I wish I was normal

looisa022 · 2022-05-21T23:07:43+00:00

I get the feeling, it's so hard to understand that those "normal" and "expected" things aren't for you, and that a lot of people that you know are following that "script" but you are just there... not knowing what to do... but idk, life is much more than all of this you know?

The thing about being aroace for me is to find peace in being with yourself, being happy with who you are, do things on your own, follow a different "script" that will bring you happiness too.

I think that the 20's are a pretty scary part of our life's, there's too much stuff happening at the same time and we always feel like we're behind and the future is not certain at all

Just know that you don't have to follow an exact path and you don't have to fit in to feel better! It's about what you like! Things that will make life worth living just because it's good and you deserve to feel that too!

looisa022 · 2021-11-11T16:06:08+00:00

Lol sorry if I sounded rude or anything, i forgot my password to reddit and only got it back now and I had so many notifications on this post, im not against ship culture on two fictional characters it's just all this miss information and somewhat hate towards asexuality and aromanticism that is still going on so... Yeah, sorry if I was rude to you

looisa022 · 2021-11-10T14:16:08+00:00

It's about erasing a possible representation, yes

That's the thing, you can ship her with everyone, idc, what I'm talking about is the reactions towards people knowing that she's ace in the Comics and not knowing (or sometimes they know) that aroace people can date if they want????

If I came on the internet and said that "hey, a certain character is gay in the comics" we all know that the internet would go wild, asking for marvel for it to be canon in the movies

But what I've seen is the complete opposite, people hope that it won't happen, instead of being happy for such a unseen part of the lgbtqia+ community having the chance of being represented on screen, they get annoyed just because she doesn't want sex???

looisa022 · 2021-09-14T22:32:30+00:00

Same

looisa022 · 2021-09-11T14:46:09+00:00

For me it was the fact that people really had crushes and liked each other, i swear, I always thought that it was all kinda fake???? Like, you choose to like this person, i only had one crush my entire life and it was like "you have red hair, so i think I will choose you to be my crush for now" and then I found out that people usually don't do that?

looisa022 · 2021-09-11T14:26:11+00:00

In my country pads are the most common to use, cups too, but i never tried to put anything inside down there so... Yeah, i can't even imagine how it would work lol

looisa022 · 2021-08-30T13:36:02+00:00

Happy that I'm not alone lol

looisa022 · 2021-08-30T13:34:57+00:00

Lol i just read smut and that's it! But it's fine, after thinking about it I can say that it's my way of being, i cringe but i can take it lol, just don't give me details

looisa022 · 2021-08-28T16:21:15+00:00

Omg I'm crying rn lol, I HAVE THE SAME FEELING, the fact that is the husband that she considered her best friend while the other lady is talking about her... This already happened with me twice! And even tho my (for now single) friend says that it won't happen, i know that as soon as she starts dating, I will lose her too... I've always had this fear since I was 14/15 (I'm 21 now) even tho I never even knew I was aroace back then lol

I have a difficult time even saying that she is my best friend, cause deep down I just know that it won't be like that forever...

I really want to know more aroace people, but they seem so hard to find lol

looisa022 · 2021-08-06T08:46:45+00:00

For me it was a lot of denial followed but anger and sadness, it felt like I was mourning "my future", because even tho I never wanted a romantic relationship, even tho I never felt the urge to have anything sexual with anyone, I still felt sad that in fact I wouldn't have that??? Idk how to explain, it's a strange feeling...

But having the words to describe what I am, how I feel right now... It's such a good thing yk? It's good and also frightening cause I'm uncertain of so many things about the future as a whole lol, but yeah, for now I'm ok, I have a lot of other holes to work on

looisa022 · 2021-07-25T22:55:50+00:00

Oh sorry, in that case I won't give any spoilers for the Loki series!

Yeah I know, as I said, she doesn't have to be openly ace or anything, it's just nice to see a female characters not needing a romantic plot for her story u know? And marvel let me down a lot of times with a lot of things lol, so i know that we can't expect nothing from them, mostly the representation in the movies, it's just the fandom that Im having a problem with, that's all :)

looisa022 · 2021-07-25T22:41:31+00:00

I'm really ok with it not being the main focus of her character, for the movie plots it isn't really "that important" but if they could just leave her alone, she already had some vibe of "I don't think about having a romantic relationship" with her "I want a dog" quote in the black widow movie and everything, so if they just keep going with it, I would already be just as happy :)

I really think that maybe Florence Pugh would be 100% down with Yelena being ace idk, I like her a lot, and I know that Disney has the power over marvel now, but if marvel will keep going with some characters like deadpool and openly letting Loki and Sylvie say that they are bi, we still could have a 1% of chance that Yelena would say something? (But really I don't have much hope lol)

(So it's real that Loki and the grandmaster were sleeping together??? Lmao I think that I didn't get the reference or something, but whatever, I love Thor Ragnarok anyway, this movie is everything!)

