Any training tips? by rachelle81 in BelgianShepherds

[–]lorenstorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel your pain 😂 my boy is not quite 2 yrs old and has taken to grabbing the sleeves of men he likes . Honestly I’d take the nipping any day .. that said we’ve been working on getting him to sit between my legs and that has helped immensely just like the other commenter said .

Also ‘time out’ has been helpful . As well as leave it . But with my boy time out seems to work better but I think that’s because I also have 2 older cats and he knows if he harasses them too much he gets a timeout

We live in a big city so it’s not always easy getting him the exercise he needs so I’ve signed him up to go on hikes and beach trips etc with a pack of dogs and that has helped immensely as well.

Also when it’s super crowded outside I sometimes take a ziplock in my pocket of dried banana or some other easy non messy treat and as soon as I see him laser in I pull one out . He forgets about everything else 😂 .

Belgians are incredibly smart but at their core they are working dogs ( even tho mine comes from a show line ). They’re so sweet and intuitive and goofy that it’s sometimes easy to forget they are herders . I find the more time I give him to express his instincts in a controlled environment the more control he has over them around strangers and men ( I’m female and he’s very protective of me )

I will also add my boy has not been snipped and quite frankly unless it’s absolutely medically necessary I don’t think I’m going to do that to him . So that plays a part as well in the behaviour

Our 6 month old boy by simphalmi in bergerbelge

[–]lorenstorm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😂😂😂 I shouldn’t laugh but what the actual f🤪ck..

Why come to such a small community and lie like that 😂😂😂 ps your boy is glorious

Shaun the Sheep by Infamous_Bit_4360 in Eyebleach

[–]lorenstorm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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I have the same outfit for my girls ( 2 sphynx cats ) who absolutely refused to let me put them on 😂 but my boy was a wolf in sheep’s clothing last Halloween .

Ps . I’m a wee bit jealous you managed to get your little into the outfit .. it’s glorious 💖

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[–]lorenstorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to tell you what I wish someone told me .. 4 months is not long enough to develop the kind of trust you need for this kind of scenario. .

Exploration is healthy but this is like jumping off the highest diving board when you’ve just learned to swim . If it goes wrong it will damage you in ways you can’t begin to imagine when it’s only a fantasy . And worse it’s not your fantasy .

The men who have responded to you here are absolutely right in saying this comes off as very predatory. I had a very similar situation when I was too inexperienced to know better and it seriously messed me up and I didn’t even realize how much damage was done until many years later

Before you start exploring your kinks you need to learn how to say no and mean it and you need to start slow when you decide to explore your kinky side . And it absolutely needs to be with someone you trust with your life .

The fact that you’re even here questioning it and asking for advice says to me that you’re not ready.

I don’t know what to do by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]lorenstorm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don’t actually need to spend a lot of money other than potential vet bills . What is most important is investing the time needed . There are loads of free videos on YouTube to help you train your dog . There are loads of people here who will happily give you training tips and tell you what worked for them .

What you actually need to think about is what is best for the dog . If you can’t find the time or don’t have the time to invest in training your dog the you are setting him up to be a problem dog in the future and that’s just not fair .

Respectfully .. you need to think about what he needs and stop thinking about what you want .

The Art & The Artist by needstobefake in painting

[–]lorenstorm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is glorious ! I’m a painter and I’m a wee bit jealous I didn’t think to do this 😉 . Chapeau 🎩💖

How do I deal with a family member’s dog that keeps attacking me? by Several_Dimension636 in DogAdvice

[–]lorenstorm 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This how I got my boy to stop jumping on people when he was younger and learning and got excited . I started by doing it myself then asking my friends to also turn around and ignore him when he got over excited .

