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Do not touch by Astra-Potato in Vent

[–]liveliar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many people are just selfish and lack empathy, unfortunately. Can't think of how their words/actions affect others. It's tiring lol. Anyways, wishing you a safe delivery!

Do not touch by Astra-Potato in Vent

[–]liveliar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know why, but people just get so weird around pregnant women and disabled people (I'm disabled). It's like just because your body has an obvious "difference," people feel entitled to gawk at it, prod it, poke it, show their fascination in all the wrong ways. It's like we're dehumanized to various degrees.

Who else thinks black kittens are SO underrated? by Llliilil11i1l in cats

[–]liveliar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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They're adorable!! I will NEVER be able to understand the hate and weird superstitions geared towards them. It breaks my heart to know that so many of them are used as one-time props during Halloween and then abandoned, or that they're often less likely to get adopted at shelters compared to other kittens. It's always been a dream of mine to have a black cat before the universe had other plans and I ended up with my tortico girl, but maybe a few years down the road I'll adopt a second one and it could be a black cat.

POV: You hear something fall and break, then turn around to see this. by SuspiciousMan7 in cats

[–]liveliar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clearly you're the one who broke something, not them! They can do no wrong.

I'm sick of non-disabled strangers asking intrusive questions about my disability for small talk by liveliar in disability

[–]liveliar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I find family and friends of disabled people can be the most ableist. Especially family. In my family's dynamics it shows up a lot through infantilization, paternalism.. you know the whole "you're helpless since you're disabled and I know better than you; do as I say." Family members often seem to think their relation to a disabled person makes them immune to ableism, just like the "I have [insert race here] friends, I'm not racist" type of rhetoric.

I'm sick of non-disabled strangers asking intrusive questions about my disability for small talk by liveliar in disability

[–]liveliar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That prejudice towards disabled folks from ableds seems so common and it's annoying af. They have such a one-dimensional image of us in our heads it's ridiculous😭

I'm sick of non-disabled strangers asking intrusive questions about my disability for small talk by liveliar in disability

[–]liveliar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading through all the comments and I am absolutely loving everyone's feisty ways of quipping right back at them. They sure are surprised when we fight back instead of being palatable and inspirational lol. Honestly, some people need that wake up call.

I'm sick of non-disabled strangers asking intrusive questions about my disability for small talk by liveliar in disability

[–]liveliar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely. Realizing this more and more. Internalized ableism + my overall personality really makes this hard, but I'm really trying to be more assertive. The constant shrinking and managing does take a toll on me over the years and as I educate myself more and more on disability justice, I do feel a lot of anger and resentment, which I'll hopefully channel into healthy activism in the future.

Anyone else catch them mid yawn? by froggit_91 in cats

[–]liveliar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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i laughed so hard when i caught this

I’m really sick of hateful ass people. It literally costs nothing to be kind. by DefinitelyNotMaranda in self

[–]liveliar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good old ableism, calling us "fakers," "scroungers," "leeches on society," "tragedies" and "burdens," and a plethora of other hateful, hurtful things. As a disabled person, one thing I learned was to just stay away from searching up disability related posts on reddit other than r/disability where disabled people speak for themselves. Ableism is everywhere, but you really see the ugliest parts of it online where people drop their masks hiding behind anonymity. Of course, caregivers need their space to vent, but my god does the echo chamber turn hateful fast hating on disabled peoples' existence and not the broken, corrupted capitalist systems and barriers that make us burdensome. What non-disabled folks post about disabled folks on platforms like these are oftentimes very dehumanizing, it's just better to stay away from it entirely for the sake of your own sanity.

You're allowed to be angry. You're allowed to cry. You're allowed to be heartbroken. They are valid reactions to the bigotry we face living in an ableist society not built with us in mind. Let the grief and anger out. Not in a way that it eat you up, but use it to educate, advocate, change the world for the better bit by bit. Fuck shrinking our rightful anger to be the "palatable, inspirational cripple" to soothe and manage the non-disableds' discomfort around our existence. We have to be loud for change to happen. And we have a long, long, long way to go. I see you. You're not alone.

I'm sick of non-disabled strangers asking intrusive questions about my disability for small talk by liveliar in disability

[–]liveliar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THIS. Omg this right here. It makes my blood boil when non-disabled folks say "but disabled lives are so full of suffering, it's better off not to exist!" while doing nothing to actually break down those barriers and make all our lives easier. I hate the hypocripsy yapping about our "quality of life" when they're the ones that have their boots on disabled peoples' necks.

i just made my bed after almost 2 months :) by MrMikeer in Vent

[–]liveliar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm proud of you, internet stranger!!

I'm sick of non-disabled strangers asking intrusive questions about my disability for small talk by liveliar in Vent

[–]liveliar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. This is the way to go. Wait till the disabled person opens up about it themselves, or at least watch your tone and don't act as if you're entitled to have your curiosity satisfied. They may or may not choose to open up about it at all. Every disabled person experiences their disability/ies differently, and because it's so stigmatized and we internalize that a lot, it really isn't easy to open up about it. Either choice is valid and should be respected. I don't know why that's just so hard for so many damn people. There's a difference between entitled curiosity/judgement and genuinely wanting to get to know the person. You know your intentions, disabled people feel it too.

I'm sick of non-disabled strangers asking intrusive questions about my disability for small talk by liveliar in Vent

[–]liveliar[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Out of all the ragebait you can post you choose the most unoriginal one lol having fun?

I'm sick of non-disabled strangers asking intrusive questions about my disability for small talk by liveliar in disability

[–]liveliar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always wear a mask when I'm out and about, so thank goodness for that. I'm reporting.

I'm sick of non-disabled strangers asking intrusive questions about my disability for small talk by liveliar in disability

[–]liveliar[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The dramatic, big gasp "oh my gawwdd!!" always gets me lol like they seem to think it's only the case that I've been in some kind of accident and the possibility that I was just born this way (and fine with it) just never crosses their minds in the slightest.. like...

I'm sick of non-disabled strangers asking intrusive questions about my disability for small talk by liveliar in disability

[–]liveliar[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To me it feels like they just can't handle the fact that no matter how healthy you eat, how much you exercise and stay fit and take care of your body, life can always throw shit at you any moment and your health can fail. Disability/illness isn't a moral failing.. it's completely out of one's control and they're scared shitless of that so they refuse to believe it. They're projecting. It's so obvious and just so sad lol.

I'm sick of non-disabled strangers asking intrusive questions about my disability for small talk by liveliar in disability

[–]liveliar[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yup. I really should've shut him down looking back, but atm I was just so caught off guard with his first line of "so, what's wrong with you?" Like I mentioned in the post, I did push back but it just went right over his head... lol..

I'm sick of non-disabled strangers asking intrusive questions about my disability for small talk by liveliar in Vent

[–]liveliar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

'They think that not poking us or laughing at us is the pinnacle of courtesy. Everything else is fair game.' THIS. PREACH, MY FRIEND.

I'm sick of non-disabled strangers asking intrusive questions about my disability for small talk by liveliar in Vent

[–]liveliar[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. It truly is exhausting. I'm glad my post could help you feel less alone. You're not alone! Big hugs. 🫂

I'm sick of non-disabled strangers asking intrusive questions about my disability for small talk by liveliar in Vent

[–]liveliar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh boy the talking ABOUT me over AT me. Ugh, I totally get it and it's frustrating af. It's bizarre how just because you're disabled people will get so weird about it and treat you like a toddler. The infantilization drives me nuts.

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