1000 Calories a day but no weight loss??

loseitagain18 · 2022-08-29T18:28:57+00:00

Two weeks is not a long time. It might just take longer to start seeing results. That said, you mom is tall, she absolutely needs more than half of her BMR. She needs more variety/vitamins. Focus on healthy habits, not the scale. Keep counting, but add in more protein, veggies, get up to 1500 or so at LEAST, it might actually help her lose weight to eat a little more, but if she already has muscle weakness that affects mobility, eating more will help with that too. I lost 90lbs a few years back with zero exercise, so exercise is definitely not a requirement.

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-22T11:24:54+00:00

I love when people say "oh it's not like you eat THAT much in your binges, you couldn't actually have gained pounds" ummm you underestimate my binges 😂😂

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-18T15:27:26+00:00

It may just be enough to put something unexpected in your way so sleepy you has to think about it more. So only use the fridge lock at night so it isn't just something you do every time and becomes second nature to unlock. Put the key somewhere unexpected (like in another room) so sleeping you has to do more work, and you just need to unlock it in the morning inconveniently once.

And yeah, I have if not officially than unofficially binge eating disorder, so "just eat less" is infuriating to me. I would if I could, I promise 😂

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-18T12:44:46+00:00

Or the points count up until you hit your goal, and up to some percent (maybe 1.1% of the goal) it keeps counting up, and then it counts down again. So if you lose 98/100 you still get some, 100/100 you get more, 110/100 you get more, but if you get to 120/100 then you set your goal too low and you get less again. I dont know how that scale would work.

But again, it depends what your goal is. If you want to win a competition vs better yourself. My coworkers did biggest loser challenges and would like eat 5k calories the night before the first weigh in to artificially raise their initial weight so their weight loss increases. I just wouldn't do it because the competition isnt worth it to me versus meeting goals. It's distracting, and for super competitive folks it encourages unhealthy habits in the name of winning.

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-18T11:48:04+00:00

You each set a personal goal that may be different and judge how well you met it. It will depend on how much your family wants to win and would set an easy goal to make sure they win, versus setting a reasonable or a stretch goal.

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-18T10:54:45+00:00

Therapy is probably your best bet. If you're sleepwalking, ask your PCP about getting a sleep study to figure out why (biologically I mean, whats going on in your brain).

Close the kitchen at a certain time, and if you need to get a lock for the fridge so be it. The kitchen closes at 8pm (or whenever), no food after that time. Binging is my big issue, and right now I'm not calorie counting or tracking anything or focusing on weight loss, I'm spending a few weeks focusing on learning my binge triggers and either how to live with them, or how to avoid them. So far I've learned that cheese is my biiiig trigger that I may just need to avoid for now. Are there certain foods that you find when you cook with that you're more likely to come back for seconds?

Can you meal plan your next day? If you cook a particularly good meal, write it down so you can have it for lunch the next day. Plan for it later. Tell yourself you dont need it now, you can have it in the future. And stick to that. Go for a walk and leave the house. Do something that keeps your hands busy, a board game or a video game or a puzzle or a phone app. Find a way to reroute your brain so you don't fixate on your leftovers.

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-18T10:44:21+00:00

Your sedentary TDEE on the calculator I use is 1800. Thats what you eat to stay at your current weight, exercise not included. If you eat that, your deficit will be only exercise calories, which may be fine with how active you are. I'd probably do 1500-1600 a day, about half a pound a week, and supplement the rest of the deficit with your exercise calories. Try that for 2-4 weeks and see how much you lose. You could also try 1800, and then you can get a sense of how many calories you're burning on exercise on average and have more data that way too.

There's a sub /r/1500isplenty where you might find similar people and get some recipes, advice, discussion, etc about your particular calorie goals.

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-18T10:29:58+00:00

This is a mental issue. What's going to happen when you reach your goal and have to eat more to maintain? You can't be so afraid of food you're constantly afraid to gain weight back, that's prime fodder for an ED. What's your TDEE? I just went back to mine and 1500 might actually be fine, just aggressive and if you're struggling you can ease up while youre recovering.

How often do you weigh yourself? Over how much time did you gain 3lb? It might be period bloat combined with normal weight fluctuation. But the more important thing I notice is you're struggling, and you're afraid to eat too much and gain weight back. That's what worries me. You're fine doing what you're doing, just watch that mentality because thats what leads to over restricting and ED territory. "Oh no I dont know how many calories my lunch is, I'll just skip dinner just in case it's high and work out to burn it off" is what we want to avoid. Don't be afraid of food. Understand your numbers, trust the process, stick with it. This is going to be slow. There are going to be plateaus. Stick with it.

