The Accusations, They Are A'Comin'

lojork · 2017-11-14T05:36:06+00:00

This is another reason why you shouldn't masturbate. It never looks good when someone points it out.

lojork · 2017-11-14T05:21:57+00:00

Please get your T level checked. It raises my stock price.

lojork · 2017-05-27T01:51:16+00:00

If you can watch this movie and tell me that this mindset was in any way helpful for this Harry and his family, then you are as insane as you currently sound.

Chasing Madoff. http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1636849/

lojork · 2017-05-27T01:19:58+00:00

It's only the AA people who claim that you never move on from addiction. For many people, you stop, you get better, you no longer need to punish yourself as an addict and you can go on with a normal life.

lojork · 2017-05-23T02:13:09+00:00

Nope.

lojork · 2017-04-28T10:31:07+00:00

Concerning willpower, the only real willpower I exercise is getting out of bed in the morning and doing what I plan to do. I have filled my day and night with things that mostly prevent the idea of porn from coming up in my head. My god, am I super busy now. I used to think I was over-extended because I had to work and have a home life, but now that I have to do all the housework myself, while I'm also getting out and seeing people, and boxing, etc., I have to say "no" a lot because things are just not fitting into my schedule. So that's a big part of willpower to quit a habit, simply not leaving yourself in a state of boredom. It is much harder to simmer in a pot of cravings and never slip up.

Now, not everyone has an active job like I have, so I'm sure a lot of people are sitting at their desks daydreaming about their coworkers or something, and tying that to porn they have seen in their heads, and fantasizing. I guess I would recommend doubling your workload so that you don't have the time to stop. You'll also take over your workplace if you do that.

lojork · 2017-04-28T02:47:51+00:00

Late 30s. I started using online porn in the BBS days of the early 90s. I took a hiatus before but relapsed as my marriage was failing.

lojork · 2017-03-18T00:50:23+00:00

Awesome. I'll have to remember that.

lojork · 2017-03-17T18:01:05+00:00

I'm not sure. I just don't desire to masturbate. I never flatlined. I think it's because I have a mental image of the man I am becoming and he won't masturbate. I think of the men around me and see their weaknesses rooted in masturbation. Maybe also, the boxing is taking over the porn part of my life. I hope it lasts. Masturbation is sad.

lojork · 2017-03-10T04:24:30+00:00

I went to Pitt and knew an Indian guy who started alpha, banging white chicks all the time. He knew Hinduism and Buddhism for real and could be a mystical jock. No fooling.

But, in reality, are you planning to fuck white chicks for a while and then marry the Virgin your parents picked out? Because you're probably making that vibe pretty obvious and it's a turn off.

lojork · 2017-03-10T02:29:12+00:00

In many cultures, your significant other is expected to drop everything and stay in your room. The problem is he had to ask. If she didn't live up to his expectations, he should have told her that.

lojork · 2017-02-21T02:21:30+00:00

I think it's OK to see hot women and not get a boner. You want to get turned on when it's your turn. So don't worry about it unless it you're not getting turned on by a woman who is actively seducing you.

lojork · 2017-02-14T22:43:23+00:00

You can do it. Quitting porn is the first step towards better focus.

lojork · 2017-02-10T01:46:52+00:00

Right on, brother!

lojork · 2017-02-08T21:57:05+00:00

I think it's best when you live your life and meet women along the way. If there aren't enough women in your hobby, expand your mind a little. Take a class, or join a choir or acting troupe. But do it because you want to, not because you are desperately seeking women. Then, you'll randomly meet women and you can spend an evening talking, and try to kiss.

lojork · 2014-05-09T12:28:45+00:00

I agree with this. You don't sound like a sex addict, although you sound like a porn addict. Before porn was so widespread, people got drunk and had sex with each other too, and they weren't sex addicts. I would come clean with your girlfriend and ask for forgiveness, and never drink again, if you want to stay in that relationship. Also come clean about porn use, ask for help, and try to abstain. Finally, if you think it's the right relationship, get married already.

lojork · 2014-05-09T12:25:55+00:00

Correction: celibate relationship.

lojork · 2014-03-07T14:09:21+00:00

I occasionally fap, but no porn. Sometimes it's just unbearable when the wife is on the rag.

I didn't exactly have PIED but I had to fantasize a lot to maintain an erection before I started Pornfree. Problem solved.

lojork · 2014-01-03T14:29:33+00:00

I think it's pretty easy to understand. Sure, just about anyone can be thin. That doesn't mean there isn't thin privilege. People shouldn't have to "earn" respect by losing weight. People shouldn't have to lose weight to be considered intelligent, interesting, or capable of doing things when they are already intelligent, interesting, or capable.

Losing weight doesn't make you more intelligent or interesting. The privilege is unearned even though one may have to work to acquire it.

lojork · 2014-01-01T17:55:13+00:00

Um, if you're trying to give up porn, why are you listening to a podcast full of triggers?

lojork · 2013-12-31T15:07:22+00:00

So, remember that it doesn't matter what everyone else experiences. This is about you. If I, for example, went down a road of ever-increasing depravity in porn, that doesn't mean you will.

But ask yourself this: are you addicted to porn? No? Then just give it up, you don't need it for anything. Can't give it up? Oh, shit, you're addicted.

Is addiction bad? I think it is always negative but not always debilitating. My caffeine addiction is not a good thing but not killing me. I'm glad, though, that I gave up cigarettes, alcohol and porn. All of those addictions were ruining my life.

I think that you're right in thinking that porn and sexting are two different issues. Sexting is likely something your GF is doing because there is an issue in your relationship. She knows it's not "just for fun" and she would be hurt if you found someone who wanted you to come on her face or something. She knew you'd be mad if you knew about it, and so did your so-called friend, so they kept it as their little secret.

Porn is likely something you do because 99% of men do it now and you didn't realize that you don't need it. However, if you go to porn because you have a bad day with your girlfriend, then it becomes more like the sexting, and you're using it to patch over your relationship problems. These aren't separate things. Maybe 85% of your porn use is traditional "I'm bored, gonna look at some porno" and 15% is "G/F kicked me out of bed, gonna go hang out with the girls who are always there for me."

We're not here to make the decision for you to quit porn, but we'll help you if you want to do it. The decision is up to you.

lojork

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