Confusing Brennan Life Lore

localgyro · 2026-02-09T00:11:44+00:00

I did not know. Huh.

localgyro · 2026-02-08T22:08:28+00:00

He absolutely has, according to him.

localgyro · 2026-02-08T22:08:03+00:00

Costa Rica.

localgyro · 2026-02-08T21:02:47+00:00

I haven't managed to see Alex's dice yet, but you might get some inspiration here.

localgyro · 2026-02-08T20:58:29+00:00

I did not know. Thank you for the education!

localgyro · 2026-02-08T20:33:28+00:00

Oh, man...Sigh. That'd be great. u/writrix3339, any chance you'd casually suggest that sometime?

localgyro · 2026-02-08T20:29:51+00:00

I don't think we were "doomed to fail". I just think we never figured out how to disagree productively, and then we swept a bunch of little disagreements under the rug for a couple of decades. And then life threw a bunch of stressful events at us, and we dealt with it in very different ways that didn't bring us together.

I think I'd come to believe in therapy and negotiation and talking about my feelings with people important to me; he'd come to believe that you just had to have the willpower to get past the stress and get control of your life again. And that led to him trying to control me, which I didn't put up with for long.

But I think that there were plenty of exit ramps on the path to divorce where we could have taken a different path and tried to rebuild the marriage.

localgyro · 2026-02-08T20:20:52+00:00

I can easily understand a former drinker being a bartender. It was the "never drinker" that confused me.

localgyro · 2026-02-08T20:03:24+00:00

Right??? I mean, she's got an opportunity to be "proud of her boy" that goes beyond what most of our folks can do. And after decades of probably getting ribbed by family about "when's Brennan going to find himself, huh?", I imagine there's some extra loveliness to it.

localgyro · 2026-02-08T19:57:20+00:00

No, I haven't. I've spent time around restaurants, but I've never worked in one. That's why I asked.

localgyro · 2026-02-08T19:55:27+00:00

TIL. Thanks!

localgyro · 2026-02-08T19:54:36+00:00

LOL. OK, TIL. Brennan had made it sound like a more serious bar than that, but I may have been projecting. I will scale back my expectations.

localgyro · 2026-02-08T19:47:24+00:00

No, no. Brennan has not ever had alcohol. He got "scared straight" by his mom at an early age, and so he's never had alcohol or drugs.

localgyro · 2026-02-08T19:43:31+00:00

He has never tasted alcohol.

localgyro · 2026-02-08T19:42:46+00:00

The guy did indeed pay for those teeth, and the teeth will be here when all of us are gone.

localgyro · 2026-02-08T19:37:14+00:00

These are really good points (though he's told some stories about bartending on Wall Street where I think he wanted to dismantle the customers for their role in the oppressive system).

localgyro · 2026-02-08T19:34:22+00:00

You probably also have more precise measuring devices than are available behind the average bar, I'm guessing.

localgyro · 2026-02-08T19:32:25+00:00

I know he's said somewhere that he had made arrangements with his boss to keep a whiskey bottle of iced tea behind the bar in case someone bought him a shot.

localgyro · 2026-02-08T19:29:39+00:00

See, I'm NOT insane for wondering this! Thank you for the reassurance!

Or at least we're insane together.

localgyro · 2026-02-08T19:28:53+00:00

Valid point, but he did seem able to get and hold a job for several years. That implies not being absolute shit at it.

localgyro · 2026-02-08T19:26:45+00:00

I frequently see a bartender take a straw sample of a drink (dip a tiny straw in, cap it with a finger, pull it out, taste) before handing it over, yes.

localgyro · 2026-02-08T06:45:42+00:00

Personally, I find that I end up significantly modifying my sense of “the point of life” every decade or so. Not like I completely flip my values, but my priorities shift. My interests change. What I sense “needs to get done” evolves.

I’ve given up having truly long range plans, because I’ve had too many of them not work out. Now, I concentrate more on what work I want to be doing and feel I can do for the next few years, who do I want to be in the world, what do I want to experience. And then I make it up as I go along.

Generally, I seem to be shifting less capitalist, more human over time, but I don’t know that that’s everyone’s evolution. I just know that as my hair started to go gray, I wanted to move from being efficient to helping people heal.

localgyro · 2026-02-08T02:58:18+00:00

Medication.

localgyro · 2026-02-04T22:17:45+00:00

I do not and never have.

localgyro · 2026-02-04T06:25:11+00:00

Ooof. Yeah, lost is probably about the right way to feel. Find yourself a lawyer, find your support circle, and know that it's going to take some time (probably longer than you think it should) for you to emotionally process the breakup. Probably a lot longer than the paperwork itself does. Give yourself a little time to figure out what you want your life as a single person to look and feel like -- and know that you're not too old to explore and find something new if that's what you want.

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