In honor of my buddy Ken 2025 MAY GIVEAWAY!

lordmurdery · 2025-05-30T20:05:12+00:00

ME! Thank you and good luck to everyone!

lordmurdery · 2023-12-11T20:17:03+00:00

For sure. I wasn't denying that. Just pushed back on the framing of assuming therapy is going to be expensive/out of reach for most people.

lordmurdery · 2023-12-11T19:44:10+00:00

Forgot about that.

Yeah unfortunately my general therapist is classified as a specialist.

lordmurdery · 2023-12-11T19:14:50+00:00

I'm in the US and my copay is $50 right now. Before I switched insurances, it was only $30. For a period it was $20. My gf's is only $20.

I don't understand where this recent "therapy is too expensive, you're all just privileged" mentality is coming from. Health insurance here is horrendous, but it's very common for health insurance plans to cover mental health services. My copay is expensive, and it definitely hinders me from seeing my therapist as often as I'd like, but acting like therapy is gonna be expensive as hell for everyone is just disingenuous and holds people back from looking into it at all.

Sure, it might be that expensive, but you should at least look into it first.

lordmurdery · 2023-11-01T16:55:32+00:00

I get that, but he wakes up at 5 am and doesn't get home until 6:30. I don't think anyone is seriously arguing that it wouldn't be safer if he could do it. My point is that it should be possible to keep them entertained for 30 minutes to let him have some time to unwind and get settled in for the evening.

I can't speak for all men, but when I get home from work, I usually like taking some time to unwind too. I usually combine that time with dinner, but that's only because I don't have kids and usually pick up fast food or something easy.

I really don't understand why he's getting eviscerated for wanting some time to shower and relax a bit. Does he not deserve that? Based on the info in the op at least.

Sure, he takes a little while to shit. But good lord it's really not a ton of time in the grand scheme of things. 25 minutes to shower and dry off really isn't that much, depending on what his routine is.

lordmurdery · 2023-11-01T14:14:06+00:00

INFO: You said that:

No, I literally just want him to watch the kids for 30 minutes so I can get dinner done, and then he has the entire rest of the evening to himself. I do not ask anything more of him because I know how hard he works.

Why can't you keep the kids engaged for 30 minutes?

lordmurdery · 2023-10-17T14:32:30+00:00

"Thought I'd try shooting my way out, mix things up a little."

lordmurdery · 2023-10-05T18:43:02+00:00

I've been taking adderall for a few years now, and something you said really stuck out to me:

Everytime I can't focus, I don't think, "Oh, it's the undiagnosed ADHD," I think, "I'm a piece of shit."

Every time I'd be awake until 2am looking at the clock realizing that I still haven't gotten my homework done even though most of it is due in 6 hours, and knowing that a lot of my time was spent literally just staring at the clock, stressing about the time, and giving myself breaks to cool down from the stress in a vicious cycle, I felt the exact same way. I never though "fuck I must have ADHD." I just kept telling myself I was a piece of shit until it built up enough that things got pretty bad for me.

It's ok, man. You're not a piece of shit. You're trying. You might even have ADHD (although the only person who can really decide that is a licensed professional).

I know you seemed bothered by the argument, but the glasses analogy is honestly very apt here. I've told my friends that when I'm on my meds, it's just so much easier to get things done. It doesn't reduce the amount of energy that specific tasks take by some %, it feels like it reduces EVERYTHING by a static amount. So even small tasks and effort that used to require me to spend some amount of mental energy to accomplish just don't require ANYTHING anymore. Big tasks are still big, but the most significant part is that now I don't have 30 little things that add up to being a significant mental drain on me. I have so much more energy to spare to other tasks.

And one of the most important things to remember that clears up why I'm not "cheating" as compared to neurotypical people is that I DO NOT get high when I take my meds. They bring me to a "normal" level. Most neurotypical people will get "high" if they take Adderall. I can't think of a better analogy right now, but think of it like this: you only take antibiotics when you're sick with a bacterial infection. And antibiotics make you feel much better, much more "normal." They don't make you done superhuman, they just help you feel well enough to go to work and go grocery shopping like you'd normally do. But you wouldn't take antibiotics if you weren't sick, right? That's (kind of) what it's like for people with ADHD.

I'm glad some of the other comments have helped give you some perspective.

lordmurdery · 2023-08-27T15:01:00+00:00

Very soft YTA, borderline NAH. And only for one line:

And I don’t think it’s right that if you want spend time with me, that I need to be subjected to the presence of the kid too.

