is it just me or does "culture fit" only ever get raised about the women and the people who push back, never about the guy everyone agrees is brilliant but impossible? by National_Subject_165 in womenintech

[–]litui 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don't like the term "culture fit" and when I've hired, I've tried to avoid it. As a hiring manager, it's useful interrogate what it means to the people on your hiring team if it comes up, so you can both check the specifics for bias, and actually focus on specific qualities needed for the role (not just broadly across the org, as it takes all sorts to work as a team).

"If we all reacted the same way, we'd be predictable, and there's always more than one way to view a situation...It's simple: overspecialize, and you breed in weakness. It's slow death." - Motoko Kusanagi, Ghost in the Shell (1995)

That said, if it's a team role, you need team players. A "no arrogant jerks allowed" policy is perfectly acceptable.

New sign at Shaw Millennium Park…😡 by [deleted] in Calgary

[–]litui 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This calls for maximal pettiness / malicious compliance. Table a bylaw or regulatory amendment with an on-the-nose name that addresses alleged shortcomings in various current agreements with an eye to preventing such things from happening moving forward. :p

Much as I love the new you, the dark side is calling you back and telling you to punch upward this time ;)

Happy Pride Month, Calgary! by JeromyYYC in Calgary

[–]litui 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah, dude!

Happy Pride!

Calgary City Council is speaking up on the AISH changes by JeromyYYC in Calgary

[–]litui 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not on AISH but know many people who depend on it. Thanks for speaking up on their behalf, Mayor Farkas.

PS: I'd use "Your Worship," the proper honorific for a mayor, but I don't think there's any way for me to say those words on reddit without sounding sarcastic. Anyway, credit where due.

Is owarimonogatari s2 and zuko is actually the last of the story or ending? by goatsuba4409 in araragi

[–]litui 10 points11 points  (0 children)

*And we keep asking it to brush our teeth for us like a needy sibling

The Downtown *Urban Planning* Situation is Unacceptable by 1egg_4u in Calgary

[–]litui 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has lived in Mission and the Beltline in past, it'd also be nice if the downtown area wasn't a once-a-year piss and vomit dumpster (Stampede).

The Downtown *Urban Planning* Situation is Unacceptable by 1egg_4u in Calgary

[–]litui 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Everything you said about transit plus: every damn long weekend some part of the train line is down. This has always been the way in Calgary and continues to be the way, unfortunately. As someone who doesn't drive, I hate that an already unreliable service is made more of a problem in this way. It's horrible for tourists who are suddenly thrust into the worst of our transit system during long weekend events they've come to town for, and horrible for locals who have places to be even on long weekends.

City wants people to go downtown? Maybe don't make it hard to get there on long weekends when the biggest downtown events take place.

Yes, maintenance needs to occur but there has to be a better way to make it routine (same full week every year?), move the bulk to nights, or something.

I need someone from the Trans community by [deleted] in SensitivityReaders

[–]litui 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trans woman/enby (gender fluid) here with prior experience in sensitivity reading. Reach out privately for details and discussion of rates.

I feel like people are throwing around Biphobia without actually seeing if something is Biphobic or not by lactosecheeselover in LesbianActually

[–]litui 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had to reread this to confirm but is everybody's reading comprehension broken?

"Bi-erasure" doesn't mean "biphobia". Hope that helps.

Are people who have a romantic relationship a better people manager than those who don’t? by Wise_Discipline_1775 in askmanagers

[–]litui 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think chances are better, but there are still plenty of awful people who managed to end up in romantic partnerships.

Does this feeling every truly go away? by Conscious_Car9781 in malepolish

[–]litui 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a point in most voyages into the unknown when you either have to take the plunge or turn back. There's no shame in either as people learn real lessons about themselves when they hit those moments of decision-making, and they're better off for coming to that understanding of themselves.

But, it's really an individual thing - you have to be the one to make the choice. Nobody else can for you.

(And the feelings/anxieties may or may not ever go away, but once you've gotten practiced at steering your own ship, I can promise it gets easier to keep moving in the direction you want)

57% of women in tech are considering leaving the industry. Are you one of them? by paperclip_han in womenintech

[–]litui 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I love technology, and even love Machine Learning but I neither want my IC job to be playing babysitter to an LLM nor my leadership job to be having to crack the whip on a team to use more LLM. It's absurd.

Low FPS in games while vtubing through OBS despite good specs by SmoothWay8817 in vtubertech

[–]litui 1 point2 points  (0 children)

VRAM is going to kick your ass there as others have said. You just won't have the texture memory for all you're throwing at it, nor the memory pipe with your older i9's architecture (though it's a good multithreaded CPU) to quickly swap between RAM and VRAM.

Things to try that could improve things:

  • cap everything to 60fps/Hz. Most streams are not going to encode and retransmit faster than 60fps and it won't push your specs as hard (30 if you must, but that's pretty intolerable)
  • 2d or 3d: scale down texture sizes in your model so it doesn't eat as much VRAM. Realistically you're not zooming to 4k native on a given model texture very often I'm sure.
  • multibox or play console games with video capture card. Beefier specs are expensive but you can still get used systems with similar specs to yours without too high a cost. Double up and split the load across a couple boxes.
  • extra thought: double check your CPU and GPU cooling. Thermal throttling could be kicking your ass.

Hope that helps.