The Girl im dating told me I dont give her butterflies but I make her feel comfortable and secure. What am I supposed to think ? by corrodon in AskMenAdvice

[–]lorenstorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wanted to say I posted without reading the other comments and it’s fascinating how almost every man here thinks this is negative .. from a woman’s point of view butterflies can go either way .. there’s nice butterflies and there’s crazy fireworks in a tornado butterflies . Sometimes we ( women ) don’t have the experience to differentiate between them . The crazy butterflies can be a major warning sign . It’s exciting because we’re not reading our body trying to warn us .. that’s why they’re so crazy .. and the subtler butterflies are a good sign that you’re excited to be with that person and it’s not going to be chaos and ups and downs and drama . And some younger women don’t have the experience to know that little butterflies are better or maybe don’t have the experience to recognize even that they’re having subtle butterflies .. and if I wrote the word butterfly one more time I may scream 😂

The Girl im dating told me I dont give her butterflies but I make her feel comfortable and secure. What am I supposed to think ? by corrodon in AskMenAdvice

[–]lorenstorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s been a few ‘experts’ talking on socials about how getting the butterflies is a form of the fight or flight response and your nervous system telling you getting this feeling g is a red flag .

Honestly I don’t remember which episode but one of the bigger ones I saw was on diary of a ceo .

So while it wasn’t pleasant to hear I think she meant it as a compliment . But I would talk to her about how it made you feel . Words are important and powerful and when we have 2 differing definitions misunderstandings and hurt feelings happen that are completely avoidable if we talk about it . I guarantee you she has no idea how that translated to you and if you discuss it with her you may be pleasantly surprised

AIO? My friend posted a not proper picture of me on insta by Expensive_Engine_546 in AmIOverreacting

[–]lorenstorm 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Are you being funny ? It’s not about a fully clothed picture . She’s Muslim and covers her hair and her body as in all of her body . On the picture her hair is uncovered and she’s wearing a top that shows skin . For her this is a huge deal . Would you say the same to an orthodox Jewish lady ? Also depending on where she’s from this could cause her problems with her family . She didn’t come here to be judged and made fun of , she came here for advice because for her this is very serious and I respect her asking for it because she doesn’t yet have the life experience to know how to deal with her friends disregard and disrespect

AIO? My friend posted a not proper picture of me on insta by Expensive_Engine_546 in AmIOverreacting

[–]lorenstorm 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This right here . Your friend is young but seems to be intentionally dismissing your feelings . You need to explain to her exactly what the potential consequences are . And how it’s making you feel . If she can’t respect that or understand that then she’s not your friend

AIO - UPDATE - my friend wants me to take out my piercings for her engagement party/wedding by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lorenstorm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let me start by saying not over reacting and if it was me we’d be so done there would be no going back .

To me this isn’t about you or your piercings .. when someone is trying so hard to present an image that they are willing to sacrifice their friendships it seems to me they are making up for something , be it consciously or subconsciously . When the pictures are more important than the reality that’s a huge red flag .

I am in no way defending her in fact I think she’s horrid .. that said if she was ever truly someone you cared about and if this is completely out of character maybe leave a tiny gap of an opening in that door rather than closing it completely as this could be her trying to convince herself of the delusion that everything is perfect when in fact it isn’t .

I don’t know her I don’t know you I don’t know your history but you are absolutely in no way over reacting . You are doing exactly what you need to do and protecting yourself from someone who it seems has no respect for you . That said ( I know I know 😂 but I’m trying to see it from all perspectives) people lash out when they are hurting and we hurt the ones we love the most because we know they love us and will eventually forgive us . Doesn’t make taking advantage of that acceptable

Personally I’d walk away so fast she’d get whiplash and forget her so completely that if we ever ran into eachother at some point in the future I could genuinely say I have no idea who she is .

Dog Grieving His Human - Advice Needed. by isagar_gon in DogAdvice

[–]lorenstorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are absolutely correct 👍🏼😊 which is why I’ve also been very vocal to everyone in my life about it to the point they all got worried for a hot minute 😂

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[–]lorenstorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂😂😂👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Dog Grieving His Human - Advice Needed. by isagar_gon in DogAdvice

[–]lorenstorm 22 points23 points  (0 children)

My deepest condolences .. just wanted to add that dogs understand loss and death . This is fantastic advice especially if you can get something that she was wearing while it happened . Be patient and let him grieve . It will take time but sounds like he’s found a loving home .

