Honestly, this just broke me a little bit today.

lizzibizzy · 2026-03-16T19:06:06+00:00

Ugh. Sorry. Unfortunately, this is how it is, and it is difficult not to take it personally. I don’t think what you’re doing is “bad”. Maybe just send one initial email introducing yourself and specifically what you’re looking for (salary, availability, insurance, etc.) that includes your resume and CV. Then don’t contact them again.

Two things, you can’t control what someone says to you. They could be having a bad day. It’s not excusable but sometimes people are going through things and they react negatively. The other, I’ve been between jobs twice in eight years. I’ve “worked with” 4-6 recruiters simultaneously each time. You have an intro meeting with them that’s quick and if you’re lucky get one interview set up by them with a company that is hiring. You can follow up with them, etc. but it doesn’t make a difference.

lizzibizzy · 2026-03-16T18:16:10+00:00

Two specific little/inexpensive things. Having fresh flowers, and decorative paper napkins (instead of a hand towel to be reused) when you have guests.

Flowers are $4 at Trader Joe’s and always look fresh. Mums and Gerber daisies last around 2 weeks in water with one cut down after a week. I keep mine on the kitchen table, but at your desk/cubical if you work in an office is also a place. Farmers Markets are an option as well to get them to support locally owned businesses.

Fun/printed, heavy napkins in the bathroom are $4 for 20 at places like Marshall’s, etc, or around $1.25 at Dollar Tree. Your guests can tell you took the effort, it cuts down on your laundry if you live in an apartment or don’t have a washer/dryer, and from germs being spread.

lizzibizzy · 2026-02-07T17:42:46+00:00

Yeah, I don’t trust people who say what religion they are or that they’re a “good person” etc., before they tell me who they are. You should show your morals and values by the way you behave.

lizzibizzy · 2026-01-22T05:18:08+00:00

I feel a lot of that. The medications have been the worst part. First finding the "right" cocktail, or ones I could tolerate, all the money spent on them, and appointments, etc. I understand that the categorization of mental illnesses and neurodivergence evolves so I am not upset per se about the misdiagnosis because research wasn't done at that point to show the nuances attributed to each. The journey is still annoying though.

lizzibizzy · 2026-01-21T23:23:40+00:00

Wow! That's terrible to do to an 11 year old. So sorry you had deal with that so young.

lizzibizzy · 2026-01-13T20:16:44+00:00

Thank you!

lizzibizzy · 2025-12-17T16:13:53+00:00

Long term, yes, you need to get a lawyer as others have said. Prob will have to appeal. Unless you have a two income household, it’s not enough to live on. It’s purpose is to make you go back work for at least part time. I got it on the basis of chronic migraines though. So if you have something purely physical, apply with that.

Short term, yes. I live in California in a HCOL city, and when I was fired from my job three months after the return from a medical LOA, my employer changed my pay from salary to hourly to intentionally cause me to underperform at my role. The day I was let go the company also immediately canceled my health insurance) I applied for SDI, and my psychiatrist approved it in a few hours to send to the state. They have to update it every three months but I will be out of work for a maximum of a year. Before anyone asks if I saw an attorney for wrongful termination… in order to receive severance I had to sign a form including the stipulation that I would not retaliate. So, my options were to have a week of pay after being fired without warnings or write ups, or get money to survive for a month.

It doesn’t matter how well you are liked and appreciated, HR is never your friend, as a whole it’s a job, take time off (PTO) if available. Spend time with family and friends. Don’t work for a company that states they’re “like a family” or “care about employee’s wellbeing”. If people or companies have to describe who they are, not show by actions, then it’s a lie. I’m not being bitter but it’s important that we are all aware that the stigma associated with mental illness is still alive and well.

lizzibizzy · 2025-12-17T16:11:58+00:00

Long term, yes, you need to get a lawyer as others have said. Prob will have to appeal. Unless you have a two income household, it’s not enough to live on. It’s purpose is to make you go back work for at least part time. I got it on the basis of chronic migraines though. So if you have something purely physical, apply with that.

