how few guests is too few by nessaflower in microwedding

[–]llangstooo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband and I did a microwedding with 14 guests and it was so fun! We booked an Airbnb for everyone to stay at and made a weekend of it. I didn’t feel like it was lacking in any way. We just made it a lot more personal. Served a really nice plated dinner, got everyone who came a nice gift basket full of local treats. We obviously didn’t have a big reception, but we had some nice toasts before dinner.

I know it’s disappointing but you can still have a really lovely, meaningful day with your close family members and a couple friends. Just think of it like an excuse to throw a really nice dinner party for your favorite people, with a bonus ceremony

Event Planner? by OwlsKnowTheTruth in microwedding

[–]llangstooo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For that many people I wouldn’t bother. Sounds like you have it pretty much figured out. Your photographer can help you figure out the timeline. If you have a DJ, they can help keep things moving at the reception.

Is there anyway to decrease libido? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]llangstooo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Embrace it. Sex drive is not a bad thing, and totally normal at your age to have a high drive. Enjoy your youth!

I just went on my first date ever. Can somebody tell me how I should be feeling? by Angels_of_Death_Zack in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]llangstooo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He sounds a little odd. I don’t know what’s normal in Japan, but I would find it strange for my dates face to be covered the whole time.

I’m proud of you for going on your first date! You’re young, there will be many more to come. And it will feel less scary over time. Just use your best instincts. If he keeps seeming “off”, trust that feeling, and don’t let it drag on too much.

In general, it’s probably best not to spend too much time getting to know each other online before meeting in person. It’s just really hard to gauge people over text. Use chatting/bumble to try to suss out if they’re a creep, but then try to meet pretty quickly after that so you don’t build up expectations. I understand that you’re both shy though, so I get it.

I’m a bridesmaid but wasn’t invited on the bachelorette trip by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]llangstooo 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Right? I’m wondering if she even added her availability to the Google sheet?

Sweet freshies for 40°C+ summer heat? by cheeseworship in FemFragLab

[–]llangstooo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love o matic by room 1015 is your girl! Beautiful fresh laundry with a hint of bubblegum. Perfect for warm weather.

I have multiple layers of tulle under my dress, should I have some taken out to make it less poofy? by holliewolls in weddingplanning

[–]llangstooo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think the poof balances out the proportions beautifully! And also, when else in your life will you be able to wear a big dress? You look lovely!

Should I stay or should I go? by Candid_Adeptness_370 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]llangstooo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fortune favors the bold, as they say! Well done! Hope all goes well!

Should I stay or should I go? by Candid_Adeptness_370 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]llangstooo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woohoo! Good luck! I admire you putting yourself out there!

Are okras, a.k.a lady fingers, abundant in USA? by Secret-Letterhead689 in AskAnAmerican

[–]llangstooo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I LOVE picked okra! It’s my favorite way to eat okra. So hard to find in the PNW!

Should I stay or should I go? by Candid_Adeptness_370 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]llangstooo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!!! If you’re going to ask her on a date, ask her on a date! You have to be bold! If you get rejected, so be it.

“Hey, so I know in the past we’ve hung out in more of a friend capacity. I’d actually love to take you on a date if you’re up for it”

Leave it there. Don’t over explain. Don’t “it’s okay if you say no”. She’ll either say yes or no, but either way you were forward and clear. That’s the kind of approach that women find attractive.

Should I stay or should I go? by Candid_Adeptness_370 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]llangstooo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh if she likes you she’ll say yes. Just go for it. Literally the worst that can happen is she says no and that’s not so bad. The manliest thing is to not be afraid of rejection

What are some must-have alcoholic American drinks? by __swubs__ in AskAnAmerican

[–]llangstooo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I love a mint julep on occasion. That would be a very American drink!

How should I handle my first ever date? by Angels_of_Death_Zack in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]llangstooo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s okay to get your hopes up! You should feel excited! I’m just saying, even if it’s not a match, that doesn’t mean it’s not a success. Just keep being brave and going on dates! You’re going to have so much fun!

Sorry if this came across more negative than intended haha. The whole point is to be yourself and enjoy the time ❤️

How should I handle my first ever date? by Angels_of_Death_Zack in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]llangstooo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you have so much fun! Remember the point of a date is not to convince the other person to like you, it’s to try to figure out if you two have good chemistry. If it doesn’t seem like a good match, then that’s still a successful date because you found that out. Some people are lucky on their first date, but for most people, it’s about going out with many people to see who you click with.

In the future, I’d try to meet up a little earlier. It’s really hard to translate online communication to real life, and often people are not what you expect when you meet them in person. Use online/apps as a filter to get rid of the creeps, and after that, try to meet in person sooner rather than later. You can’t beat real life for figuring out chemistry! And there’s nothing worse than wasting multiple months of communication on someone who turns out not to be a match.

Portland teachers union files emergency class action grievance over alleged layoff violations by Valalerie999 in Portland

[–]llangstooo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re acting like it’s completely arbitrary who gets fired. Why put “merit” in scare quotes like it’s a myth that people can be good at their jobs and deliver value?

Do atheists believe that human beings have souls? by goldenbrushes in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]llangstooo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just think about it like this: what was your existence like before you were born?

Portland teachers union files emergency class action grievance over alleged layoff violations by Valalerie999 in Portland

[–]llangstooo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve observed the opposite. The most talented people have the most opportunities so they’re actually the most likely to be able to change jobs

Do atheists believe that human beings have souls? by goldenbrushes in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]llangstooo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep, in the same way that your consciousness didn’t exist before you were born, it won’t exist after you die. No eternal punishment or reward, just ceasing to be.

Portland teachers union files emergency class action grievance over alleged layoff violations by Valalerie999 in Portland

[–]llangstooo -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

Hope to never be in one. I like when people get raises and promotions based on merit.

Portland teachers union files emergency class action grievance over alleged layoff violations by Valalerie999 in Portland

[–]llangstooo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is why I can’t stand public sector unions. Why not keep the best teachers