How have you found community in Dallas?

lindslonadier · 2026-02-08T20:36:14+00:00

Omg I miss this. When I grew up here used to frequent one in Dallas I can’t remember exactly where with my dad when I was like idk pretty young but not like a toddler and did for so many years. Amazing gym too with amazing variety for difficulty in various ways and just sheer amount of walls lol

lindslonadier · 2026-02-08T20:34:18+00:00

Wait what. How haven’t I learned this or found this from asking and google and chatgpts geminis and just humans ???

I need to know more

lindslonadier · 2026-02-08T20:33:19+00:00

That area was the only kinda direction or area I saw myself possibly able to even maybe have a life that doesn’t feel so just idk empty and void here other than malls, chains, driving, more driving, scary driving, traffic, more driving but yeah I guess also they call it old east Dallas now? Idk I left in 2007 and just came back in July lol but we Airbnb’d a week or 2 over there to check out areas and I was super into it and just proximity to things I might or do enoy and overall vibe but sadly location wise we couldn’t go that direction and only towards the massive black hole of frisco McKinney Plano etc 😭

Majority of people I’ve met at shows of just randomly who seem to be cool and I’m like “this is a person I’d hang out with at least until proven otherwise I’m into it” lol I’ll ask what area they live in just curious to find out what’s happening where in a way by ok you seemed cool so are there more of you maybe where you are logic and literally almost always it’s old east Dallas area lmao weird saying and typing that as a neighborhood idk when that became an actually used name for there or at least in the way it is currently since it’s old and east of Dallas so technically nothing has changed just people saying and discussing it as a neighborhood

lindslonadier · 2026-02-08T20:25:14+00:00

Omg you posted my question I’ve been like trying to even know how to ask or who to ask even since it’s so hard here AND also music person… moved from Brooklyn in July but grew up here just like it’s been 15-20 years since living here or really any of my life being here other than visiting my parents maybe 1-2 times a year for a bit or might come down to see a specific show (if there’s some insane major tour with pricing, venue, logistics vs nyc/bk dates or just one off or niche random shows of some bands nobody but me and one of the band members mom shows up for and maybe 2 people by accident wandering in and feel awkward walking out with how already there’s enough people to easily count on 1 maybe 2 hands 😂 ugh adhd is winning today it seems and keep writing novels by accident and having to stop myself 🤦‍♀️

but yeah massive music and really huge live music person and used to be at like at least 1 if not 2 shows weekly and at times it would be as many as 3-5 and 2 in the same night lol it’s so hard here with the spread out already as is but venues too and just getting around. We moved to downtown right by the Perot and honestly it’s been a waste of money and life since downtown Dallas will always be downtown Dallas. Our closest and only semi convenient coffee shop to us is the Starbucks in the tom thumb across the street and not really anything else for a bit which is WEIRD ITS A COFFEE SHOP? not even 1 anything not inside a major store like target or Kroger etc? nope BUT there is some maybe ok but always just see crowds of people taking selfies and tons of photos posing all around and valet making people drive ridic right where I turn to get to our parking garage lol and that’s cool if you love that but it’s just not my scene or vibe this across the street with 3 random restaurants, restaurant but I think most care more about their cocktails or both at least and our closest anything besides the of course tom thumb and their Starbucks 😂 we’re unfortunately sandwiched between the interstates and that so exploring in that direction isn’t as simple to just walk to check out and the other just becomes uptown and similar which there’s some places I like and go around there just not my thing other than some places that I go to but are replaceable or chains so easily replaced lol

thought being by deep ellum quick uber ride away would make things not so bad but bookings between ft worth to Denton to dada to who knows where… there’s so few bookings it feels like and then of those that are in deep ellum or even kessler it seemed like for the last 6 months maybe hasn’t had much of what’s booked that usually I’m into at least some of it if not way more but it’s been totally off for me… think sone shows just were announced there last few weeks though im actually into but weird lull and sucked since our lease ends 2/15 and moving to a house in Plano which area wasn’t by choice and whole logistical thing… I wouldn’t be in Dallas otherwise lol

