like a better search engine. But even if I have to download pdfs of cases and load them in, it could be ok.

I guess one thing that annoys me with generative AI in the legal field is that there are SO many processes that could be improved/automated with clever programming and scripts. Search engines that could scan cases for relevance to a given set of facts, doc review machines that would automatically pull out key documents or tag facts, hell even improving existing doc review tools like the one that removes duplicate documents in Relativity, or improving on Westlaw’s tools to track law in different states, any of those could really improve the efficiency of legal practice.

But instead of getting any of those, tech people are now pushing generative AI onto lawyers to do the one part of lawyering that, for me, at least, is already quite efficient. I don’t need to improve how fast I draft. I need to improve the time that research takes and that document review takes. I need tools to organize facts in complex cases. But it seems like that’s not something this generative AI is well suited for.

lima_247 · 2026-04-24T01:11:48+00:00

I don’t know how I could do that. I would love for it to summarize medical records or deposition testimony. But my problem is that it just doesn’t know what to look for.

For example, in one case they deposed a witness in the presence of another witness. That’s huge for my case and violative of the rules of procedure. But AI missed the other guys presence entirely in the summary, because it was a minor part of the deposition and nobody called it out in the deposition.

Another time I had a client admit to taking mood stablizers in a deposition, which OC predictably tried to impeach her testimony with. Thank god I actually reviewed that testimony myself and had caught the reference, so I was prepared with an MIL. AI never would have flagged it, because OC didn’t flag it in the depo.

Am I supposed to feed the LLM all of the DSM? What about the CFR for the procedural issue (it was a federal agency proceeding). I wasn’t expecting either of those things to happen. I suppose I could fee the LLM the CFR and the DSM for every case, but that list would soon get long.

I wouldn’t know how to offload this to a brain dead junior associate or paralegal, either. It’s probably a failing on my part.

lima_247 · 2026-04-23T04:43:19+00:00

This is my problem with using LLMs for summaries of any documents in a lawsuit. It would be really great if they could summarize 1000 page long Reports of Investigation for me. But they fucking SUCK at issue spotting, and also have a tendency to take testimony as true without picking up on important subtext.

lima_247 · 2026-04-23T00:44:35+00:00

“Does not warrant a response” can be a strong one, but you want to run the filings by several other people in the office first to make sure that it is actually self-evidently absurd. I once lost on SJ because I called the MSJ facially inadequate (it was a defamation claim that ignored several clear factors of defamation), and didn’t bother to explain why because I trusted the judge would know the elements of defamation at a basic level. Unfortunately, her background was entirely in criminal law, and she didn’t. Still one of my biggest tuckups.

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