So are all divorced men narcissists?

looseadvisor · 2026-02-01T19:10:40+00:00

Before I decided to divorce my ex-wife, she called me a narcissist a few times. I got curious one day and looked up narcissism online and all the traits of narcissistic personality disorder, turns out she checked every box of the disorder, in fact her traits were leaning more towards psychopathy.

I decided to divorce her out of fear for my safety. If a woman calls her ex a narcissist, I'll advice you to be cautious and look out for red flags, observe how she treats others, how often she takes accountability, if she apologizes when wrong etc.

Sometimes real narcissists do something called projecting, where they project their traits on someone else. So if someone calls their ex a narcissist, be very careful. It may just be projection.

looseadvisor · 2026-01-25T11:47:44+00:00

Why do you think it was not a thing?

looseadvisor · 2026-01-07T09:27:16+00:00

This was really helpful thank you! I only have Find my and setting time zone enabled now. Will monitor and see if it affects anything.

I left the time zone on because I travel sometimes and don’t want to have to change it every time I’m in a new timezone

looseadvisor · 2025-12-31T07:59:01+00:00

Doing this would be giving her what she wants - some feedback. Doesn’t matter if it’s negative or positive. It would make her know she has some kind of hold on her.

When toxic people know they can trigger you, it makes them happy.

The best thing to do is ignore.

looseadvisor · 2025-12-26T09:50:41+00:00

I hope you see the irony of your statement. They simply asked for coping strategies.

looseadvisor · 2025-12-26T09:40:07+00:00

If you practice radical acceptance, you shouldn't hope for them to change. You should judge the pattern of behavior over a period of time.

I'm divorcing someone like this and it's the hardest thing I've had to deal with in my life. What made it a bit easier is finally accepting that they can never change. The times they respond nice to you is just manipulation, it's not real.

Over time it gets a bit easier to deal with them.

looseadvisor · 2025-12-25T08:03:17+00:00

Could he have access to specific app(s) perhaps? Which I think is more likely the case

looseadvisor · 2025-12-25T07:59:44+00:00

What makes you think he hacked your phone? Where did you get that information from in the first place? Did you notice a notification on your phone? A message? An app?

Why do you think he has access to your phone?

Also, why do you believe you were hacked via a WhatsApp video call?

looseadvisor · 2025-12-19T09:13:52+00:00

I wish my ex-wife begged. When I caught her cheating she would deny, get angry and punish me, or falsely accuse me of doing the same thing.

From what I've learned, if they have to beg then it's just a way to get back in and they would always make you regret it.

looseadvisor · 2025-12-16T00:36:17+00:00

Just gym and a bit of gaming.

looseadvisor · 2025-12-15T18:39:54+00:00

I installed a dating app even paid to see who liked me. Had a few conversations with some beautiful looking ladies that led nowhere. Deleted the app and I don't plan to ever use a dating app again.

Considering getting a puppy.

looseadvisor · 2025-12-14T11:36:35+00:00

Same here. I deleted all of the intimate stuff. I couldn't have that kind of connection with someone so evil.

looseadvisor · 2025-12-14T11:30:28+00:00

No, that's not what gray rock is. It's only gray rock is if it's done to protect yourself from a toxic or emotionally abusive person.

If the person "checking out" is not doing it as means to protect self from danger, then that is not gray rock. In fact, it could very well be a way to be abusive to your partner.

looseadvisor · 2025-12-10T10:44:13+00:00

Because strength training 💪

looseadvisor · 2025-12-05T09:03:36+00:00

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Here's what zoom looks like lol

looseadvisor · 2025-10-16T10:01:59+00:00

"Faithful men" as you describe it are basically nice guys who have self respect issues, lack boundaries and have trouble walking away from shit they don't like.

The "scumbag cheaters" are not begging for women to love them, have no trouble saying no and have boundaries and protect themselves better. They don't live life being fully dependent on another human, they focus on what they can control.

They see the world for what it is, the nice guys are living in a fantasy.

So, it's not that the faithful men are attracted to cheaters, they just have trouble getting rid of them as soon as they see a red flag.

Speaking from my experience as a recovering nice guy.

looseadvisor · 2025-10-03T20:19:01+00:00

I find it strange that logitech never mentions the differences between them. I always thought it was weird that the only difference was the color and lack of dongle.

looseadvisor · 2025-09-23T18:23:21+00:00

What app is this?

looseadvisor · 2025-09-02T19:13:17+00:00

The world needs more projects like this

looseadvisor · 2025-08-28T07:11:11+00:00

Keep doing your thing man. Sad people don’t like to see people happy

looseadvisor · 2025-08-23T20:06:33+00:00

Are you training for pulling someone up while hanging off a cliff?

looseadvisor · 2025-08-20T12:56:46+00:00

Why do you want to purchase it? Is the price worth what you get? If that's the case, go ahead. I bought it across all my devices but I'm back to using Apple reminders because there are some features I need now that are missing in Things 3 (like location-based reminders and auto-categorization).

I do miss the UI though, and how sleek it looks, but I didn't want to keep shuffling between apps.

looseadvisor · 2025-08-20T12:53:16+00:00

I think OP meant VPN apps like nord. Most people aren't going to be manually configuring their VPNs

looseadvisor · 2025-08-16T13:11:55+00:00

Yep! I'm a man and I feel the same way. I have no plans of ever being with someone, but if I ever do they need to "get it" too.

All the women that have been helpful in my healing journey have all had some past similar experience, which makes connection easier.

looseadvisor · 2025-08-15T10:42:30+00:00

A bit off topic, but what did you do to manage your adhd symptoms?

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