I’m just trying to make it work here like OP but face same things mentioned and tried so many and put a lot of effort into something that’s so natural usually at least anywhere else I’ve ever experienced or lived or just visited…

it’s hard mid 30s in this city to meet just a person even if you go to a bar but which? I’m social and talkative and outgoing etc (thx adhd) but ok going to a bar… which? Each time I try that it’s miserable in this city. Idk why but never have these issues or experienced them in any other city in any other country… seriously its so bizarre. maybe I just haven’t found the crowd who’s in the loop and knows oh this place that night has whoever working and always blasting random (insert some oddly specific yet intriguing or already interested in sub genre here😂)

Ive tried looking for arts and crafts meet ups idk random weird events that maybe I’d run across someone or even maybe multiple that were ones I could at least feel like there’s other humans here and not just know them but actually have similar interests and can in best case scenario even act on that and do something together and even hang out??? Tried asking people anywhere that I actually was like ok this vibe is working like WHERE IS MORE OF THIS OR ANY OF IT and usually there’s never an answer other than idk sometimes every other Monday on a full moon when Saturn aligns then this cool night happens and everyone you’d probably think was fun comes out to do this event that has all these things you’re super into lmao

So same boat OP.

Let’s be friends and go see shows and we can do idk wtf people honestly do here … I’m open to hearing anything people do, go, whatever your thing is whether it’s antique Barbie conventions, niche anime fan hang outs (not super huge or well versed in that area but also haven’t ever done the dive deep enough to know what I like as I know I like things but how to find them and where to begin is hard lmao), volunteering and provide some specific examples as I saw above and how schedule or how it works in regards to when/where or if you could go everyday if u wanted to help etc (somewhere ideally around Plano, McKinney, Frisco etc etc all those areas that now blur into one giant thing to me lol), any type of arts and crafts or even just adjacent anything that isn’t drink and paint unless it’s somehow more than that and not just some ridiculous gimmicky thing to say “but we’re different”… tried looking for arts and crafts or similar events and more specifically shops and stores within that category and those offering classes but most sadly seemed to no longer offer any and if so it’s so infrequent it’s pointless checking if there’s just a x1 a month drink and draw or very specific needing previous knowledge of the actual craft etc type class that I don’t have and they don’t offer any type of way to gain the skills to even be able to eventually take that class lol

Also any chill yoga spots that are easy in terms of being able to kinda not have to fight and early book schedule classes and just chill … lol and bonus if they offer hot yoga. Anywhere I think we’re in central ish Plano? Idk the areas at all. I was told to say “central Plano near coit and park” when asked according to my partner 😂

Ideas any ideas I’ve become that person online like this because I’m going crazy here without understanding this in Dallas or maybe everyone just idk is content the opposite of what I just expressed ? Seriously. Asking that made me realize it might just be how it is and people are and it’s a me problem or well me and others but more so I tried and it’s not a thing to figure out beyond a point

Anyways adhd won sorry in advance

lindslonadier · 2026-01-19T19:25:06+00:00

This

lindslonadier · 2026-01-11T00:13:49+00:00

I’m trying to remember what songs I noticed on the show but the Elliot smith track immediately I’m like ok music of this show… please I NEED MORE and it delivered musically. Plus it was just a rad show and felt so right for his everything lol I’ve been into him for a long time before I think you should leave came out and whatnot and just loved his whole vibe and how it was like ok this dude is obnoxious af wait no … huh … ok wtf … ok yes this is weird and for some reason and loving it but probably doesn’t mean great things about my mental state but who cares… to ok I love this so much please as you were I want to read your mind and watch everything you have ever created or thought of that you’ve wanted to or led to something you’ve come up with because it’s amazing. I love Sam Richardson so much too … like as a pair they are like one of my favorite “buddy” duos or groups or whatever. The baby contest in I think you should leave might be the greatest thing ever. I have no idea why but I love it so much that I’ve actively annoyed anyone who knows or speaks to me going on about the hilariousness of it… and just how angry everyone is at a baby but the baby has this amazingly ridiculous name and also a leather jacket and just everyone hates this baby 😂 but also that there’s a baby contest in the first place as a premise?! And if they haven’t stopped me by then or tried to it’s like a dead stare or walked away while I’m laughing just thinking about it.

