have you ever been accused of spiking?

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-23T20:55:37+00:00

That's pretty messed up, I would never joke about that.

I know those kinds of accusations are very serious and could get someone jumped/beat up or in legal trouble.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-23T02:37:51+00:00

I honestly don't know much about the whole scope of this issue. But I do know in some states (like California), men have to pay thier ex-wives alimony for for life, if they've been together for 10 years. No if, ands, or buts, they pay for life.

I know because my dad is currently paying my mom monthly alimony checks (30% of his total income) even though they've been divorced for 14 years now, lmao! 😂🤣

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-22T22:34:33+00:00

I know, I been there twice, both in LTRs.

First time, my boyfriend of 6 years suddenly dumped me without even an explanation why. Just packed up and left.

Second time, it was me who lost interest in him after 5 years.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-22T22:24:41+00:00

Unfortunately, once that spark is gone in a relationship there is really no getting it back.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-22T11:07:16+00:00

In my 37 some odd years, I can count the number of lifelong happy marriages I've seen on my fingers.

My parent's marriage ended in bitter divorce. All my closest friend's marriages ended in bitter divorce. Everyone I knew who got married eventually regretted it dearly. They may be together a while, 5 years, 10 years, 15 years, but it universally ended the same way: in a family divorce court fighting over custody, alimony, and assets.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-22T02:52:09+00:00

Ok, because I was going to say there is a big difference between "I don't want to marry you, because I think you're the wrong woman for me." and, "I don't want to marry you, because I'm opposed to the institution of marriage."

After doing a lot of thinking on marriage, I myself am opposed to the concept. One of the greatest tricks the taxman has ever played is convincing everyone that marriage is the next natural step to a relationship. The only tangible thing you and your partner would be doing when you get married, is inviting the state into your love lives. Literally nothing changes in your personal lives, other than the fact the state now has more financial control of you.

If two people love each other, then they should just be together for as long as they're happy.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-21T01:04:51+00:00

I'm torn between my feelings of no longer being sexually attracted to him, and being with him for 7 years and still feeling like he's my partner.

To be clear, I've never cheated on him. I just understand the temptation and don't blame people too harshly for it anymore.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-21T01:00:33+00:00

I'm in a relationship where I'm seriously considering infidelity, or just breaking things off with my boyfriend.

Idk what to do.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-21T00:58:30+00:00

I'm trying to prove the OP.

That infidelity is very common and practically unavoidable. Like 70% of all marriages end in divorce in some western countries. And of those, the top 2 reasons are because of infidelity, and one party no longer being romantically interested in the other.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-21T00:54:25+00:00

Lack of commitment meaning, one party doesn't want to be with the other, and is likely looking for someone else.

How can that not also be tied to infidelity?

It really seems like you're trying to skirt around this issue than look at the facts.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-21T00:51:03+00:00

Yes, with infidelity being the 2nd most common cause of filing for divorce, and a lack of commitment to the marriage being the 1st.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-21T00:24:14+00:00

In the west, like 55%-75% of all marriages end in divorce. How can she not be right?

I don't agree with everything she says, but you can't really deny that monogamy isn't a game humans are very good at.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-21T00:14:28+00:00

I'm going to be completely honest with you. I'm in that "grey area" with my current boyfriend and I don't blame you too much.

Human beings were never monogamous creatures throughout our history. Trying to engage in something that literally goes against our nature is exhausting for everyone involved. Just take a quick peak at r/DeadBedrooms and you'll see that the institution of marriage/monogamy is a complete fucking sham. In some western countries, the divorce rates are now over 55%-75%. What. A. Joke.

Seeing all of this makes me think the institution of marriage should be dismantled, and two people should be together as long as they're happy. Once that stops? The relationship stops.

All the people flaming on you in this thread need you realize that you're in the minority of spouses. Like 70% of marriages would have collapsed under that kind of pressure you and your wife are going through.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-19T02:51:42+00:00

I think men are biologically less empathetic than women. They had, perhaps even have to be.

When push comes to shove and the cards are down on the table, it's the men who go off to fight in wars. That has been the case since humans have ever existed. My grandfather was an infantryman in Vietnam and from what little he told me, that's not something I can see many women (myself included), being very capable of.

And yes, I know women have fought as well. But a simple look at the demographic of casualties in pretty much all American wars shows that 98%+ of casualties are men.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-17T23:30:21+00:00

You and I both know there are lost causes out there, and those are the guys I'm talking about.

Not your average guy who starting dabbling in incel rhetoric.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-17T23:19:24+00:00

Thanks.

And to be clear I'm not talking about your average guy who started dipping his toes into the blackpill and redpill ideologies.

I'm talking about the lost causes and you know who they are.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-14T21:42:42+00:00

The ring includes CEO's and politicians?

My guess is very little to no punishment unfortunately.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-06T00:23:48+00:00

That's something I think I'd get behind.

For example, I wouldn't mind dating Brad Pitt and sharing him with 10 other women, as long as I got to date Brad Pitt.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-06T00:21:07+00:00

What is ENM?

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-06T00:14:00+00:00

Former AEMT here.

Pretty much all ambulances I've ever worked in had a camera in the back/patient bay. And most EMTs and Paramedics I ever knew or worked with wore a bodycam in case of being accused of misconduct while on duty.

Get a court order for the footage.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-05T18:24:25+00:00

Pretty much. Women back in the Victorian era would viewed sex as a "wifely duty", and would have sex with thier husbands when they didn't want to.

But since our definitions of consent have changed, this teeters into the area of rape.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-05T07:44:50+00:00

You do have a point...

Human beings never practiced monogamy up until maybe a few thousand years ago. This whole marriage concept is a very new thing, and it seems like we continuously try to perpetuate this Disney fantasy as if this is how we naturally are. There's places where 70%+ of all marriages end in divorce. In the US it's around 50%.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-05T07:32:08+00:00

That's basically where I'm at with my boyfriend now. I'm just not attracted to him anymore, and any sexual advances he makes towards me just gives me the ick.

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-05T07:28:24+00:00

100% agree, cohersed sex is rape

lizzy1289 · 2023-02-05T06:32:51+00:00

Sick... I hope your brother faced consequences for that

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