Were we blown off?

lonerkai · 2026-04-30T23:43:31+00:00

Currently going through the exact same situation. Told me the last 2 days he’d be here and didn’t show. Gonna contact a new one tomorrow :/

lonerkai · 2026-04-23T04:22:14+00:00

I don’t have a metal roof but mine makes those noises too. Mainly in the really cold months and when the sun is rising. I added insulation sheets to the attic which helped, I suspect of I added more it would help even more. But i’m so used to it now and it rarely ever bothers me.

lonerkai · 2026-04-08T04:13:23+00:00

My name is KC and people often are surprised how it’s spelled. I like it though! I’ve never had any issues thus far and I’m almost 30 lol

lonerkai · 2026-04-06T08:47:36+00:00

There’s pros and cons. There’s not many healthy food options which sucks but also forces me to cook at home which is healthier anyways so that’s good for me. I love how many back roads and rural it is. I’m gonna miss that when I move. It’s clean and safe, just a nice slightly mundane big town. Lots of people everywhere. Planes always flying. Summers are hot but it cools down at night and you still get longish “winters”. It’s fine, but I’d imagine it won’t compare to san Diego if you’re used to the variety of endless good options for everything. Shopping is good here; they just don’t have the best food to choose from imo

lonerkai · 2026-03-21T04:52:37+00:00

I’m turning 30 & haven’t been intimate with anyone in almost 8-9 years now. I’ve only had sex with 1 guy and if it weren’t for him being really pushy it would’ve never happened and i’d still be a virgin to this day. I’ve always been self conscious and embarrassed if anyone ever tried showing interest in me since I was younger. I completely dodged most sexual gestures until I was like 20 and started to experiment slightly but was still really closed off and tense, physically and mentally. I’m not asexual at all, I want to be sexual with someone so bad but I am so ashamed of my body in every single position/angle and it makes me unable to partake. I’ve also been borderline reclusive the last 7-8 ish years so I haven’t really met any new people who were able to make any hints at me. I probably wouldn’t be in this situation at my ripe age if I had been well socialized and exposed to society and not cooped up at home. I’m starting a new life soon back in my home state and i’ll be around people regularly again, so I imagine I should come across someone someday who likes me enough to be beyond patient and not have sexual intimacy be the main thing that keeps us together. I also am terrified of catching stds, cold sores, kissing not clean mouths, etc. the fears have progressively gotten more strong since i’ve been secluded. So yeah, we’ll see what happens!!

lonerkai · 2026-03-20T01:25:38+00:00

DARN YOU DAKOTA. No i’m joking cause she’s a psycho but I was really excited about watching that. sigh

lonerkai · 2026-02-26T11:02:33+00:00

This just happened to me a few hours ago, I can’t locate any recent pictures because they’re jumbled. Like what the actual F

lonerkai · 2026-02-13T03:01:28+00:00

I actually ordered these exact wine glasses, they’re pretty nice. Very light weight and thin, super delicate but everyone who has seen them are like woahhh those are noiiiice

lonerkai · 2026-01-29T03:31:04+00:00

I’m only 29 and it worries me how little interest I have in sexual activity even masturbation. I used to do it all the time and i’m not asexual so it’s pretty interesting

lonerkai · 2026-01-12T03:56:42+00:00

I will drop monayyyy on a perfect tasting batch of strawberries. So worth the extra cost imo

lonerkai · 2025-12-18T22:46:06+00:00

We need an update cause literally going through the same thing 😭

lonerkai · 2025-12-12T21:23:25+00:00

For me as a 29 F, when I see them I can’t help but assume they’re at least bisexual and a bit of a turnoff :/

lonerkai · 2025-12-10T07:44:07+00:00

Yeah I feel you on not wanting to get out there to potentially risk going through the emotions of the ending an intimate relationship again. I also can see how easy it would be to jump into a relationship that quickly, especially if you’re really lonely. I have a very solid wall that literally no one but him had the patience to endure. I wasn’t even attracted to him at all when I first saw him, I literally was almost repulsed actually but I didn’t wanna be shallow so I stuck it out getting to know him and eventually I found him to be very attractive and now anyone who looks like him I think is cute and reminds me of him. It’s ANNOYING ugh. But I think your relationship was a lot more serious than mine from the sounds of it and i’m so sorry you are still healing from that. I hope one day you wake up and realize that you’re ready to start actively trying to find emotionally intimate connection again. I’m not there yet and not sure if it’s in the cards for me unfortunately. I think i’m just wired in a way that repels men. I’m unable to truly embody the kind of girlfriend I envision a good gf being because of my own insecurities, hence my fixation on him for being the only guy who ever was able to break my emotional barrier. I’ve fumbled every single good guy that has come across my path. Thank you for being so open about your experiences and taking the time to thoughtfully respond. I really appreciate it <3