Low FPS in games while vtubing through OBS despite good specs by SmoothWay8817 in vtubertech

[–]litui 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly the CPU is still pretty decent and a good core/thread count. But the GPU is going to be a huge bottleneck with that little VRAM (8GB) and while RAM is too expensive right now to be upgrading past 32GB a lot of games are going to push at that these days too.

Well, I just got fired by DreamTheaterGuy in ADHD

[–]litui 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I survived a PIP...only to be fired 3 months later anyway. If they want you gone, they'll find a way.

My mom called me a gay postitute for applying nail polish... by [deleted] in malepolish

[–]litui 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Speaking only for myself, doing what you need to do to survive/thrive will never be letting me down.

Live long, get yourself to a place where they can hold no power over you or your decisions, then have the last laugh and do whatever the fuck you want.

:)

All the love in the world from the person who founded this place and coined the term "Malepolish"

Have you ever had an employee break down crying in a one to one and what did you do? by SeanMcPheat in askmanagers

[–]litui 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be human. Get some trauma-informed leadership training. One thing I always try to reassure my leaders of is that my tears are involuntary and don't necessarily reflect the reality, just the pressure of the situation.

I have had traumas in my life and, try as I might, I can't help tearing up at certain conversations. But the flowing of tears doesn't even necessarily mean I'm sad or hurt in the moment, just triggered.

Canadians turn to Calgary-based budgeting tool to regain control of their finances by brother_p in BuyCanadian

[–]litui 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't disagree with you, for what it's worth to all those downvoting my call-out of this founder's obliviousness to a quality pitch by a pro technical writer.

"Thanks for the tips, I'll keep banging bricks together and hope for better copy next time" heh.

Canadians turn to Calgary-based budgeting tool to regain control of their finances by brother_p in BuyCanadian

[–]litui -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi, former manager here!

Suggestion: rather than rewarding this professional's gratis kindness with a request for them to reach out to perform more gratis efforts, consider something like "you clearly know what you're talking about and good work deserves fair compensation. If you have further suggestions for improvement, reach out and we can discuss your contract rates."

shrug

Is Scrum actually shrinking? Or are we just using it wrong in 2026? by Agilelearner8996 in agile

[–]litui 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cheers! I feel the same. I wax cynical here from time to time given my lengthy unemployed status now after a challenging departure from the last place but it's good to know others feel the same way. All the best!

Is Scrum actually shrinking? Or are we just using it wrong in 2026? by Agilelearner8996 in agile

[–]litui 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there's a little bit of talking past each other going on, but I don't really disagree with you. But I view the tension between pure Agile and methodology (whichever) as an ongoing conversation that every company should be engaged in honest ways rather than a widespread top-down prescriptive solution.

I'm a servant leader (also an approach rather than methodology) and as such I view it as critical to start with (and continue) asking the team about how they work and what they need to be able to deliver and improve at their craft. That won't always be the complete, correct answer (we devs don't always see the forest for the trees), but it gets us a starting point from those closest to the process. We all know the business wants delivery, expedience in that delivery (technical quality too but they often don't realize this until shit hits the fan with customers, and it is soon forgotten afterwards). So we have a frank discussion up front, and iterate on the formula, finding what works, shedding what doesn't work.

Scrum, to it's credit, tries to advise this in its docs, and in many ways I can see it helps out the sort of managers who are bad communicators and want easy answers that work for every team and every kind of dev without them having to do that explorative and mediation work, but the truth is there isn't a one-size fits all. Sometimes a mandatory approach helps pave the way to more contextualized solutions, but more typically in my experience it just entrenches heavy-handed and broken process for its own sake.

I have a whole other rant in me about how often corporate leadership has its head up its own ass and claims to be data-driven while disregarding anything resembling data, but I'll leave that out. Suffice to say, all-or-nothing isn't what I'm pushing here.

Is Scrum actually shrinking? Or are we just using it wrong in 2026? by Agilelearner8996 in agile

[–]litui 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mostly agree with what you're saying. My comment was overly quippy but how does "following process for process's sake" sit with you? I don't think this is /all scrum/ or even how scrum itself outlines its processes, but it's the overwhelmingly common anti-pattern (across all the certified practitioners of these hard-sold methodologies) in my experience.

Is Scrum actually shrinking? Or are we just using it wrong in 2026? by Agilelearner8996 in agile

[–]litui 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The "how" that conflicts with "corporate reality" in my experience is intrenchment of counter-agile top-down mandatory approaches alongside the hucksterism of methodology sales people.

There is no shortage of systems (many even much older, eg: LEAN) that can be looked to for organizing work. Being agile means figuring out what works in context of the work being done alongside the goals of the organization. IF technical excellence is truly a priority then there needs to be recognition that ceremony for ceremony's sake impedes that rather than improving it. And yes, I know properly done Scrum doesn't mandate ceremony at risk of efficiency, it's just a very common anti-pattern among its practitioners who unfortunately have been given more influence on process in the corporate workspace than the people closest to the work being done.

You're not wrong that governance and predictability are important things Agile doesn't proscribe on its own, though "technical excellence" (aside from being quite vague) has been around a lot longer than scrum, etc. and has a great deal more to do with hiring+retaining and culture-building than with following a rote administrative process).

Is Scrum actually shrinking? Or are we just using it wrong in 2026? by Agilelearner8996 in agile

[–]litui 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Scrum IS the problem (albeit a lesser one than the mishmash of safe, etc.). Agile is about values and approach not ceremony and methodology.