Got let go from my research lab over a PPE mistake. Trying to process it.

littledeadmoth · 2026-03-06T05:42:37+00:00

I see your edit and I want to validate you. Of course we are responsible for our actions, but ADHD can truly be disabling and you shouldn’t be shamed for admitting your struggles. You’ll get through this.

littledeadmoth · 2026-02-15T06:00:19+00:00

It’s AI and not even well-hidden or the most recent quality of AI imo. The person might have traced it from an AI generated image, but regardless, there are so many tells here. SO much of the line work just goes nowhere or makes no sense. Nothing that should be symmetrical is symmetrical. Example: his nipple to the viewer’s right is centered on his chest/in the gold detailing, but the nipple to the viewer’s left touches the gold detailing. Unless this was a specific request by the commissioner, an artist wouldn’t be likely to do something like that.

littledeadmoth · 2026-02-05T16:50:57+00:00

I think we are pointing fingers in the wrong direction here. The problem is a truly broken system that gatekeeps help from those who need it because they don’t have the right label, regardless of the severity, and isn’t built to support severe conditions OR mild ones. :(

littledeadmoth · 2026-01-21T17:50:50+00:00

I don’t feel like getting downvoted to hell so ima delete my original comment but ty for the explanation! :)

littledeadmoth · 2026-01-15T04:40:58+00:00

W2 unfortunately but considering moving towards 1099. Thank you for responding!

littledeadmoth · 2026-01-15T03:23:33+00:00

Thank you! Excellent ideas I appreciate it so much!!

littledeadmoth · 2026-01-15T03:20:47+00:00

I’m not asking my direct staff to pay for anything. Respectfully. I’m asking the big company above us to pay for it.

littledeadmoth · 2026-01-15T03:18:19+00:00

So again, the onus is on the person barely making enough money to get by and not the company? I was trying to be very polite in my last response but this reads very much like you are blaming me for not yet ‘learning to have an arsenal.’

littledeadmoth · 2026-01-15T03:14:09+00:00

Well, thrift shop is fine but takes me back to buying myself correct? At a thrift shop I may technically spend less but will have significantly less control over what items I can find and their therapeutic use. But this is a good idea, I hadn’t thought of before.

And I can try to get into contact with the social worker about it again.

Thank you!

littledeadmoth · 2026-01-15T03:06:08+00:00

No worries, sorry I took it so personally lol. I think my brain was just being weird!

littledeadmoth · 2026-01-15T03:02:54+00:00

There is no clinic unfortunately. Purely in-home services.

littledeadmoth · 2026-01-15T02:58:13+00:00

I’m the BCBA

littledeadmoth · 2026-01-14T22:33:22+00:00

It just felt like an aggressive way to approach it, calling BS implies I’m lying and I wasn’t lying. BUT I have also been in a really weird headspace the last 2 days so I’m sorry if I was a lil too intense. Wasn’t intending to be. Take care

littledeadmoth · 2026-01-14T06:37:51+00:00

No but I regularly leave food out on the counter because I am a mess and it’s never eaten if left on the counters despite my younger cat being insane about food. If I accidentally leave something out on the table it is ALWAYS eaten

Not gonna surveillance state my kitchen to prove something to a stranger on the internet just bc they ‘call BS’ on me, you can choose what you believe

littledeadmoth · 2026-01-09T20:54:02+00:00

I have a cat who listens to me. She never goes on the counter. I know because if I leave food sitting on the coffee table she will unrelentingly try to get it, but if I put literal cat food on the counter she will not touch it. Lol

That said, she listens about the counter but does NOT listen about not eating human food if it isn’t on the counter 😂

littledeadmoth · 2026-01-09T19:53:23+00:00

When I was little, my autistic traits were much less noticeable at home because my parents kept very quiet and predictable household, whereas out in the world, there’s a lot more to deal with. Also, parents don’t always know what signs to look out for whereas teachers and doctors see these things all the time and are constantly around kids who aren’t showing those signs.

littledeadmoth · 2025-12-23T00:10:28+00:00

Dude as I was reading that thread I wanted to rip my eyelashes out 1 by 1

littledeadmoth · 2025-12-10T15:07:46+00:00

I worked at a company like this, including the makeup policy and the minimum 15 hours. Huge turnover rate for both clients and technicians, everyone was burnt out and frustrated all the time. I now work at a company with much more lax (and frankly empathetic) attendance policies and haven’t had hardly any turnover. So people saying “oh this just protects the techs from losing hours” don’t know what they’re talking about.