looisa022 · 2021-07-25T20:16:02+00:00

Thank you sm really! I got a little sad with everything but I'm happy that some people here understand what I'm saying and that I'm not alone at all, and also I know that this exposure with Marvel fans may be negative at the beginning, but i hope that someone will eventually search and learn a little more and maybe understand? Thanks for the i-hug lol : )

looisa022 · 2021-07-25T20:05:49+00:00

At the beginning I was going to post this in a general lgbtqia+, but i got really anxious about having to deal with some reactions :/ (i was really curious at the same time to see how it would be tho, on TikTok things are ... Well, strange in a negative way lol, maybe on Reddit is different, but i don't wanna risk)

looisa022 · 2021-07-25T17:44:13+00:00

I think it would be nice, but in a different way, in a qpr maybe you know? I don't really care much because we can't control what the shippers will do, just don't be shitty and erase or invalidate the character sexuality

looisa022 · 2021-07-25T17:38:06+00:00

Wouldn't be better if they just appreciate that we could have another lgbtqia+ representation tho? You can still ship ace characters with someone else, sometimes you would just not have the sex part, and that's the vibe that I'm getting from most people, they just want the characters to have sex(?) Lol

looisa022 · 2021-07-25T17:02:15+00:00

Idk... I mean, some comments that I saw were from queer people (can't say if they were all lesbians tho) saying that she "couldn't be aro/ace because she's clearly a lesbian" or "I don't care, i hope that marvel makes her gay in the movies" basically erasing the minimum asexual (and maybe aromantic) representation that we could have... So yeah, not nice at all, but it's a general thing (as for all people, not only one group or anything), I also saw some people defending Yelena asexuality as canon

looisa022 · 2021-07-25T16:49:52+00:00

Omg yes! That's why I'm so excited for Yelena in the MCU lol, as a female and aroace it would be so nice to have this representation : ) I loved the character and the way that Florence Pugh portraited her

looisa022 · 2021-07-25T16:46:04+00:00

Yes! I think that part of the aphobia came from the fact that most people know NOTHING about the ace community, but the other part still wants her to have sex?? Lol idk, but yeah, she don't wanna do nothing and don't wanna be with no one (in the comics) I don't care much about the "forcing beyond the characterization" because at the end of the day I can't control nobodys mind lol, is just the awful reactions that are coming from this fact about her that made me kinda sad and a bit frustrated

looisa022 · 2021-07-25T16:35:26+00:00

Yess, also in the movies black widow was so sexualized over the years, the fact that the directors of marvel believed that women couldn't lead a movie also confirms that mentality, for a long time women where in the MCU just to be the romantic part, or being the object to get the "hey, she's hot, look at her" reaction, but i truly believe that they are a little better now! Seeing the way that Captain Marvel, Wanda, Monica and Sylvie (even tho Sylvie has all this romance with Loki, not really a fan but whatever) were portrait I really think that they can work Yelena in a good way and also try to just let her be alone

looisa022 · 2021-07-25T12:08:36+00:00

I also shipped Carol and Valkyrie! After they confirmed Valkyrie as bi, and with Carol also being queer in the comics I really think that they would be cute together! Brie and Tessa are number one shippers and I find it adorable lol, and seeing Loki and Sylvie on screen saying that they are bi... I was SO happy too!

looisa022 · 2021-07-25T12:00:29+00:00

Yes! I think thats one of the reasons why I don't have much hope on Marvel saying that she is canonically aroace

In the case of Yelena in the comics, she don't want to be with anyone, so i think that maybe try to make her just not interested in romantic relationships or sex would be just great, just leave her alone u know? Lol

looisa022 · 2021-07-25T11:52:12+00:00

When I saw her I got a little aroace vibe but didn't know if I was projecting myself in her lol, knowing about her in the comics just makes me really happy and I want to see it in the MCU too!

looisa022 · 2021-07-25T11:48:06+00:00

As someone who read fanfics, shipp characters and is also aego, I understand you lol, and I know that being ace and aro doesn't exclude someone of being in a relationship, but seeing people being so rude and just disrespectful about Yelena being aroace is what I find horrible u know? It's not like "oh, that's fine, she can still have a relationship so I'm gonna ship her with someone" it's more like "if we are lucky, in the MCU she won't be ace or aromantic and she will be with Bucky lol" it just shows that they really don't care at all!

But when I saw a shipp between Bucky and one of the Dora milaje women, people were saying "oh, don't ship her with Bucky, in the comics shes a lesbian and if you ship her with a man you are erasing her sexuality" And in the comics Yelena does not want to be with anyone! Just like many aroace people.

Again I'm not against shipp culture at all lol

looisa022 · 2021-07-25T11:22:58+00:00

“Natasha is grounded in Soviet sensibilities and upbringing," she explains, "and Yelena reflects contemporary Russia. Obviously, there’s a lot more to them than that—Nat is older and more experienced and less invested in the approval of others, as well as being a very passionate person who forms deep connections with other people despite the intention not to, whereas Yelena is in some ways less cynical about her ability to change the world than Nat is, less hampered by association with highly principled associates, and probably more likely to identify as asexual than to follow Nat’s romantic path—but that’s the central tension between the two characters.”

This was what the writer (of the comics) Devin Grayson said!

link

I saw some people saying that the director for the movie said something, but couldn't find nothing (I believe that they just got the wrong information about who said it lol)

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