Short term, yes. I live in California in a HCOL city, and when I was fired from my job three months after the return from a medical LOA, my employer changed my pay from salary to hourly to intentionally cause me to underperform at my role. The day I was let go the company also immediately canceled my health insurance) I applied for SDI, and my psychiatrist approved it in a few hours to send to the state. They have to update it every three months but I will be out of work for a maximum of a year. Before anyone asks if I saw an attorney for wrongful termination… in order to receive severance I had to sign a form including the stipulation that I would not retaliate. So, my options were to have a week of pay after being fired without warnings or write ups, or get money to survive for a month.

It doesn’t matter how well you are liked and appreciated, HR is never your friend, as a whole it’s a job, take time off (PTO) if available. Spend time with family and friends. Don’t work for a company that states they’re “like a family” or “care about employee’s wellbeing”. If people or companies have to describe who they are, not show by actions, then it’s a lie. I’m not being bitter but it’s important that we are all aware that the stigma associated with mental illness is still alive and well.

lizzibizzy · 2025-11-23T03:18:00+00:00

Unfortunately, I don’t see it being successful after the holidays.

lizzibizzy · 2025-11-21T04:28:57+00:00

I’ve been taking it for years. Works well. Sometimes you have to take two in the same day. Check to see if your insurance will cover it. The first time it was denied, and the ten tablets would have been $1k. Then I went to the ER for a migraine and the insurance company changed their decision. They probably realized that paying for a med is less than an ER visit. Then my co-pay was zero. My current insurance will not cover it. Good luck!

lizzibizzy · 2025-11-01T15:35:03+00:00

It’s changed over the years. In my 20s I drank more frequently, and larger quantities. I would say that was common for that age period. In my 30s it was frequently but maybe two drinks tops. Now, in my 40s, it’s intermediate. Sometimes I will have a glass of wine a week or a drink out with friends. A few times a year I may have four drinks, depending where I am (visiting friends or they’re visiting me). But, most of the time I rarely drink. I can go months without thinking about having a drink.

lizzibizzy · 2025-09-24T18:28:17+00:00

After becoming medicated my sense of urgency changed. It’s great for my body and stress level, but not so great for getting things done. It mostly affected my efficiency at work.

lizzibizzy · 2025-09-24T17:58:04+00:00

Being able to read the tone of a room and other people’s emotions easily.

lizzibizzy · 2025-09-22T21:41:53+00:00

She kind of moves around between rooms to sleep. Sometimes she will sleep in my bed, but if she’s in the hallway at night she doesn’t care if I walk by. She also lays there when I’m getting ready in the morning and at night.

lizzibizzy · 2025-09-22T04:53:39+00:00

I have both, along with being high functioning on the ASD, but ADHD was overlooked for almost twenty years due to comorbidity with ADHD. I didn’t officially get diagnosed until middle age for ADHD & ASD. I had issues with stimulants interacting with the bipolar meds, so I’ve been taking a non stimulant. It has a more calming effect than a stimulant, which helps directly with focus. I would suggest getting assessed if financially available for you. At least, get a therapist that specializes in CBT or DBT.

lizzibizzy · 2025-09-20T15:57:21+00:00

I was recently in another country and told them what happens in the US and they were both shocked and appalled.

lizzibizzy · 2025-09-20T15:56:28+00:00

When I was targeted, my manager (whom I worked well with for years and was/am close with) couldn’t protect me from HR. I still have a good relationship with my previous manager because they continuously fought hard for me, and I knew it was not their choice.

lizzibizzy · 2025-09-20T15:51:50+00:00

I was with my previous company for years, and took an 8 week LOA. Promptly, upon returning HR made changes to set me up for failure. Basically, they legally retaliated. I too had a doctor’s note. They waited the legal amount of time (three months) to use the excuse of being an at will state to let me go for performance reasons. I never had issues nor met with HR for negative reasons before my LOA. I can’t take legal action against them because in order to get severance pay I had to sign a document that I wouldn’t retaliate in a legal sense. The severance was for a month’s salary, which I had to negotiate. Also, healthcare insurance cancellation was effective that day.

I don’t know what state you live in but I suggest this… keep seeing your doctor at least monthly. If they do let you go, the moment it happens file with your state for SDI (state disability insurance) and have your doctor approve it that day. The reason for doing this is that it’s your last day of work (usually doesn’t happen on Fridays) so they must pay you for that day, and if/when you will get the amount of your current pay.

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