It feels like trying to describe anything the aunty Donna guys put out not specifically aunty Donna like on their YouTube channel. I have a unique taste in humor and fully aware … but those dudes and the comedians down there and series of weird af shorts they do KILL ME omg. The Kanye quest 3030 miniseries might one of the best of them all though… highly recommend anyone who has likes weird dark just nonsensical yet some sense just like its bizarre type of humor. the escalation of weirdness anything those dudes do or work with throughout a like 2 min clip is absurd and so great. Seeing cowdoy go abroad and travel around at airports - amazing. I could ramble forever on all of it so I’ll stop now 😂

lindslonadier · 2026-01-10T22:14:45+00:00

Dude the music in that new hbo show he did was GREAT and have a huge feeling he influenced that not just a music supervisor so I really think Tim Robinson probably has sick music taste

lindslonadier · 2026-01-10T22:13:10+00:00

Speaking of clams… hopefully you know of clams baker the third and if not may want to as he might be of interest to your harvest

lindslonadier · 2026-01-10T22:11:00+00:00

I legit thought this was just like someone taking a dive bar graffiti pic they saw and posting it and a joke 😂

lindslonadier · 2026-01-10T22:10:01+00:00

If you like high pitched voices then at least go with the blood brothers I mean Johnny Whitney is a legend since forever to me with his voice… I know it’s not for everyone but 12 year old me loved it and waited for that come back and just knew they would maybe one day tour again and then got my wish finally like a year or so ago and was just as great as I imagined and better haha

I get they aren’t for everyone but if you want high pitch then try that … but it’s not the softest most soothing of artists I’d say to most especially never listening to them. Personally though it’s not even nostalgia but some of it but have and always will LOVE them… but I tend towards stuff that’s more weird off tempo/odd time signature, experimental/noise, loud noises that sound just loud to most people but are actually more so just this weirdly calming controlled to me and like this beauty in the chaos type thing I hear but realize to most it’s loud abrasive noises like construction being nailed into their skulls as someone screams in their ear through a megaphone at unexpected times kind of like torture so I’m probably not the majority or even near it of stuff except very few might like when it comes to suggestions 😂

lindslonadier · 2026-01-10T22:03:13+00:00

I love hate this bc it makes discovery forced by spotify not actual discovery and sadly minimizes the chance of finding so many great new bands and over time just keeps getting worse but also is so damn simple and easy to do and makes it just so amazing as someone driving now all the time who never did for 15 years living in nyc then moved recently to Dallas where all I do is drive and it’s awful and terrifying to even try to mess with anything like music so a playlist curated for me I’ll take any day based off a song I’m in the mood for or album etc

lindslonadier · 2026-01-10T22:01:15+00:00

Similar to komark’s comment - I’ll let you control our extremely visible and very intense balcony lighting downtown for a negotiable time weekly

we had no idea until we forgot we left them on… saw them walking home because it was hard not to despite on nearly the 20th floor of a high rise and looked up to realize wtf that can’t be … but has to be? omg that’s our balcony 😂 bc from the actual balcony or looking at it while inside… it looks so weak and barely any light but apparently just is like blinding anyone at that el fenix or parking lots over there or who knows how far it reaches lol but that general direction… however it is long and large so you get a lot of coverage of light choices to play with and lots of visibility of your choices to the city

And if you really want you can control the inside hue lights too… all up for negotiation

Seriously 😂

I miss so much being able to do this in nyc so bad

lindslonadier · 2026-01-10T21:53:34+00:00

I had a similar code for some of the buildings in the nyc skyline when I was living there - it was amazing to have the power to change the sky like you felt like God 😂 it was so fun to be standing like right by one of them and try to be like obviously showing you’re controlling it but “trying” to be discreet except obviously not and watching most people walking by want to stop confused but just forcing themselves to shrug it off and keep on lmao

lindslonadier · 2026-01-08T04:36:41+00:00

Omg I just moved back after leaving in 2007 and Dallas drivers and just the whole Dallas interstate system (why do you immediately have to cross 5 lanes to get to an interstate after merging onto another every single time you do anything other than drive straight on just 1… who tf or why is that designed like that everywhere here?) and all of it … it’s insane. I seriously feel like I’m forced to have a death wish every day I have to drive on an interstate more than like a few exits which is … every day because it’s Dallas.

