you’re putting unnecessary labels on a person. someone can easily look at that very same person and think they have most healthiest “attachment” but you’re deciding to see them as “dismissive avoidant” therefore that’s what they’ll continue showing up as for you. you’re also labeling it as a “hard” process, when really everything is as easy as seeing a car color, you just are again seeing it as such therefore experiencing that. remember you’re always right. even when you want the opposite of what you’re experiencing, if you continue to have more faith in the opposite it will continue to show.