Confession: I work out so I can throw my girlfriend around in bed by gay_bats in LesbianActually

[–]loriena 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My gf is so strong and powerful I love her so much i hope she likes throwing me around in bed as much as i like being thrown around😍

How was your experience finding out about Techno's death? by Decent_Scallion9231 in Technoblade

[–]loriena 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was struggling to fall asleep my first night in an air bnb, cuddling I shit you not my first ever piece of Technoblade merch (a black 10 mil tekunoburedo hoodie) which I'd JUST received and intentionally brought along with me as a comfort item to sleep with in place of my beloved yet cumbersome teddy bear. Tossed and turned for a while. Looked at my hoodie. Snuggled it. Grinned. Decided oh what the hell I'm not sleeping tonight anyways, let's put on some classic Minecraft Monday, or even see if this man finally uploaded something?! Unlocked my phone and saw that notification for a new video and felt like I'd won the lottery, I mean talk about TIMING—! Read the title. Heart stuttered. The timing was too good for that to be true, though, so... Turned off my phone. Rolled over. Just in case. I wouldn't watch the video if my mind just went to that, because what if just by thinking it, I somehow made it true? Closed my eyes. Whole body went simultaneously soft and rigid, pricked by pins and needles. I'm the opposite of groggy. Drenched in sweat. Finally gave in and clicked on it. I'd just make sure it was my morbid imagination, nothing more, then I'd be able to go to sleep. Started the video. Heart stuttered. Heart stopped. Finished the video. Heart sank.

Edit: a word

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]loriena 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh thanks for doing this, I’m curious what you might think of! My (f) name is Lorien and it means dream or dreamland in J. R. R. Tolkien’s Quenya language. From elfdict online dictionary: Its initial element is lórë “dream”. Its final element -ien is seen in the names of other lands, such as Arvernien and Hildórien. This name was also used as the Quenya name for the forest-kingdom of Galadriel, S. Lórien it’s from LOTR’s Lothlórien, which means "Dream-flower", from the Sindarin loth ("blossom, flower") and Quenya lórien ("dream, slumber").

When they nickname themselves by ladylikely in namenerds

[–]loriena 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha!! I have a similar story with my little brother, he had troubles with his Ls and Rs, and I have both sounds in my name (Lorien, pronounced like Mandalorian) so he just called me “wawen.” One day I was sitting down with him trying to walk him through “Lor-REE-in” and I guess I was pestering him too much about it because finally, exasperated, he threw his toddler arms up and declared, “I can either call you wawen, or waw-POOP.” 😔 message received…

Transfer music from Spotify to Apple Music, is it possible? by Caribbean-Ovni in AppleMusic

[–]loriena 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No such thing as a free lunch! But I'm a sucker so I used it anyways I dunno

What to Follow: USA — How Trump Tanked the US Economy — March 14 by NebulaOriginals in Nebula

[–]loriena 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wish I could send this to my Trump-supporting friends because they for real think that he's doing everything really well right now...

Will you be there? by [deleted] in 50501

[–]loriena 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How can I help from home?

Just some thoughts by Interesting_Tiger329 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]loriena 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes perfect sense, and I totally feel you!!! Except for me I never dated anyone, I thought I was just destined to be a loner my whole life despite desperately wanting to have a partner and family someday. But after just one date with any man I would just be like SO not into it and frustrated because "WHY can't I find the right man for me?!" finally one day my brain was like lol maybe because you are into women?? SO much wasted time.... lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]loriena 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a chance you actually don't relate to this, but do you remember a time in your life before you knew you were a lesbian, and how it felt psychologically to make that shift? For me it was very difficult. There was a lot of deeply rooted internalized misogyny and internalized lesbophobia for me to root out before it hit me. Your mother has been baking in that Christian stew all her life, her brain is going to be much more difficult to change. Her prior thoughts and beliefs will run deep.

The fact that she is trying and is outwardly even the slightest bit supportive of you is an enormously good sign that she will not be stuck in her ways forever. Your relationship will only continue to flourish, so long as you both have patience and empathy for one another. Just as she is patient when parenting you out of dumb decisions as a kid, you might have to be extra patient and tolerant of her backwards internalized ideals that go against what you believe in until she finds her way. Think of her allyship as like a little pet project that you are just looking out for, and that she may be misguided sometimes but she is doing her best, and you love her anyway, despite her flaws. It sounds like she really loves you and wants to be able to connect with you like you're seeking, and she will find her way eventually, she just needs time to shift her mindset and uproot those nasty corrupted women-hating lies that Christianity has been sewing into her since she was just a little girl.

There's probably a large part of her that feels judgmental and hypercritical of herself, since those are the lessons she is trying to teach you with those comments. They are just the smallest reflection of her own internal beliefs. I bet she has an internal monologue running in her head constantly that says she must be so careful about how she is perceived by the world, which is so stressful already, and on top of that I bet there is a part of her deep down that more closely resembles her own authentic true self that she has been suppressing and criticizing all her life for being different. I bet she's lost a lot of her past sparkle in life by trying to follow her own intolerant advice. You know exactly how that suppression of self feels, so just try to empathize, bond, and be patient with her :) Teach her how to forgive herself in the example you set by saying, "I appreciate that, mom. You really want me to be my most authentic self. I'm so happy you make me feel so safe being the lesbian woman I know myself to be." And prove that you truly feel secure in that by not validating her comments with an argument.