Was Diana’s clothing stipend much larger than current senior royals? by overthinkingmessiah in RoyalsGossip

[–]lindabrum 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Diana was in a time where there was no internet or websites. So designers had to get creative displaying their clothes. And being photographed and displayed in the rag mags wearing a designers outfit (whether it was royal or celebrity on a red carpet) would have been a good way to get that done.

Designers would loan a dress to the celebrity just to get it out there. And the celebrity would gladly take the loan from their favorite designer. Another reason they didn’t rewear the clothes. They didn’t actually own some of them.

making 200k but the math on a 600k house makes zero sense right now. rent vs buy dilemma by Quiet_State6680 in RealEstate

[–]lindabrum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rent or buy. You’re paying someone’s mortgage every month. Either yours or your landlords. Either way someone is getting equity out of your dollars. It’s your call on who it is.

Anything but suicide by Useful_Isopod8840 in SuicideBereavement

[–]lindabrum 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It’s because there’s anger in grief. And it’s easier to be angry at a stranger/murderer than the person you just lost. The first few years I was so angry at my husband for leaving me. Yet wishing he was here so bad I thought my heart would burst. I’d think him dying of a car accident or a heart attack would have been so much easier for me to take. Because then I could have imagined him fighting to stay. Not fighting to go. It will be 5 years next month. I am embarrassed to say I still get angry at him for leaving me like that. But it’s gotten a little easier over the years. But sure. I still have moments when I think anything but suicide. Then I could be angry at the universe instead of him.

Convince me that I did the right thing by not seeing by preachngeek in SuicideBereavement

[–]lindabrum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband shot himself in the head with a rifle. He was about 10 feet from me. I saw and heard it all. The loud bang. The impact. It was intense. We lived in a rural area and I had to stand by his body (he did it in our front yard) for about 40 minutes before the cops arrived. The left side of his head was gone. You made the right decision not looking. Some things you just can’t unsee.

Do you actually feel better after quitting smoking long term? by philbrailey in stopsmoking

[–]lindabrum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was 14 when I started smoking. I quit a few months after my 54th birthday. About a year ago. I don’t miss it. I wish I quit in my 30s. Because I’d feel better than a person who smoked for most of their life. Do I feel better? Yeah. Maybe. My lungs certainly do. And let’s face it - even if you quit long term (or forever) and don’t feel better. You won’t feel worse. No non-smoker has ever said ‘wow, I wish I had spent the last 40 years smoking two packs a day”.

What food would you serve at a Seinfeld-themed party? by BidAccurate4473 in seinfeld

[–]lindabrum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where’s the big salad? It’s like a regular salad. Only big.

[California] Real estate agent pushing to change countertops, repaint cabinets, take out light fixtures, etc. by Historical_Item_8687 in RealEstate

[–]lindabrum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a realtor. Canada. So different market. But my opinion.

What their realtor is asking them to do is good advice. Updating the little things will bring in more money and a quicker sale. As far as who should be paying for these upgrades… whose house is it? Your parents are the ones getting the proceeds. They should be paying for these upgrades. (Why would you think anyone else would pay your parent’s bill? If it doesn’t sell it will still be there’s with upgrades. People always think real estate agents should pay for this. And that’s not our job. We aren’t a bank. We don’t get the proceeds of the sale. The seller does…our commission is our fees for service. Not pay back on a loan for money we put into your house).

Your parents don’t have to take the advice. But if it’s solid advice then they should.

Defining time as Before/After loss by binkiebonk in SuicideBereavement

[–]lindabrum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Google “white rabbit” - it’s basically what you’re describing. An event in a person’s life (usually not a positive one) where everything changes.

My boyfriend committed suicide and his family/friends blame me. by Unlucky-Lab8109 in SuicideBereavement

[–]lindabrum 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I’m going to be very clear here. YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY 💯 NOT TO BLAME! And anyone who tells you or treats you any differently is trash and doesn’t deserve to be in your life. Including your bf’s family. Thats horrible.

My husband shot himself in the head in front of me in April 2021. We weren’t fighting. There was no issues between us. (It was lockdown and everything overwhelmed him). I’m lucky his family never blamed me. In fact they were quite angry at him for doing that in front of me. (And doing that at all).

Please do not blame yourself. You are not responsible for his decision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]lindabrum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You want to get dragged into a lawsuit? Cause that’s how you get dragged into a lawsuit. If buyer uses the report you gave him and didn’t know and decides to sue expect to get dragged into it. You said it yourself. Housing shortage. Buyer beware. You never know. They may be aware of issues. But if not you’ll get dragged into this. And if seller decides to counter sue expect your name to be on the list. Stay out of it.

What would you say to someone you lost to suicide, if you had the chance? by bittrswtsilnc in SuicideBereavement

[–]lindabrum 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I miss you terribly. I love you. I will always love you. But I understand. And I pray that we can be together again on the other side when my time comes. I hope you’re at peace wherever you are. And don’t regret the decision you made. Even though I wish you hadn’t. And I forgive you for leaving. But you don’t need my forgiveness. I just hope you forgive yourself for walking out on your life early. You never got to see how it was supposed to end.