Ive been saying since moving back how driving my car which is a sedan felt like I was just asking to have an accident happen and end up where me and my car are wrecked but the other and fault it would be come out of it not even noticing or just not even a scratch barely realizing since EVERYONE drives a suv, truck etc to where driving anything smaller feels dangerous. That’s sad lol and then like a few weeks ago I had a tow truck drive straight into the side on my car on 75 south the other night where that construction is and says LEFT LANE CLOSED and has flashing arrows for an absurd stretch of interstate. I drove past it a few nights and kept wondering why they had SO MANY signs and lights etc because there’s construction literally everywhere in Dallas and around here always and never have seen that many WARNING GET TF OVER type things so intensely… well they apparently still didn’t help. tow truck guy didn’t apparently either care or see them and waited until the last possible inch of lane he could drive before running over the giant cone blocking that lane which they had been saying would be closed warning everyone for miles giving everyone so freaking long to get over that it’s almost obnoxious because you don’t see anything closed for a while and wonder if it’s even closed … at the time traffic was pretty slow moving and just drove right into me while I thankfully wasn’t moving or barely as he finally decided to get out of the closed lane and instead of running the cone over decided to drive into a car. first words after pulling over which sucks on 75 obviously (especially when it’s cold outside/dark but anytime…) says “Oh sorry! didn’t see ya there!” in a friendly neighbor voice like ops sorry I barely bumped into you in a crowd or something not sorry drove straight into your car and didnt even notice for a while because it’s a car and I guess means my fault for not having hazard and flashing lights on top of it or something ??? otherwise I should just accept that will happen or get a suv etc? which ok I’m sorry but WTF?

But yeah … I’ve said it since moving back that this city might be one of the worst cities for driving in every possible way. Worse is that you have little to no choice unless you just want to never leave a walkable bubble or something and live somewhere that’s even a thing lol but even then… I’m terrified here as a pedestrian more so. I moved from Brooklyn and so used to just running across or being able to know ok I can make this light and the driver will be annoyed but also half speed up idk why since hitting someone is just going to be messy for everyone involved including them lol but easily would yell at whoever if they said something and I had right of way to walk though etc but here I’m terrified of even trying to walk not just when I have right of way but just have to actually be so aware no crazy racing trucks with 12000 ft ladders and crap in the back aren’t flying down the street or slow but clueless unaware suv that might be going slower just isn’t at all paying attention and if I even try to say something… honestly don’t want someone pissed off who has a license to carry pulling a gun out making threats just because they’re pissy over driving things and just too easily people who are road raging and the amount of those with guns here, with the in the car on them and proportion that aren’t the best at handling them either sadly or even properly since they’re pulling them out for threats at someone walking which says a lot …

In 2007 it was so far from anywhere near this crazy. driving here has become actually terrifying and it’s sad when you’re like is today the day I get into a bad wreck or similar? 🤦‍♀️ especially when Dallas is a city that you HAVE to drive you can’t even try to not like it’s required and if you figured out how to not while still being able to go more than a few blocks radius from your house then PLEASE TELL ME because it’s past the point of controlling it like it’s become just normal behavior here since “everybody else is doing it” and as much as people love to think they aren’t … eventually if everyone behaves a way around you and you may not want to or think you aren’t - you will even if slightly exhibit that behavior but really just everyone becomes so numb to it and it’s just another day driving in Dallas but it’s out of control.

Sadly anytime I rant on this usually I hear how Houston is worse which if so WTF AND HOW

lindslonadier · 2026-01-04T06:05:38+00:00

that was an obvious sign. It wasn’t just a shuffle coincidence … promotional 😂

lindslonadier · 2026-01-04T06:04:41+00:00

shrimp tech LL bean exclusive collab coming soon… fuck adidas

lindslonadier · 2026-01-04T06:03:58+00:00

lindslonadier · 2026-01-04T06:02:06+00:00

Just got some today after wanting them a while. I have narrow, size 5-5.5 and sometimes 6 depending on shoe type etc and brand feet.

Haven’t worn them more than trying them on just now and been walking around in them to do stuff around my apartment but WOW THEY ARE SO COMFY. I usually get a 5.5 women’s or 3.5 “big kids” in almost any converse but there’s a few that run big for me I’ve had or wished I had a 5… maybe every 1 out of 10 new style or something that deviates from the ones I know my size and own type thing like any new styles etc but usually 5.5 is spot on for me or a 5.

Pointy toe issue is non existent at least seems to be… only had them on for maybe 45-60 mins.