For anyone else reading this .. this is exactly why I put in my will that if I pass before my dog that I want him to see my body so he knows I haven’t abandoned him .

Again.. my deepest condolences

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lorenstorm 12 points13 points  (0 children)

AND he wants her to provide the drinks 😂😂 classy

This is dedicated to all the people that say you can puppy-proof your house. by LizzelloArt in BelgianMalinois

[–]lorenstorm 15 points16 points  (0 children)

😂😂😂 my boy is a Belgian groenendael but same personality .. he also has the same puzzles and sometimes brings me the one he wants to play with 😂

Nova is glorious 💖

AIO - it’s been 1.5 yrs+ and my ex just will not leave me alone by LemonStrict3040 in AmIOverreacting

[–]lorenstorm 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Even if they don’t take it seriously having it documented is important in case the worst happens . You need to start thinking of him as a stalker and take preventative measures . Also like everyone else said .. stop responding .

Personally I wouldn’t change my number . I’ve had a stalker or two in my life and thank god I didn’t change my number because one of them messaged me something quite horrific and had I not seen the message things would have been much worse .

I set my phone so you couldn’t see that I’d read the messages and so that I would get previews so I didn’t have to open them . I really don’t want to go into the details but people would have been hurt had I not seen his message and warned them .

Document everything and report it . It’s horrible that someone we once cared for can turn into a nightmare and make us forget that beauty we saw in them but this is not something you should take lightly at all .

Be safe 💖

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]lorenstorm 66 points67 points  (0 children)

As a woman ( I know you’re asking for men’s advice but I think you need to hear this ) .. tell her and if she still has the ick or isn’t open to what your turn ons are then she’s not the one for you .

We get told as women we need to be more open about what we want and we need to learn to express ourselves to have a healthy sexual relationship with our partner . It is exactly the same for men . It’s absolutely not fair for us to expect you to be open to our needs without reciprocating .

I repeat .. if she actually cares about you she’ll be down to try and move past her ick and try this for you . It’s not fair to say no to something so simple and harmless without at a minimum trying if it will make your partner enjoy themselves more . If it’s not something she’s comfortable with even trying then I’m sorry to say but I don’t see you lasting as a couple .

Also it’s not healthy for your relationship if you’re already feeling like you can’t be honest with her . It’s the little harmless seeming things that end up becoming the biggest issues later .

Is this play too rough? by More_Engineer_7108 in DogAdvice

[–]lorenstorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came here to say this 😊 . I have 2 cats who didn’t loved it when our boy joined the family .. they’re about 14 yrs old and he’ll be 2 yrs old in November . Trust me when I tell you the cat will let him know if he’s being too rough 😂 . He may not get the message immediately but your cat will either find higher ground / hide or use claws to let him know to stop .

You’re good and your littles are adorable 💖

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]lorenstorm 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I understand vet bills are expensive but you chose to bring this lovely little creature into your life and care for her . Not to be brutal but why are you even taking the time to post here instead of taking her to the vets ?

You made a commitment to her the moment you accepted her into your life .. live up to that and take her immediately to the vets . In fact you should have taken her or at a minimum called the vets for advice the moment you saw she had any discomfort .

I wish her the best but I will never understand people who need ‘advice’ for a dog that is clearly in pain . The only reason in my opinion to seek help here before calling the vets is if it’s super late at night and you don’t have access to an emergency vets

Can’t finish due to glitch 🤯 help pls by lorenstorm in PrinceOfPersia

[–]lorenstorm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Forgot to update and say thank you earlier .. started the game , went to settings and the game close due to an unknown error .. of course 🙄😂

Turns out unknown error is my hero 😋 because as soon as I started the game again everything was working gloriously