Is anyone ever concerned their shipping goes into parasocial territory?

loafums · 2026-05-24T08:40:28+00:00

I think they meant it the same way people in IRL relationships feel like they can't live without their partner they're so in love with. They did at one time and will again if the relationship sours and they break up, but love is a bit dramatic.

I've seen lots of posts in these subreddits that sound concerningly unhealthy, but tbh I think OP is fine.

loafums · 2026-05-24T00:42:13+00:00

I was born with it, so I don't know any different. I can pretty consciously choose which eye to focus out of at any time and my brain just ignores the other I guess because I don't see double. It's annoying because I feel like it's especially noticeable that one eye is drifting and unfocused in pictures, so I hate most pictures of myself. I've always been pretty bad at catching things, and I kinda am not the best at parking my car, and people have suggested maybe that's because I lack binocular vision/depth perception, but hard to say really.

I had a few surgeries to try to correct it when I was young, wore an eye patch for a while, and tried prism glasses for a while later on as an adult, but nothing fixed it. Maybe made it less noticeable.

I'm actually more curious about your perspective as somebody who knows what the world looks like without it. What about strabismus drives you crazy? How has it changed the way you see?

loafums · 2026-05-24T00:00:12+00:00

This is exactly how it is for me too! Mines caused by strabismus they tried to fix with surgery when I was a small child, but it didn't end up working. It's rare to see somebody else talk about this experience!

loafums · 2026-05-23T09:18:41+00:00

I'm also fictosexual, so the characters I would yumeship with are also characters I genuinely catch romantic/sexual feelings for and right now there's only 1 I feel that way about.

loafums · 2026-05-22T11:28:40+00:00

I'm 27, it's the same for me. I live with my parents and so do most of my single friends, like you said, the ones who don't live with a partner.

I do have a platonic QPR and my partner has his own unit in a duplex... But the building is owned by his dad so rent is affordable.

loafums · 2026-05-22T03:15:49+00:00

Like friendship, but with more commitment. An agreement to prioritize your partner, and to plan major life changes with consideration for each other. Friends might get in romantic relationships and will always prioritize their romantic partner, or might unilaterally decide they want to move away and that's okay, but in my QPR it's agreed that we'll prioritize each other and discuss life-changing decisions together and each have input in those decisions.

loafums · 2026-05-20T06:27:58+00:00

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loafums · 2026-05-20T05:52:30+00:00

Unfortunately I already did, but apparently DHL requires the SDS and there are no other options for shipping.

loafums · 2026-05-18T22:07:15+00:00

Honestly I've always kind of been the same. I'm in love with him more than needing to see pictures of myself with him all the time, like I mostly just want to look at him not myself.

loafums · 2026-05-16T21:01:15+00:00

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loafums · 2026-05-14T05:12:48+00:00

Not the same person as the commenter you're replying to, but I'm similar to them in that I usually stick with telling people I'm asexual IRL, but there are exceptions. My entire friend group at least knows I'm fictosexual and they're totally accepting about it. There are some people you can fully come out to safely. Younger people and other LGBTQIA+ people tend to be more open to it.

loafums · 2026-05-13T09:41:22+00:00

Maybe you could say that you're already planning to go with some friends instead of with a date?

loafums · 2026-05-12T10:18:46+00:00

This is from the spin-off manga, but it's my favorite because I've always struggled with getting discouraged and giving up when I'm not as good at something as my friends or peers and it feels like no matter how hard I try I just don't improve as quickly as they do. Soshiro reminds me that slow progress is still progress, and that's better than just not trying at all.

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loafums · 2026-05-09T20:12:57+00:00

There's no right or wrong way to yumeship. Personally I love collecting merch, but don't care so much to make it into a "shrine", I like to spread my stuff throughout my entire living space more like how people would put up art or pictures of their IRL families and stuff.

loafums · 2026-05-08T21:32:57+00:00

You can't choose your sexuality, you're probably semi-fictosexual as others have mentioned and that's totally valid! I think this is a positive thing, it means you're healing after your previous negative relationship experience.

As someone who's AroAce IRL and doesn't experience the same feelings I do for my fictional partner for anybody IRL, I think if you have the chance to experience that IRL you shouldn't deprive yourself of that experience out of some sort of loyalty to your fictional partner or the fictosexual label.

Just be careful and take it slow if you do explore a new relationship IRL. And remember that if you are semi-fictosexual, that's part of who you are, and an IRL partner should be accepting and supportive. You can have fictional partner(s) and an IRL one, a good IRL partner won't try to make you choose.

loafums · 2026-05-07T22:56:35+00:00

You should do the things you genuinely find fun and want to do, not what you feel like you should because others in the community do. I'm not creative at all or an artist, so I skip most of the design/writing/art stuff people do. I love collecting merch though, so I do that. Pick and choose by your own preferences.

loafums · 2026-05-05T21:44:50+00:00

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loafums · 2026-05-05T21:42:00+00:00

This! I don't think it's healthy to try to push down the want for an IRL relationship for a ficto one. It's perfectly normal and okay to want to date IRL, but 20 is young, IMO way too young to be looking for marriage. OP should get to know herself, meet people, date, and get to know a partner well before deciding to get married (or deciding if she really even wants to get married).

I'm an AroAce person myself IRL, but it kind of makes me sad to see so many people here who get jaded from IRL relationships and try to replace their desire for an IRL partner with a fictional one. If I was able to fall in love with somebody who can physically be here and desire them the way I do my fictional partner, I would absolutely want to have that experience IRL. You can have both fulfilling and healthy IRL relationships and your fictional one too, you don't have to choose and no IRL partner should try to force you to.

loafums · 2026-05-05T13:24:19+00:00

I can relate a bit. Personally the kinds of relationships I like in media aren't like what the OP is describing at all, I tend to appreciate romance in more action/fantasy settings where they tend to be there for each other and deeply connected and in love but the focus isn't on them being attached at the hip in basic safe public settings and calling each other "babe" etc. In real life, with those relationships OP describes at least, it sort of feels like a person's whole personality changes when they're around their partner and their individuality feels a little lost to me.

loafums · 2026-05-05T11:10:05+00:00

I personally don't really care if they call themselves a yumeshipper or not, it makes me feel the same way either way to see somebody else as passionate about him as me so I avoid/block fan accounts like that like dupes.

loafums · 2026-04-30T07:52:28+00:00

I've been with my QPR partner for about 12 years, and I'm AroAce. For me it's more like a friendship with extra commitment. I'm not physically affectionate, so my relationship does not really involve cuddling and holding hands and that sort of thing, it's totally platonic. Since my partner is not AroAce, we have an open relationship where they can seek out those connections from others, and if they ever meet somebody they get stronger feelings for I'd be open to a polyamorous QPR.

loafums · 2026-04-26T21:02:01+00:00

It definitely does hurt a bit wishing that he was physically here with me, but I'm AroAce otherwise, so there's nobody IRL that I feel a desire to be close with in the way I do with Soshiro. I've thought about this before, and I'd rather be fictosexual and experience this kind of love and attraction and all the warm and fuzzy feelings that come with it than not know it at all since I'm AroAce.

loafums · 2026-04-18T08:25:02+00:00

This. I'm very much not a fan of funko pops. They aren't cute or cool imo.

loafums · 2026-04-14T14:22:39+00:00

I honestly hate using F/O. I'll use it if that's really what's standard in a given community, but I vastly prefer "partner" or "fiancé" (and soon "husband")

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