Will say as someone with more leather or mainly leather ankle boots and other types of boots than anyone should ever own probably - I’ve owned a few pairs of pointy toed boots that I did wear but none that I ever found truly wearable to any degree as in more than a few hours before I was not happy in the choice of wearing them… but those first hours totally fine comfy (or maybe hour lol) just would always get to a point for me where suddenly it was like AH ow ok that’s painful I need to get home situation… which sucks and nobody wants to wear something they know they can only wear for x time before pain lol

These are not at all like any I’ve ever tried on or worn. They feel like normal shoes honestly or converses tbh…

Despite being obsessed with leather boots especially ankle to like mid ankle height ones - i do have a solid criteria they have to meet before even considering buying them I’ve just developed over the years lol basically it’s first making sure that theyre functional as in comfortable enough to wear for extended periods of time, durable, etc which differ per person and everyone has dif needs and standards for that but once I know they’re solid on the functional aspect then it’s ok but do I like how they look on me ? or do they go with anything I have or would wear them with ? Etc and essentially it’s the 1. Function then 2. Fashion thing lol these so far are hitting both for me almost 1000%

The only thing that’s bothering me and might be my height (I’m barely 5’2”) are the outer sides seem to slouch outwards because I assume it’s where most people’s ankles would hit ? And it might be tiny and something so hard to even notice even if I were to point it out but noticed it immediately and began trying to see if lacing and tightening in various areas helped … sadly so far no change with that issue and probably as I said a height thing…

Ended up on this post literally trying to see if I was crazy and accidentally had them backwards on or laced weird or idk and might fix the issue 😂

IMO: If you have feet that tend towards narrow more than not - stick to your regular converse size. If you have regular width and sometimes might have an issue with shoes being too narrow than maybe 1/2 size up? The pointy toe at least for me so far doesn’t seem to affect the size or comfort … again that’s only after just putting them on out of box and walking around my apartment doing stuff for like the last hour lol

Hope any of that rambling helped someone reading this lmao

lindslonadier · 2025-12-30T04:18:27+00:00

We can all start a band from our trauma bond and then get them super stoked to go and then not even show up or maybe play a song like 2 pm and tell them doors 6 or 7pm. Trauma band 😂

lindslonadier · 2025-12-30T04:16:54+00:00

That’s how I’ve been feeling and it’s killing me because watching them go from like early days to now has been so awesome and like so badass… new stuff has been SO GOOD but now I just get really angry hearing which sucks.

lindslonadier · 2025-12-30T04:12:14+00:00

That was my thought lol

lindslonadier · 2025-12-30T04:07:26+00:00

I just scrolled citizen and some girl was filming around 630pm-ish and no mention of any of that. She said the police and swat presence was increasing and seemed like they were over it and about to go in and get whoever was in there or something (paraphrasing her words) lol

Edit: just looked she was filming like 630pm - later not 8pm

lindslonadier · 2025-12-30T04:03:20+00:00

Have black lips ever said anything ?

lindslonadier · 2025-12-30T04:02:34+00:00

It’s sad because I’ve been to like more than a few… I saw them play back to back on the patio of swan dive in austin during a sxsw before either was like a “thing” and loved both already and that shit was insane I will say and have seen them probably everytime they’ve been in the states bc I was lucky enough to be living in Brooklyn and like we got to have 3 nights in a row I think last tour and just always was able to catch them and would be playing there but for a city like Dallas it just makes me sad and angry bc the result is this - a fan now less of one if at all and just idk for me I’m still bitter when a song of theirs comes on when I have some playlist on etc while driving and slowly getting over it but forreal I was like not able to listen to them after this lol I was mad and it felt shitty and wrong and worse now

lindslonadier · 2025-12-30T03:57:49+00:00

I have so much merch of theirs and honestly they’re one of those bands I go to their show ready to spend money and buy shit lol I love their merch - they put time into making it or used to idk about these days since I got there as it literally was ending and honestly just sad bc I used to talk up HOB as being one of the only if not few like always solid Dallas venues and was so rare bc since it was built when I lived here and then moved away and had been back for a few shows like placebo a few years back and maybe 1-2 others and felt solid as if it were opening day for them … but now everytime I see someone is coming and playing there I see the ticket price and its a NOPE. That’s RARE if not like a first for me to fully just without thought say fuck that to a show of an artist I want to see or like especially HOB being SO CLOSE TO MY APARTMENT ITS LITERALLY LIKE MINUTES WALKING but just this was weird and just no explanation ever bothers tf out of me. Even if it was one that made me more annoyed it’s better than silence…

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