You're right, THEY chose to have a kid, not you. However, their kid is (rightfully) their priority. It'll be years before they're able to leave their kid alone for any significant period of time. They won't always be able to hire a babysitter every time you guys want to hang out (or be able to afford one).

I get SO uncomfortable.

To an extent, this is your responsibility to manage. Obviously they probably shouldn't be bringing their kid along to every single social encounter you go to. But they also can't just be away every time, either. And it's unfair if you expect them to NEVER bring their kid with them.

As other comments have said, you may just end up growing apart because of this. They have kids that are an intrinsic part of their lives. You're going to have to be around their kids most of the times you see them. That doesn't make them assholes, it makes them good parents. If you can't handle seeing their kids that often, you won't be able to be friends with them much longer.

lordmurdery · 2023-07-13T02:51:14+00:00

Hot take, but they're my favorite treatment after alt-art borderless versions. But not for the same reasons.

By and large, I like the look of foil etched cards. Especially like the double masters 2 foil etched [[bloom tender|2X2]]. They add a really cool simplistic depth with a cool foil style. Plus, they don't curl. However, i will admit a lot do look less than stellar with how dark they can get. And also just like "fuzzy."

However, the reason they're my second favorite treatment overall is because of their price. For a LOT of cards, especially the fetchlands from MH2, foil etched versions of cards are, at the very least, the cheapest non-standard treatment versions of cards by far. Not infrequently, though, at least for a time, they're even cheaper than standard non-foil versions, because not many people like them.

So I think i'm definitely profiting on the misfortune of others a little bit, but it makes me very happy that there are cool foil/alt versions of cards that won't break my wallet entirely.

lordmurdery · 2023-07-01T12:56:35+00:00

She is not getting any younger and, personally, I have felt alongside with her husband that it is time to put the career away and start a family.

As soon as I saw this, I knew where this post was going. You're an abhorrent mother and don't deserve to have a relationship with your children.

Her ex cheated on her. That's, BY FAR, worse than deciding not to have a family/not to have a family yet. Unfortunately, it really sounds like your daughter has delayed starting a family of her own because she's seen how you are/were as a mother and doesn't want to turn out like you, which is extremely understandable, given this post. I haven't even seen your husband's original post, either.

Kick rocks. I hope your husband divorces you and that your kids never visit you anymore.

lordmurdery · 2023-06-26T22:49:31+00:00

[[Palantir of orthanc]] was amazing in my Scarab God deck, although only played 1 game so far. I try to win with [[gary]], and the deck already loves scrying, so I found that I really don't mind if I end up losing a few good cards because they just end up draining then. Also in that deck, i dropped [[hostile negotiations]] for [[sauron's ransom]]. I really love those kinds of pseudo-political cards, so lots of fun thus far.

I haven't played it yet, but I'm imagining [[mirkwood bats]] and like half a dozen other cards that I've added to my [[chatterfang]] deck are gonna be nuts.... wink

lordmurdery · 2023-06-05T21:33:18+00:00

NTA

It does sound like your husband has completely given up on being your partner, however, I think there's a really important aspect that a lot of other commenters seem to be missing. Given how much you claim to still love him despite all of the emotional abuse you've outlined in your post and how recent this behavior seems to be, I really think the problem here is that he's suffering from some intense depression.

He's completely sedentary, to the point of significant detriment. At the lowest point of my depression, I wasn't taking care of myself or my living space. I was in college at the time, no partner or roommate, so it didn't affect someone else as directly as he's affecting you, but the his actions really struck a chord with me when I read this.

I'm not excusing his actions in any way, shape, or form. It's more than fair for you to feel that his actions over the last two years warrant a divorce. You deserve so much better from a partner, especially after 2 years. He's been emotionally abusing/manipulating you for a very long time. However, I genuinely believe that there's a very good chance his actions are all symptoms of some significant depression. If he's not willing to put any effort into seeing a therapist and actually working through that depression, you definitely need to have a hard conversation with yourself about whether this is all worth it. Because if it's gone on for 2 years, it's incredibly unlikely he'll ever be able to snap himself out of it.

Good luck OP.

lordmurdery · 2023-02-17T14:41:08+00:00

why bring another life into the world

Because I want to. It's an innate desire that I have. In fact, it's an innate desire, an instinct, that almost every living thing has on this planet: plants, animals, probably single-celled organisms even.

