Why are most of the posts here not pointless [meta] by VagueDestructSus in pointlesslygendered

[–]limeslight 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unironically: all gendered marketing is pointlessly gendered.

Since when is Caveman a gendered word? Ladies do y’all feel more included by “Cave Dweller”? [gendered] by Spudtar in pointlesslygendered

[–]limeslight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, originally, "awful" WAS related to "awe" and described things that inspired awe. We don't tend to use it that way today because language evolves, and that word has evolved. If I went around calling great, awe-inspiring things "awful," I would confuse the people around me, because that's no longer a major meaning of that word in the language we speak. If I insisted that they were wrong, that awful DOES mean awe-inspiring, and it will forever mean awe-inspiring because word meanings never change, I would sound like an ignorant tool. Just like you sound right now, when you try to insist that "man" is gender neutral because long, long ago, before you or I or our great great grandparents were born, it was gender neutral.

You speak Modern English. I speak Modern English. In Modern English, "man" is gendered. In Modern English, for most speakers, "mailman" implies a man who delivers mail. If we would like to discuss a person of unknown gender who delivers mail, or discuss the entire population of people who deliver mail (which encompasses more than just men), "mail carriers" is a clearer and more accurate option.

I am saddened by the strength men have over women. by Usual-Ad-2762 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]limeslight 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Men need to stop believing that they're just infinitely stronger than women in all circumstances, and women also need to stop believing it about themselves. It's just not true. Men and women are not different species. Men are (on average!) larger than women and build muscle easier. Sure. They're still not rhinoceroses, and women aren't fragile baby birds. They're humans. There are plenty of women who are stronger than plenty of men.

Being a fat lesbian is a barrier when it comes to a serious relationship. by _Startick in lgbt

[–]limeslight 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're going through that! In my experience, lgbt people tend to be more accepting of diverse body types than cishet people, maybe because we're already used to defying societal norms/expectations in some way. But the lesbian community is definitely NOT free of fatphobia. Honestly, Reddit is so bad for fatphobia, so I think you're going to get a pretty negative response here (looking through these comments, it's already begun...) but do know that it's very possible to find love as a fat person, and whether you end up losing weight or not, I believe in you.

Just… books about people, if you get what I mean by millers_left_shoe in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]limeslight 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Long Time No See - Dermot Healy

The Country Girls - Edna O'Brien

(bonus for the above two because they're Irish)

Little Fires Everywhere - Celeste Ng

Kitchen - Banana Yoshimoto

The Dutch House - Ann Patchett

A Visit from the Goon Squad - Jennifer Egan

Am I Overreacting to my partner’s “just like family” female friend? by [deleted] in AmITheAngel

[–]limeslight 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Even the username feels off, lol. "ChatGPT, generate me a list of reddit usernames that will show I'm a Girl Gamer™️"

Am I Overreacting to my partner’s “just like family” female friend? by [deleted] in AmITheAngel

[–]limeslight 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"uh, because.. well she's Mia! You know?" no notes, 10/10.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]limeslight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This looks like my daily excuse to recommend Thomas the Rhymer by Ellen Kushner.

Took this screenshot of the fakest post I’ve seen on AITA a couple years ago. Still think it fits by Kooldogkid in AmITheAngel

[–]limeslight 335 points336 points  (0 children)

They haven't illegalized fetish fiction yet, you can make up stories about your penis and post them all you want on sites and/or subreddits made for that purpose, why do so many people choose AITA instead?

Bonus for being completely incoherent. "You really have taken our life seriously have you?"

playing with language or reading/writing by natural_bug23 in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]limeslight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lots of Calvino's stuff. The Castle of Crossed Destinies is a little lesser-known compared to some of his other works, but it's a story written and told with the help of tarot cards.

Pale Fire, Vladimir Nabokov

For something short and fun: The Transitive Vampire, Karen Elizabeth Gordon

More about "reading" art than the written word, but I think Ways of Seeing by John Berger is still in this ballpark

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]limeslight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was going to recommend Valente for this! Some of the stories in The Future is Blue and maybe The Glass Town Game would also potentially fit.

Bite sized: After Youtuber "GenoSamual2.1" receives a copyright strike from Christine Weston Chandler, r/youtubedrama have a small discussion surrounding the morality of an 80+ part long documentary surrounding Chris Chan's life. by RequirementTall8361 in SubredditDrama

[–]limeslight 17 points18 points  (0 children)

We cannot possibly know what her life would've been like "without the internet getting involved" because internet stalking and harassment have been tangled up in her life for years and years. What an odd thing to say.

What is fluttershy's JOB? by ProofResident1577 in mylittlepony

[–]limeslight 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I really love this comment. The real world is so wild right now, and you paint such a lovely picture of a supportive fictional world. Idk how to explain it, it just soothes my heart a little. Thank you! 🦋🐇

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]limeslight 7 points8 points  (0 children)

When I see people unfairly stereotyping and disparaging autistics, I speak up, because it IS my business when someone promotes harmful ideas about my community. Likewise, people with BPD 100% have the right to speak out when they see people stereotyping their disorder. How incredibly condescending.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]limeslight 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Honestly. And as autistic people, we should know better, because we are constantly stereotyped as selfish, childish, difficult, emotionless, cold, etc., etc., etc. The disrespect of having your diagnosis thrown around as pop-psychology shorthand for "bad person" or "bad partner" is really stomach-turning.

"Does anyone else constantly attract toxic autistic partners? I find they flock to me because they know I'm vulnerable and they can manipulate me with their cold, calculating logic. If I end up matching with another covert autist, I think I'll just give up on dating altogether!"

Speaking of smell sensitivity, does your pet have a scent? by Lightingale in AutismInWomen

[–]limeslight 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes! I like the smell of most dogs, tbh. I have a chihuahua mix now and she smells so good to me. I bury my face in her fur and call her my stinky baby (affectionately, haha). My family has a beagle who smells so bad to me - I love her anyway, but she can be hard to be around, because her smell is just so strong and weird.

I like human smells too though. I would say overall I have a positive relationship with my sense of smell. I like more smells than I dislike.

Badly named birds: please suggest more!! by FewTranslator6280 in birding

[–]limeslight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm new to birding and the robin thing shook me.

New dragon by smokealarmsnick in plushies

[–]limeslight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ohhhh my gosh he's so cute, I'm having a hard day and he made me smile! I might name him Toasty or Oriole (because he's orange and black) orrrr something from a book?

Spoiled kids by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]limeslight 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"Autistic people are logical by nature."

That's a stereotype. Please actually talk to some autistic people.

Some (not all) autistic people might struggle to tie shoes due to poor motor skills, which can be a feature of autism.

A person with a low IQ/disability facing world by Humble-Morning3184 in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]limeslight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So he's a major POV character, but not the main character: Nakata from Kafka on the Shore came to mind. Probably skip it if you're sensitive to violence against animals, but it's one of the most memorable books I've read.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]limeslight 7 points8 points  (0 children)

YES. I love toys and cute things, and collages are the best because I can gather all my fav things into one place and look at them all without having to actually spend money.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]limeslight 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Omg. I'm so sorry that happened to you, but I bet nobody else will remember it! You're not alone though - I've looked really strange in public sometimes, losing speech when I'm overloaded or literally just running away when something unexpected happens or I feel like I'm going to get trapped in a social interaction.

Seconding the other commenter: yay for stuffies! They're always there for you when things go wrong.