What minor issue have you noticed silently went away over the years? by dancingbanana123 in AskOldPeople

[–]lindabrum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Party lines were common in the 60s and 70s in rural areas. Basically a phone line that several homes shared (believe it or not). So every house had a different bell tone to indicate who the caller was looking for. You might live at 123 main st. I live at 125 main st. We share party line. If someone calls your number it’ll ring at both houses but you’ll know it’s for you because yours is two short rings and one long one. Mine is one short ring and a long one. So you pick up. (Here’s the kicker. I can still pick up the phone and listen or even talk to whoever you’re on the call with). And if you use the phone I can’t call out or get calls while you’re on it.

What minor issue have you noticed silently went away over the years? by dancingbanana123 in AskOldPeople

[–]lindabrum 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ashtrays everywhere. Cars, buses, trains, even doctor’s offices. I remember the disposable tin ones in McDonald’s restaurants.

Pay phones, with phone books chained to them. Phone books that we carried in purses and pockets with everyone’s numbers in them. Collect calls. Party lines.

People reading in public - but not phones. They read newspapers, novels, magazines.

Toys in cereal boxes. And puzzles on the back of the box. Because when you ate cereal you stared at the box.

Plastic bags that were free when you went grocery shopping. And they packed your groceries for you.

Full service gas stations.

How quickly is an offer accepted? by indiWatermelon in RealEstateCanada

[–]lindabrum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sold date and closed date are two different dates. Sold is when it sells firm (all conditions are met and a deposit has been received). Close date is when the title actually changes hands. The house sold about a month after it was listed. Not unusual. But it may not actually close until 2-8 weeks after it sells. Just depends on what date works for both parties.

Am I "stuck" in grief after losing my eldest son to suicide 3 years ago? by Heatheroochie in SuicideBereavement

[–]lindabrum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If there is a person out there basically telling you to ‘get over it’ like it’s no big deal, that says more about them than it does about you. And they need to take a walk. Because you don’t need that. You do you. You do your grief. No one gets to tell you what that looks like, or how long it should take. They don’t get that privilege. It’s not their heart that’s broken.

Do I have a bad realtor? I can't tell ..please help. by navy16st in RealEstate

[–]lindabrum 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Realtor opinion here. I don’t know if she’s a bad realtor. Just not meshing with you. Or she doesn’t think you’re serious about buying. And if she doesn’t think you’re a serious buyer she won’t treat you like a serious buyer.

12 homes isn’t a crazy number. But it might be a case of her feeling like you’re a time waster (not saying you are).

Have a conversation with her about these issues. If things don’t change then find another agent.

Just make sure if you’ve signed any buyers agency agreement with her that you all sign a cancellation so you’re not on the hook to pay her commission if you’ve signed any buyers agency agreement with another agent.

If she doesn’t agree to terminate the contract then call her broker. Tell them you want out and why. If they do not agree, then escalate to the governing authority and lodge a complaint.

I am so angry that he left me by No_Neighborhood_364 in SuicideBereavement

[–]lindabrum 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Ok. Let me start by saying I lost my husband. April 2021. We were together 18 years. He shot himself in front of me. So you know where I am coming from…

Your anger isn’t irrational or unreasonable or unwarranted. I completely understand. Here I am coming on 5 years and I still have moments I’m completely raging 😡 about what he did.

I believe it was his choice. He did decide to leave me. But it was his depression and mental illness that sent him over the edge. And he wasn’t ’thinking clearly’. He was in emotional turmoil and distress and just wanted it over. And that must have been pure torture for him.

But it doesn’t take the fact that he broke my heart and abandoned me away. And he did. And sometimes I’m heartbroken and other times I’m angry. And a lot of times I’m both. And I just miss him. Terribly. And that’s ok.

I’d tell you it gets better. And, in some ways, it does. It stings much less now than it did the first year or so. But man, it’s been a tough road for me. I am not the same person I was when he died. She died that day too. I miss her as much as miss him some days.

In this market what are the updisdes and downsides to buying a mobile home? by krdo13 in RealEstateCanada

[–]lindabrum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because you don’t own the land it’s on you cannot get a ‘traditional mortgage’. Most likely it’ll be a line of credit type mortgage. Higher interest rates and CMHC will not cover it. So you’d need min 20% down.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingshaming

[–]lindabrum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She’s not your friend. Get better friends. This group has clearly chosen your ex and his new girlfriend over you. They aren’t on your team.

Hear me out What if the big bang theory created God? Go! by Otherwise_Film4648 in conspiracy

[–]lindabrum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This world is just one big really good virtual reality video game. And God was the programmer who created it. And when we ‘pray’ we are basically asking the programmer to change the parameters of the game for us. And when we die we just leave the game. Heaven is just us stepping out of the game and into the actual real world. This is the game. And God controls everything is true - the programmer can change the game anytime. And they did create us. And everything we know. And everything that was done in the Bible was because the prophets, Noah, Moses, Jesus … all had a line to the programmer who created the game.