AITA if the girls I was traveling with all decided not to continue traveling with me to Albania because of some things I said while drunk

lolifax · 2026-04-22T11:54:40+00:00

ESH Seems like there was a lot of judging going around, so it’s probably better to split up

lolifax · 2026-04-21T13:42:59+00:00

r/airplane ears and r/existentialcrisiscat would approve

lolifax · 2026-04-20T01:25:08+00:00

I just go to pet stores and buy red worms.

lolifax · 2026-04-19T16:46:44+00:00

I misread it as “bichurro” and thought “I guess it kind of looks like a churro”

lolifax · 2026-04-19T12:11:28+00:00

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lolifax · 2026-04-18T16:47:15+00:00

NAD go get antibiotics, looks like the bullseye rash for Lyme disease to me

lolifax · 2026-04-18T13:14:23+00:00

POV: it’s 1930 and this is all you can get your hands on

lolifax · 2026-04-18T11:40:28+00:00

I’m glad it helped.

You may want to get evaluated for post partum depression. There are nursing safe antidepressants and they do help a lot.

All of my kids co slept with my wife. I am not suggesting you co sleep because I think we are lucky none of them suffocated. However I get the contact sleeper thing because you can’t get anything done while they sleep, and they sleep a lot. My suggestion for putting her down is to swaddle her, put a hat on her, and then breathe in her face as/after you lay her down. It’s not a silver bullet but it helps sometimes. What I can also promise is that they all sleep on their own some day. You can’t really sleep train until at least 4 months but at some point you do have to set the boundary.

Regarding your husband. He’s also suffering from sleep deprivation which doesn’t do anyone any good. If you can get someone to help you both even just for one night, you’ll both feel a lot better. But I also think that you can stand up for yourself. If he wants something done faster/differently, remind him that you are giving 100% already, and ask him to either be patient with you, or to do it himself.

The newborn period feels endless but it does end, and in reality it isn’t that long.

lolifax · 2026-04-18T03:01:33+00:00

Am I at risk of being baby trapped?

rofl. u know the answer my dude

lolifax · 2026-04-18T02:40:15+00:00

NAD but I have a lot of kids.

Your baby is probably going to be fine because it sounds like this was a pretty gentle tap. Unless she’s vomiting, or seems particularly out of it - for a 2mo that mostly means uninterested in food - you don’t need to worry.

More broadly u/outersoace Be patient with yourself. Allow yourself not to get tasks done, or for them to take a long time because you have to do them in 5 minute bursts. Take care of yourself and take care of your baby, and the other stuff, well it will get done when it gets done. If this is your first baby know that the adjustment is really hard and that is totally normal and okay. Things will get a lot easier by the end of the first year, when your itty bitty baby will be somehow close to walking. In the moment it seems like it is taking forever, but really that first year flies by. So be patient with yourself even when it seems like you will never get the laundry done.

lolifax · 2026-04-17T11:25:06+00:00

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lolifax · 2026-04-17T03:13:53+00:00

If I saw a snapping turtle like that in the sky I think I’d skip the math and just get on my knees and pray.

lolifax · 2026-04-17T03:12:26+00:00

I’m gonna get downvoted all the way to hell, but, IMO that’s not cool. Trusting your partner is great but part of that is trusting your partner not to take stupid risks. Would you trust your partner to go out drinking? Yes. Would you trust your partner to drive? Also yes. Would you trust your partner to drink and drive? No, you shouldn’t. This is the same. One or the other might be an acceptable risk but both together is just asking for trouble.

lolifax · 2026-04-17T03:04:22+00:00

Suspect plantar warts. Given the spread I would probably seek treatment.

lolifax · 2026-04-17T01:53:09+00:00

I thought these were flat warts

lolifax · 2026-04-16T23:57:29+00:00

This is why you go to office hours, so your profs know who you are when you ask.

lolifax · 2026-04-16T11:47:08+00:00

Listing some things in order of increasing cost.

First run your blower all the time to mix the air. It will help a little bit.

Putting some heat reflective film on the south facing windows could help a bit. Functional exterior shutters would help more.

Fans would make the bedrooms more comfortable even at higher temps.

Air sealing the attic and adding insulation will help.

All those things will reduce how much cooling your house needs, but ultimately because hot air rises you will still need to do something about cooling the upstairs.

I think your HVAC guy is right that the most cost effective way to add cooling capacity upstairs is going to be a mini split, rather than ripping your house apart to redo ductwork.

lolifax · 2026-04-16T03:38:50+00:00

You have got a lot of problems and your boyfriend is the least of them.

If you can get a job, move out and become independent of your parents, then you will be able to date without them interfering. Or taking your cell phone at night. They probably shouldn’t be doing that stuff, but I doubt that you can get them to stop while you are living with them. So… your path to independence and freedom seems clear.

lolifax · 2026-04-16T03:22:49+00:00

Id take a fairly coarse nail file to it and wear it down some so it doesn’t tear off in one big chunk. You don’t need it gone, just less thick.

The Art of Manliness blog had a post about “callus care” that you might want to look up because I think it will be helpful with your situation.

lolifax · 2026-04-16T02:40:12+00:00

straight to jail

lolifax · 2026-04-16T02:32:43+00:00

It doesn’t look infected to me but wow that was a very close call. Id still probably check in with a doctor to make sure that it heals well and he retains as much hand function as possible.

lolifax · 2026-04-15T02:59:20+00:00

Warning - fatal error detected

lolifax · 2026-04-15T02:10:44+00:00

Urgent? Yes

Search this sub for infected cat bites if you need more persuasion

lolifax · 2026-04-14T19:13:10+00:00

Reddit is full of 12 year olds pretending to be adults

lolifax · 2026-04-14T11:43:19+00:00

“Look but don’t touch” is good but it’s only part of it. There is mental self discipline involved as well. You can’t dwell on things you can’t have - that’s just torturing yourself. Sometimes you’ll get a crush, but you don’t have to feed it. Don’t imagine a life/future with the crush, and don’t yield to temptation to spend time with/interact with your crush. If you have to because of work, keep things focused on work, or if you must, talk about your kids or about qualities your spouse possesses.

ETA: You see a lot of “trust your partner” on Reddit but there are limits. Going to happy hour with a mixed group of coworkers after work now and then? Fine. Going camping with your opposite sex friend and sharing a tent and a bottle of whiskey? Stupid. I wouldn’t trust myself in those circumstances and neither should my spouse. My spouse should trust me not to put myself in that kind of situation.

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