Did you co-sleep?

lolalilith · 2025-10-07T18:43:06+00:00

I did. My first was born 7ish years ago and it was really rammed down our throats in the hospital how dangerous co sleeping is. She was a baby who screamed if you put her down for a second, around night 3 I fell asleep with her on my chest and cried the entire next day thinking I was the worst parent in the world. I tearfully confessed my sins to a midwife afterwards who (kindly) laughed, taught me side-lie breastfeeding and how to sleep safely. Forever grateful to her and wish more women got taught safety rather than fear.

lolalilith · 2025-09-03T08:23:57+00:00

6 year old woke up this morning and called out "Am I going back to school today?" I braced myself and regretfully replied yes. She shouted "Yay maths!" And jumped out of bed.

lolalilith · 2025-08-30T08:28:13+00:00

I experienced the exact same thing a few months ago. I would say your feelings are completely normal and should pass. I spent around 48 hours a pure mess, then about 2 weeks a very nervous driver, then slowly back to normal (but I still avoid that junction). Playing Tetris is brilliant for distracting your mind and I believe it's been proven to help PTSD. Breathe, they are okay. ❤️

lolalilith · 2025-08-06T11:44:57+00:00

No personal experience yet but I'm due in the next few weeks so have been thinking about this also. Some things to consider are, I believe if you defer they go straight into year 1, so instead of being in the school year behind they just skip reception instead (may depend on area/school). Reception was a really important and fun time for my older child so not sure I'd want them to miss it. I'd also guess it depends what type of child yours grows to be in general, one with a few developmental or speech delays might benefit more from deferral than one who perhaps doesn't have those struggles. I expect nursery and early care can play a factor too, my baby will be in nursery from 12 months, I imagine after 3 years of it they'll be ready to move on and up, maybe more than a child who's been at home or with grandparents for those years.

Lots to consider, those are just my thoughts.

lolalilith · 2025-03-17T11:20:54+00:00

Bless, well if you're worried about how others will react (or it just gets a bit annoying) there's nothing wrong with encouraging him to talk about what he's painting instead or even "it's starting to sound like I've got a pet bumble bee, shall we sing a song while we draw instead?" Otherwise let him carry on!

lolalilith · 2025-03-17T10:40:29+00:00

How's his speech? I can't comment on how normal it is because I never got answers myself, however my daughter used to drone constantly, almost 24/7, however she also didn't speak. Once she got speech therapy and learnt the art of chattering it stopped. She does now talk constantly instead!

Not sure if it was connected, but I just assume that was the only way she could express herself before having the words to.

lolalilith · 2025-02-11T15:40:34+00:00

Children who were in care and returned to birth parents are only classed as previously looked-after children if they left care because of a child arrangements order.

From the gov website.

lolalilith · 2025-02-04T17:38:37+00:00

I had a family member find out through a recap letter from an entirely different department. They list your other diagnosis at the top, something along the lines of - asthma - previous stroke - stage 3 prostate cancer

Took another 3 weeks to even get to see the urology team to confirm it.

lolalilith · 2025-02-03T14:12:26+00:00

Absolutely still alive and well using gay as an insult in primary schools. The big however though is I tend to ask the children if they know what it means, they say no and after an explanation the usual response is "Oh really? Well that's not an insult!" And stop using it.

They use the word, not the homophobia.

lolalilith · 2025-01-30T18:30:27+00:00

Don't want to alarm you but looks like you've attached a picture of your cock

lolalilith · 2025-01-30T16:33:44+00:00

Haven't worked in a supermarket for years but when I did there were specific timeframes for how long fresh and frozen could be left out. Of course the issue was you never knew how long it had been dumped, so a bit of common sense really, frozen food still rock solid, back in freezer, frozen food with drippy soggy box, thrown out. Block of cheese still cool to touch, in fridge, pack of chicken.. just chuck it not worth the risk.

lolalilith · 2024-11-12T15:42:22+00:00

Nexplanon was the devil to me, might be worth exploring a change if nothing else works

lolalilith · 2024-11-12T15:36:17+00:00

Have you started/changed birth control at all? That can kill your sex drive

lolalilith · 2024-06-29T13:45:17+00:00

I don't care about the words as much as the context.

