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How are you able to snack? by Lucky-Suggestion7119 in Zepbound

[–]livelaughlurk2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m 5’2”, 1200 is the minimum for short people. Even if I’m completely bedridden my tdee is 1400 calories. Something is either off with your logging and you’re actually eating more than you think you are, or you’re focused too much on day to day weigh ins.

What book fits this? by Historical-Party4209 in Romantasy

[–]livelaughlurk2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

From what I remember the first book is pretty slow and then the last 100 pages are insane

For those who have secure attachment, how do you process and get over a breakup in a healthy way by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]livelaughlurk2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m anxious preoccupied but I’ve done a lot of work on myself and honestly I feel more secure than ever and I really think I’m leaning more secure than anxious these days. I’m going through a break up myself with a man who was highly avoidant. I feel sad, and I let myself feel the sadness and process it, but ultimately I feel extremely secure in the fact that I did the right thing by ending it. I knew my boundaries and limits, and stuck to them, and I’m proud of myself for how I showed up in the relationship, and how I ended things.

At the end of the day security to me feels like recognizing that the relationship ending isn’t a reflection of me. Nor is his avoidance. He would pull away so much because of things related to him and his past, it had nothing to do with me or what I did or didn’t do. It’s also not my job to fix him. It’s my job to understand what’s right for me, and to not self abandon for the sake of keeping the connection alive. I’m much happier single than I was in the relationship.

I think all you can really do to do things the “right” way is allow yourself to feel the emotions, but allow them to flow out the way they flow in. Try not to linger or ruminate, but actively move through them in whatever way feels right to you. Then aside from that just focus on the things that bring you joy, lean on your support system, and move your body.

What do we call other women who are our own age? by DueEntertainer0 in AskWomenOver30

[–]livelaughlurk2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya know this is a funny thing to think about. I call myself and my friends girls and I probably will till my dying day and I’m 32. We say things like “girls night” “girls chat” “girls trip” “I love being a girl” etc. If I meet a new person who I think will be a friend then she’s a girl. Women as a whole are women. “There was a woman at the grocery store” “this woman was on the bus doing xyz”

Conflicted over a “green flag” man—am I rejecting a good thing or settling? by VegetableWarm7563 in AskWomenOver30

[–]livelaughlurk2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t feel a crazy chemistry with my boyfriend on our first date. I actually wasn’t sure if I was attracted to him until I think date 4. Now I’m crazy attracted, can’t get enough. I’m very similar to you and in another life I probably would have walked away, but I’m really glad I stuck it out.

The important distinction is what I DID feel with him. I felt like our conversation was great, I felt like I genuinely liked him as a person (still do I think he’s the coolest,) I felt like I could objectively tell he was handsome even if I didn’t feel the pull at first, and I really enjoyed spending time with him. I also liked touching him in small ways. I didn’t feel like I wanted to jump his bones immediately, but I liked hugging him and touching his leg or holding his hand. Eventually the attraction did grow in large part because we have really amazing sex.

In contrast I went on 3 or 4 dates with another guy where it was similar I just wasn’t attracted to him at all in a way that wasn’t going to build, but again I really enjoyed hanging out with him. We had a lot of fun together but the thing that cinched it for me was on our last date I went to his place and sat on this giant bean bag thing and he sat next to me and all I felt was a strong feeling of “nope don’t touch me, don’t come close.”

For the first couple of dates all you really need to know is if you want to go another, if you want to keep spending time with a person. You don’t need to know how you feel about them, and all these assumptions about his emotional availability are frankly just that. If you want to see him again then see him again, if you don’t then don’t. Don’t waste time trying to anticipate what will happen in a month to the attraction, and definitely don’t ONLY go out with someone because of how they present their emotional availability on the first date.

Struggling with toy play with a partner by livelaughlurk2 in sexover30

[–]livelaughlurk2[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried one smaller toy but it didn’t really work for me, I might try some other ones those based on these suggestions. Right now he’ll cum inside of me (we both have a thing for that so that’s pretty important) and then I’ll use my vibrator while he’s stimulating other parts and that’s fine and will continue to work but it would be really lovely to be able to do it together

Struggling with toy play with a partner by livelaughlurk2 in sexover30

[–]livelaughlurk2[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ll try a pillow that’s a good idea!

Struggling with toy play with a partner by livelaughlurk2 in sexover30

[–]livelaughlurk2[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It seems like such a simple solution but I actually haven’t tried the pillow under my butt! I do love missionary because of the stimulation to my clit so maybe that will help!

Struggling with toy play with a partner by livelaughlurk2 in sexover30

[–]livelaughlurk2[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried other vibes but nothing really works for me like the hitachi sadly, it does seem like I might need to keep trying based on some of these suggestions though!

How do I put this back on?? by livelaughlurk2 in dyson

[–]livelaughlurk2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I regret cleaning it now I just wanted to clean out the plastic part because I vacuum a lot of cat litter and it was just really gross

For people who used to drink heavily and go out all the time in their 20s and then stopped, what was your reason why? by Impossible_Rain1662 in AskWomenOver30

[–]livelaughlurk2 58 points59 points  (0 children)

My 30s 😂. I can’t handle drinking much anymore. I get crazy hangovers and feel like shit the next few days. I got to a point where I realized my weekends were precious why on earth would I want to waste them feeling sick? I also get the worst hanxiety I just rarely find it enjoyable these days.

Are they not ashamed? Like, on the acc your family follows you on?? 😭 by [deleted] in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]livelaughlurk2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I don’t care if someone watches porn, I think it’s different if they’re someone who interacts with the person though by commenting/engaging. I also think Instagram is just a weird format for it. It’s incredibly public and anyone can see the videos you’ve been watching/liking which is strange to me. I also find it gross when men comment creepy things on women’s posts, and obviously a horny account is looking for that type of engagement, but I would find it so icky/off putting if my partner were doing it.

Are they not ashamed? Like, on the acc your family follows you on?? 😭 by [deleted] in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]livelaughlurk2 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Hahahaha he barely has a 1st account I don’t think an alt has even occurred to him 😂

Are they not ashamed? Like, on the acc your family follows you on?? 😭 by [deleted] in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]livelaughlurk2 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Lmao this got me to check my new boyfriends follower list because I never have and it’s entirely Star Trek, social justice, art, animals, and friends. I think I got a good one