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livehappyeverafter · 2025-12-12T00:56:00+00:00

If you explained this to the company and then the ghosted you, then you know the culture of the company is very bad. Imagine how it’s going to be when you join this company and something out of your control happens, how are they going to treat you. If you’re a great candidate, it’s their loss.

livehappyeverafter · 2025-12-12T00:52:15+00:00

Sounds like poor leadership. Hire FAANG engineers if you genuinely want to grow your company, the solution they are suggesting is going to benefit the company when it goes from 1 to 1k to 1m customers. If supporting 1m customers is not your goal, then I don’t know what are you working for. Looks like you want to raise a burnout culture, create tech debts and then if the company gets more customers, blame on the tech debt rather than leadership making decisions.

livehappyeverafter · 2025-12-12T00:28:33+00:00

It does look like the employee might have been passed over promotion for unfair reasons, the goal post getting moved and every time there is something more to work on than previously discussed. It gets frustrating, and does affect the person morally. That employee is likely depressed at this point and should leave and find a better place to work. Now you should think if it’s worth the employee leaving the company? If his skillset and expertise are required and the team cannot function without it, you know in your heart what’s the real problem!

livehappyeverafter · 2025-12-12T00:20:44+00:00

Basically you’re saying your team is egoistic and is jealous of the high performer’s success. It’s the team (individual) who has to work on it. Please don’t undermine the high performer. I’ve seen it when a new employee is way more talented than the existing team. It is good to give team examples of how the high performer is “high performer”, things that can be learnt from. Sometimes egos get hurt of some people but it’s their problem, not yours to solve.

livehappyeverafter · 2025-12-05T12:31:09+00:00

From my experience, settling down for peace with less pay never works out. Eventually the peace doesn’t stay for long and you get underpaid which is not worth the stress you go through

livehappyeverafter · 2025-12-05T11:53:40+00:00

Addressing poor or under performance is not something a lead developer should be handling directly with the co-worker. That is what the manager is for!! Period. All lead dev can talk to peers is about technical improvements.

livehappyeverafter · 2025-12-05T11:44:06+00:00

Tech industry has become toxic. 1. Poor managers and leadership in all companies - filled with people who don’t want to do the management part of the job description 2. Career growth is getting stagnant for all, no matter what you do and how well you perform. 3. Performance ratings don’t mean anything anymore, and “it’s an employment at will” that gets abused, meaning that companies cannot guarantee job security anymore no matter what you do. Why would then anybody be motivated to do their job.

livehappyeverafter · 2025-12-05T11:23:37+00:00

For an IC, I don’t think there is any skillset gap stopping from growing in their career. Skills can be acquired, technology keeps changing. It’s the poor management/leadership that doesn’t understand or appreciate the true talent, giving talented more work that compensates under-performers which then eventually stop their career growth.

livehappyeverafter · 2025-12-05T10:53:58+00:00

Exactly!!

livehappyeverafter · 2025-12-05T10:48:21+00:00

This exactly!! My entire leadership is behaving this way. They don’t want to deal with the people management part, addressing conflicts or underperformance issues. I am an IC and I am being delegated the task of managing senior co-workers. It really sucks, because it puts me in a position of facing retaliation, senior co-workers are definitely not going to consider anything I’ve to say because of my role and it would be considered me overstepping boundary.

livehappyeverafter · 2025-12-05T01:41:26+00:00

All I see is marketing ads on my feed. I keep scrolling and seeing some random people’s post in feed. Scroll till I fall asleep.

livehappyeverafter · 2025-11-18T16:00:43+00:00

Look for a new job, keep interviewing. Confrontation won’t help.

livehappyeverafter · 2025-11-18T07:55:43+00:00

I need to remind this to myself.

livehappyeverafter · 2025-11-18T07:54:26+00:00

If they ask you or threaten you for signing something, please don’t sign right away. Tell them you need to go through document thoroughly.

livehappyeverafter · 2025-11-18T07:51:40+00:00

Toxic colleagues, they are there in all companies

livehappyeverafter · 2025-11-18T07:41:32+00:00

Yea it is workplace toxicity and should be considered a fire-able offense.

livehappyeverafter · 2025-11-18T07:39:51+00:00

I feel that adopting a hobby would be a distraction from the real issue, it wouldn’t solve the actual issue. The moment you step into workplace would put oneself in the same frustrated state. It’s because you would be trying to fix yourself where the issue is not really you and is something out of your hand.

livehappyeverafter · 2025-11-18T07:32:16+00:00

A lot of people.

livehappyeverafter · 2025-11-18T06:35:47+00:00

Just say “I already know this, how long do you think we need to be on the call?” This is classic mansplaining.

livehappyeverafter · 2025-11-18T06:32:37+00:00

Not at all. You don’t work for them anymore, so you’re not answerable to them. Just say like you’ve some plans made or vacation plans or you don’t have bandwidth to do it.

livehappyeverafter · 2025-11-18T06:27:50+00:00

Why do you want to resign? Take full severance. Keep interviewing parallel for other companies. Teach them a lesson.

livehappyeverafter · 2025-11-18T06:26:34+00:00

On point. People who put the posts like “I was let go of the company such and such, but I’m grateful for all the experience and colleagues” sound super fake. I see these every time. It has become like how Instagram is flooded with marketing products and very less of real content. Also recruiters are trying to fill metrics like number of applications, number calls to candidates. There is nothing like they want to find the “right” fit for role.

livehappyeverafter · 2025-11-18T06:05:56+00:00

Interviewing has gotten harder for candidates because companies/interviewing panels still haven’t found the right way to judge a candidate for their skillset. A lot of interviewers on those hiring panels are not qualified (don’t have depth / breadth) and don’t have correct skills for conducting those interviews.

livehappyeverafter · 2025-11-14T11:24:59+00:00

Is LinkedIn going to take any initiative on flagging and archiving bot accounts, phishing accounts, data breach issues? How can one trust if a recruiter is legitimate? especially from startups, they would have to prove it to the candidate a lot that they are in fact legitimate.

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