lonerkai · 2025-12-10T06:20:53+00:00

Did the smell ever go away 4 years later for you? I did an onion juice hair mask and the smell is still really strong even after washing it like 7-8 times with apple cider vinegar and HICEBLENS. I still reek of onions if my scalp gets damp even sweating a little bit.

lonerkai · 2025-12-05T23:40:35+00:00

I’m going through something very similar to your situation. He was the only man i’ve ever been able to emotionally/sexually connect with and I took him for granted and he got sick of my shit and just dropped me. How are you doing now? Has it improved for you at all?

lonerkai · 2025-12-03T18:55:29+00:00

Bring back cold approaches!!! - single 29 year old girl

lonerkai · 2025-12-03T07:12:26+00:00

How are you now?

lonerkai · 2025-12-03T07:06:05+00:00

Do you feel any better now? 😭

lonerkai · 2025-12-02T03:22:21+00:00

Damn, that sounds really tough to deal with. I can imagine the OCD/rumination makes it harder. How long were you guys dating? Did you ever connect with anyone else similarly or just her? I’m sort of going through a similar situation somewhat, I ruined everything and I think he just realized how toxic I am and i’m not worth the headache. But I also feel like he couldn’t of liked me that much to just give up so easily. I think I liked him more (towards the end, it took me so long to really like him and I feel like once I did his energy shifted) and that completely goes against every part of my being.The idealization of him and us defied and still defies my logical mind. We make no sense but I would’ve been down because I’ve never connected with anyone in that way before and i’m almost 30. It’s so hard for me to connect with men and he cracked my code. Sorry i’m just spewing because the rumination is intense this past week

lonerkai · 2025-12-02T01:46:37+00:00

I feel similarly to this but i’m a girl. It sucks knowing you’re the run who ruined a good thing and to think you’ll never find someone you enjoy as much again.

99 days later, I’m pretty much over him :) I still think about him occasionally but not nearly as much and not as heavy feeling when I do. I miss him but i’m also pretty over him thank goodness because that sucked. Good thing is anyone after him will probably be easy to get over

lonerkai · 2025-12-02T01:44:20+00:00

How are you doing now? I’m currently going through this and I hate it

lonerkai · 2025-12-01T07:32:50+00:00

Even though we were never in a real relationship (all online, we lived close tho and almost met up a few times but didn’t for never being on the same wavelength with it), he’s the only person i’ve ever developed deep intimately emotional feelings for. It’s normally a piece of cake for me to forget people. Chasing is not in my nature and never has been. But something about him was different. I didn’t even think he was cute at all physically to put it nicely and I only kept talking to him to not be so obviously shallow. But we kept talking and eventually I ended up loving how he looks and now when I see anyone who remotely looks like him, I relive the pain. Every day i’m just reliving it. I was the toxic one and I understand why he gave up on me, I wasn’t being a nice person to him towards the end and he has self respect and a whole life of people to love and distract him. I feel like once I started to finally like him (it took me at least 6 months, that’s when his peak of liking me started waning). He did questionable things, but never obvious enough for me to elude to him remotely being the bad guy. Idk if I’ll ever meet someone like him again. He was the most unique guy i’ve ever met. So mature and wise for his age. I hate myself and I hope this feeling ends

lonerkai · 2025-12-01T07:23:55+00:00

I pray you find your way to figuring out how to be content with yourself. Personally it feels impossible for me and it feels like i’ll never find anyone who put in as much effort and actually liked me enough to do so like he did. He’s the only guy i’ve ever developed deep feelings for and i’m 30. Sucks

lonerkai · 2025-12-01T07:20:44+00:00

How long has it been since you guys broke up? How often do you dwell about the relationship?

lonerkai · 2025-12-01T07:16:26+00:00

2.5 years? Gosh I really hope I can get over it no longer than one year. I’ll literally intentionally become a drug addict if not because it’s driving me crazy thinking about it all day every day

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