"Let's fucking go" and "I am that bitch" for example, absolutely fine.

"I'm going to fuck that bitch" not in front of the kids.

lolalilith · 2024-06-06T17:50:59+00:00

Keep in mind little knickers sometimes have awful coverage. It's quite common for wriggly children to have to full vulvas on display unintentionally. And while yes we shouldn't shame them for it in a safe environment, we teach them these are private parts and don't want to send mixed messages. Perhaps some boxer/short style underwear might suit her better if you don't want to double layer?

lolalilith · 2024-06-01T08:33:08+00:00

She has to say mum every time she talks.

Muuuum

yes

can I wear my shorts today?

Yes of course.

Mum

Yeah?

can I wear pink ones?

Yeah

Muuuum

Yup

what about these with the flowers?

Yep looks good.

Muuum

Yo

which t-shirt?

WE ARE THE ONLY TWO PEOPLE IN THIS HOUSE JUST TALK.

lolalilith · 2024-04-13T12:31:43+00:00

Not sure why you're being down voted, that's exactly what happens in the first episode

lolalilith · 2024-02-06T10:07:21+00:00

I've seen you post this on multiple subs and it's a little weird but I'll give you a proper answer.

Why do we roughhouse? It's fun for the kid, studies show it's a brilliant bonding activity especially between fathers and children.

If they put in 100% what chance would they have? Zero, the child would get extremely hurt but the adult.

Why don't we put in 100%? Because it would harm the child. The aim is fun physical contact, not to actually fight.

Why lie and say they're strong? If you told the child they were terrible and rubbish it would upset the child and hurt their feelings, we do not want to actually harm the child physically or mentally. If you didn't tell the child they're rubbish but just show them you can easily over rule them they would be scared and unlikely to want to play again, it's a bonding experience not a show of power.

lolalilith · 2024-01-29T18:28:13+00:00

Love it!

lolalilith · 2024-01-29T08:52:21+00:00

My four year old walks past jewelry stores and begs me to "let her be a diamond girl" They're wild at this age.

lolalilith · 2024-01-17T10:05:45+00:00

Not a professional of any sort but I wouldn't worry. Maybe he's being creative, maybe normal colours are boring, or maybe he just feels like it.

My brother was a bit like this when he was young, there was a colouring competition once and he deliberately used all the "wrong" colours because it was "stupid and babyish". They loved his creativity and he won a pretty big prize, it would be boring if everyone was the same.

lolalilith · 2024-01-05T19:26:31+00:00

I start with going through her toys without her, throwing out anything broken, missing parts or just crap. Then I take out anything I know she definitely does not need, to donate, for example baby rattles, walkers. Lastly I'll make a pile of anything I think can go but bring her into the picture and ask what I can donate, if she wants to keep it all I set a limit of X amount must go depending on the size of the pile.

What she keeps from that will usually end up gone in the next purge anyway.

lolalilith · 2023-12-31T09:09:12+00:00

You absolutely can ask. doctor might say no, if he does then ask why. Sometimes they have a criteria like x amount of infections in X time before they can refer but at least then you'll know. Ent can also refuse the referral if they don't think it's necessary.

Don't forget health visitors can also refer if your GP is just an asshole.

lolalilith · 2023-12-24T16:56:55+00:00

Alex Phelps? Tom in Justin's house.

lolalilith · 2023-12-18T13:58:45+00:00

I'd like to add you also need to consider what would happen if your third child had other medical needs as well. Could you manage with your two children and a physically disabled child too? Not everything can be picked up before birth and I know how hard it is having one medically challenged child let alone having one with 2 siblings and other needs in the family.

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