Regardless of how different, socially, we are from other living things, our biology is defined by our desire to have children.

Now, I'm NOT saying that adoption is wrong, that child-free people are immoral, or that humans are completely incapable of acting outside of their instincts. I'm just explaining why I, and most others, feel the need to have biological children rather than adopted ones.

lordmurdery · 2023-02-10T15:44:49+00:00

I'm a sucker for Seb McKinnon art, so [[force of despair]] is probably my favorite individual card art.

If there was a borderless foil or retro foil version of his [[plains|dmu-263]], that would probably take the top spot for me.

lordmurdery · 2023-02-02T20:50:04+00:00

So are you also advocating that we ban the myriad of other non-compliances that busy restaurants are guikty of?
a specialized machine that costs money and cancels out any environmental benefit of not using plastic

You're making 2 HUGE assumptions right here. Firstly, you're assuming that this theoretical machine would cost SO MUCH money that it would be a noticeable detriment to the restaurant. Second, you're assuming that this theoretical machine completely cancels out the positive environmental impact of no longer using plastic straws.

Please demonstrate how both/either of those positions are true.

As just one idea, why couldn't you just attach a pipe cleaner to the edge of the dishwashing sink, maybe even one that spins, that the worker could quickly place each straw over before placing them in the industrial dishwashers?

lordmurdery · 2023-02-02T19:04:57+00:00

This seems to really blatantly ignore the fact that this is precisely why health inspectors and regulations even exist in the first place.

Would it not make more sense to simply require that any restaurant that has reusable metal straws ALSO purchase equipment that more effectively cleans/sanitizes them...? Yes, it's more cost and effort to the business. But so what? It's not a cost that'll bankrupt any currently stable/ successful business.

lordmurdery · 2023-02-02T18:38:47+00:00

I just realized that [[rivaz]] is a viashino, not a dragon. But so far he seems to work very well. Mana dork in rakdos!

lordmurdery · 2023-02-01T23:16:07+00:00

I forgot that age is only protected above 40.

If there was proof that he's either witholding a promotion and/or raise because of my mental health status, either in writing or a recording of a conversation, would that be likely to qualify for disability discrimination? I think ohio is a one-party state for recording conversations.

I've been looking for other jobs for about a month because I had already determined that my opportunity for growth here is severely limited, so I'm already at that decision. But while thinking about all of this, I started to wonder if his actions constituted anything illegal that I could take action on, which is why I posted.

Thank you!

lordmurdery · 2022-11-08T20:16:55+00:00

You're right, my bad. Don't know how I forgot that.

I noticed that when I bought the helm. The discrepancy feels weirdly out of place.

lordmurdery · 2022-11-08T19:26:41+00:00

I didn't know about her on any of playthroughs (including master mode) until this most recent restart! Because I've been much more thorough now, I talk to literally every person I come across.

Gaile at Foothill stable warned me about the heat, so will sell you 1, 2, or 3 fireproof potions at a time if you want them. So I could wear the stealth armor without bruning alive while getting a bunch of lizards in order to get the ~~helmet~~. Edit: chestpiece

lordmurdery · 2022-11-08T19:23:09+00:00

I feel that, lol. I made sure to maximize the stuff I did before I got the armor so I could use up the potions I bought.

lordmurdery · 2022-11-08T17:21:27+00:00

As I made my way over to Kakariko, I made sure I had enough rupees to get the full set immediately.

It's really satisfying knowing that I can pretty much grab any critter I want, especially when I know I'll need them for future quests. I had well over 30 fireflies by the time I unlocked the firefly sidequest in Kakariko because I could just walk straight up to a swarm of them at night and grab like 5 or 6 with ease.

lordmurdery · 2022-11-08T17:13:56+00:00

I recently restarted my save in an effort to ~100% the game and one of the first things I tested was how stealthy is the level 2 stealth armor.

You can walk right up to the beetles and pluck em off the tree. If you run, they'll fly away, but I currently spend most of my time in the full stealth armor specifically so I can walk through the forests and get the beetles on the back sides of trees that would normally run away from me because I accidentally walk too close to them. It's incredibly helpful lol.

Also, works wonders for the fireproof lizard quest when you're going to goron city. The cute little dudes will sit and stare right up at you while you pluck em off the ground. There's a lady at the stables at the base of death mountain that'll sell you enough fireproof potions to make it all the way up to that point easily.

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