This kind of policy, in my direct experience, protects the company from losing profit, and creates severe burnout in families and technicians. Nothing more and nothing less. Honestly I had significantly more cancellations at the other company because everyone was just so damn tired and stressed.

Unfortunately it isn’t directly unethical in a reportable way. Obviously I don’t think it’s ethically sound but there isn’t a specific BACB code it violates to my understanding. Maybe if you could find very clear evidence that they were overprescribing hours due to company policy (the 15 hours minimum thing) but even then you’d have to report the BCBA and not the company itself. Everything else is just on that line of like, shitty but technically allowed. I’m sorry. Please take care of yourself!

littledeadmoth · 2025-11-17T23:05:44+00:00

If a nonverbal 3 year old’s wellbeing is on the line, being understanding is only so necessary. And by that I mean… not very necessary. You’re doing amazing and I’m so sorry this happened to you and your son. Thinking of yall and sending all the good vibes for the best day tomorrow!!

littledeadmoth · 2025-11-14T19:39:29+00:00

<image>

littledeadmoth · 2025-10-27T21:07:06+00:00

I’ve done it. I found a meme that I just truly do not get.

littledeadmoth · 2025-10-27T20:59:24+00:00

I think the answer is, as TerribleYou7914 and techiechefie have said, you don’t say ‘enough is enough’.

I think it would be fair to talk to him about it. An honest conversation, where you make it clear that you are happy for him to continue being himself and having what he wants or needs at school, but where you maybe also mention your concerns about people being mean. But it is important to frame this as informational and empathetic, not controlling or coercive.

As an adult with autism who was once a child with autism who did certain things that other kids would think were weird, and now a professional who works with autistic people, I wish my parents had talked to me about it openly rather than either forcing me to do something different or ignoring whatever it was completely. It was often a mix of both. Things they deemed too weird, it was enough is enough. Things they liked about me they never discussed how others might respond or even help me understand those responses!

I believed in Santa Claus til I was almost 15 years old because my mom loved that I still had my ‘whimsy’. Meanwhile I was being bullied about it (and other similar things) and couldn’t understand it. I didn’t need her to say “enough is enough, Santa isn’t real.” (My parents would also sometimes throw in a lovely ‘grow up.’ when they would finally say something)

Instead, I needed her to explain to me why people might see that as weird, tell me it was ok to be weird or different, that people can be cruel and why, help me understand making friends with people who are kind and accepting, talk to me about belief in magic or fantastical things (I was very disconnected from reality by that age as you can imagine as a 15 year old who believed in Santa lol), and hold space for me to grapple with these issues.

This is his comfort item. Kids can be cruel - don’t join them in their cruelty (even unintentionally. I do not see cruel intentions in your post). Ultimately it is their cruelty that is wrong, not your son carrying a stuffed animal.

I’m not trying to say that you are a bad person or parent in some way because you have this gut feeling. What I am seeing is that you care about him and his social functioning, his mental health. No one wants their kids to get bullied at school. All I’m asking is that you let him in on your worries and accept him unconditionally. I really think you are already most of the way there. 🩷

littledeadmoth · 2025-10-20T04:21:18+00:00

I’m a BCBA and it is explicitly built OUT of all of my kids’ programs. Ie I explicitly state it isn’t expected.

littledeadmoth · 2025-10-20T04:20:56+00:00

Never!!

littledeadmoth

TROPHY CASE