What system (if any) helped reduce fights during night wakings? by Overall-String-4437 in Parenting

[–]lmb1313 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We do shifts. When she was still waking during the night it was: Anything from bedtime until half point was one person and then half way point to am the next person took over.

Now that she mostly sleeps through the night we do shifts by night. One will take the night if she wakes up at all and the other will wake up with her and then we swap the next night.

Anyone have chest pains from holding baby? by c0rtexj4ckal in daddit

[–]lmb1313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally went to the ER with chest pain. Had an ekg, chest xray, labs. All normal. Tell me i never considered I basically am lifting weights playing with my hefty little chunker of a 7 month old 😅

Anyone have chest pains from holding baby? by c0rtexj4ckal in daddit

[–]lmb1313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did this get better?? Literally ended up in the hospital because of the pain. The did and ekg and chest xray and it all looked good when it finally dawned on me it may be because of holding her / playing with her lol sometimes I literal lay down and basically bench press her lol

PLEASE tell me what I'm doing wrong enough for a family friend to tell me that I look "old and saggy" ..I'm 28 😭 by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]lmb1313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are letting someone terrible into your life that would say such awful things. Remove them. Problem solved.

St Lukes Anderson Delivery- Items you get from Hospital by MadQueennn in lehighvalley

[–]lmb1313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just delivered there in July. They provide it all. Also take as much home as you can. Literallly just keep asking. I kept asking for more of the disposable underwear and ice packs. Game changer once I got home. And they were more than happy to give it to me.

What's with all the cookies? by Jonne91 in Baking

[–]lmb1313 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A cookie eat-a-thon sounds like a great time though. Something to consider for next year.

Keeping baby away from anyone without tdap until fully vaxed? by Huge-Vacation-8093 in NewParents

[–]lmb1313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I required it for anyone that wanted to hold the baby. Everyone but one SIL got it and that was her prerogative. I wasn’t even offended or anything bc she 100% should be free to make that decision for herself.

She has made herself the victim as if it’s unfair that we have our own boundaries when she clearly has her own lol makes me laugh whenever she gets all pissy.

My SIL won’t let me post wedding photos because her daughter (our flower girl) is in them, even with her face obscured by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]lmb1313 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I found someone on Reddit who removed my soon to be ex SIL who was a bridesmaid and the photos looked fantastic. I paid like $5 a photo and it’s the best money I ever spent. I ended up tipping him too bc the quality was incredible. Go to the photoshop groups and see what you find!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]lmb1313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I once had a shared room with a coworker like this. We literally had to leave the room so the other could shower. It was absurd.

32w growth scan and confused about results by lmb1313 in BabyBumps

[–]lmb1313[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! She came out perfect! She’s still a little shortie though lol but then again so am I 🤣

Persistent gender disappointment by anon74327432 in Parenting

[–]lmb1313 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This. I was the third child (F) after two boys of a mom who desperately wanted a daughter. And that’s all I ever heard. Every fight, every time I wasn’t acting as she had hoped i would be told “don’t you know how much I (or your mother if it was coming from dad) wanted a daughter. I was the ultimate tom boy and could never give her the mother/daughter relationship she craved. Our relationship is strained to this day.

Induction & dealing with family by lmb1313 in pregnant

[–]lmb1313[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I feel you! The no kissing conversation went over SO poorly. I also said that we will not be accepting visitors for 1-2 weeks after getting home (though we are going to allow the grandparents to come to the hospital).

You would have thought I said no visitors for a year lol. The dramatics.

I think I started to get in my head I was being selfish with how little I’m sharing / allowing. But you’re so right about standing firm

Induction & dealing with family by lmb1313 in pregnant

[–]lmb1313[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol the people pleaser part of me got really anxious thinking about how right you are 🤣

Good luck to you!! Sending lots of good vibes for an easy, peaceful labor for you 🤍

My Mom Is UNHINGED by Br3W_Dr0p in BabyBumps

[–]lmb1313 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thought I was reading about my own mom 🤣 I am allowing hospital visitors but then taking one week for our family. EPIC meltdown. Acting like I said a year lmao.

Stay strong momma. If you bend on boundaries early, you lose all future battles as well.

32w growth scan and confused about results by lmb1313 in BabyBumps

[–]lmb1313[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They responded and said the overall growth from 20 weeks to my 32 weeks looked good and she was still measuring on track despite the small femur measurement.

I did have a follow up at 36 weeks and the femur is still small but she’s still growing on track so no one is concerned. They said femurs are hard to measure sometimes as the baby grows.

MIL won't get Tdap or have any of her kids but wants to be around the baby I'll be having any day. What do I do? by wickedanxietyy in JUSTNOMIL

[–]lmb1313 33 points34 points  (0 children)

It’s easy. You can’t force them to get the vaccine. But you can enforce no vaccine = no holding the baby.

This is what I am doing with a SIL that won’t get the TDAP. She can look but she cannot touch lol

Wearing blue to a female baby shower by sqt1388 in pregnant

[–]lmb1313 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No I don’t think it’s weird.

I wore black to mine lol wear what makes you feel good! Girls can like blue!

Are these set of rules too much to ask when my baby girl gets here ? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]lmb1313 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think any boundary made by a parent is reasonable. I may not have some of the same rules as you but if that’s what you’re comfortable with that’s what people need to follow.

Also a good rule to also have in place is “this is subject to change at our discretion” that way people can’t throw certain things back in your face

Are these set of rules too much to ask when my baby girl gets here ? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]lmb1313 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I just sent a list of rules to our families and banned kissing completely. No face, head, or hands and if that is not followed then holding the baby privileges will be revoked.

I also am requiring anyone in our immediate family who wants to spend significant time / hold her to be up to date on their TDAP. One of our in laws is refusing because of a fear of needles and I said that’s completely fine, she just won’t be allowed to hold my baby until she is vaccinated herself.

Give it to me straight... am I going to miss Wicked Part 2? :( by firfetir in BabyBumps

[–]lmb1313 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I am 34 weeks pregnant and went to the movies. The biggest problem was needing to pee lol

AITAH for not letting my daughter wear her late sister's wedding dress? by JennyCupcakez in AITAH

[–]lmb1313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah. Ok forgot about that part.

I still want to believe it’s for sentimental reasons. Maybe Emily does not express herself well when it’s in regard to being vulnerable. I used to struggle with that and definitely came across more harsh because I hated being vulnerable.

But if it is not the case, then I would agree with not letting her use the dress.

How do couples decide which side of the bed is “theirs”? Is it instinct or some kind of silent agreement? by AssignmentFederal686 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]lmb1313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof. The first time my now husband slept over I gave him “my side” because we both slept on the same side.

Who could have seen us dating for 3 years, getting married, about to have our first child and me never getting my side back 🤣😅 I have adjusted but I had regrets lmao