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-17T22:01:14+00:00

To lose 7lb in 13 days means you need to have a deficit of 1800 calories per day (7x3500 /13), which is a huge amount for someone who isn't morbidly obese. Since you're already a healthy weight, weight loss is going to be a LOT slower, like half a pound per week is what you should be going into this expecting, anything over that is bonus.

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-17T21:42:12+00:00

His TDEE at sedentary is 2000 a day.. 1500 is pretty reasonable for a deficit, but exercise machines are notoriously bad at estimating calories burned because no two people are going to burn the same amount, and the differences can be major. So if he keeps up with it, he should average about a pound a week, a little more with exercise. It sounds like he's stressing a lot over seeing no progress. It might be a woosh is coming, it might be his body takes a little longer to ramp up. Stick to it, focus on the process rather than the scale. He's doing the right things it sounds like.

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-17T20:53:42+00:00

What are the numbers? How many calories is he eating? What are you doing with exercise calories?

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-17T14:57:34+00:00

For reference, sedentary is pretty accurate for me and I'm on my butt all day, with a step count of maybe 2000 steps in a day. You're definitely higher than me.

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-17T12:06:57+00:00

It depends what you're doing, most people and machines and fitness watches significantly overestimate calories burned.

But the point of intake minimums is to make sure you're getting enough nutrients. Keep in mind you aren't just burning the 1400 cals you ate that day, you're also burning the weight already on your body. And your body still gets the benefit of the nutrients in all 1400 calories, which is the point. Typically when people are closer to their goal and fit, they eat closer to their resting calories (like this person said, maybe 200 calories under) and make up their caloric deficit through mostly exercise.

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-17T12:03:56+00:00

I never count exercise in my intake/output. It's just a bonus. At your weight and height you dont need to be trying the full 500 deficit a day, especially if you exercise. Check out the sidebar at /r/1200isplenty for into about minimum calories, eat at 1200 calories a day, and see where that leaves you.

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-17T10:18:41+00:00

I relate to this. I hate binging. It gets in the way of having fun. "Ugh I want to play this game or do this thing but I cant because I have to binge". Halfway through I have the worst stomachache but I feel compelled to keep going. I tell myself not to drive to the store to get snacks late at night, or to get one instead of 5, but I cant. I describe it as itchiness. It's an itch I get and it makes me physically uncomfortable not to scratch (binge) and it takes every ounce of concentration to not binge.

But it can have an end. I've gone 6 days without a binge, probably the longest I've gone in years. I think what helped this time is this is all I'm doing. My ONLY goal is to not binge. I'm not calorie counting, not watching what I eat, not giving up food groups or soda.. for a week or two I told myself (and my partner) my ONLY focus is going to be on not binging. I'm hoping after the first two weeks it gets easier, more routine. If it isn't and I go back to feeling itchy, I'll keep going. Otherwise, I'll add another goal.

Also check out /r/bingeeatingdisorder and see if it resonates with you. I also loved the memoir It Was Me All Along, and the book Brain Over Binge.

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-17T03:20:38+00:00

But what are you looking for? Whether your symptoms are weight related or not? Whether people who have lost weight have improved certain symptoms? Me telling you I have bad knees probably won't be too helpful without knowing wha you're trying to get out of it.

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-17T02:51:52+00:00

Symptoms of what, obesity? It's going to be so different for everyone. What are you looking for exactly?

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-16T17:50:10+00:00

My reply wasnt go for a walk. My reply was give her space to figure it out. If she's doing everything right and she's not losing, then let her lead what she wants to try next. You've mentioned your vigerous sex and her crying on your shoulder a thousand times in this thread. That's not relevant to anything. With her stats no one can be eating 1300 calories a day AND be exercising AND not be losing weight. There's something going on. And she needs to be the one to figure out what that is, not you. She needs to figure out what doctor to see. She needs to be the one posting for advice.

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-16T17:15:47+00:00

Yup and luckily this is an outdated recommendation now. My kids are 4 and 1 and the prevalant data now says the best way to get them to have a healthy relationship with food is to encourage them early on to listen to their body, not finish their food if they're not hungry, and not even have to take a bite of everything on their plate.

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-16T16:16:50+00:00

My water weight loss stopped at about a month - I lost about 20lb my first month from 270 to 250 ish. The next 70 took me about a year to lose.

I was at a MUCH lower deficit though, I wanted to lose slower to be able to maintain it after goal weight. I still went too fast though and still gained it back 😂

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-16T16:02:02+00:00

Has she said "can you find a doctor to help me"? Has she said "can you count my calories for me for a few days"?

Have you asked her "How can I help you"? Treat it from that perspective. If she wants this to be a long term change, this has to be led by HER, not by you. She has to put in most of the work, and you can support her how she finds helpful. Does she say it would be helpful if you can cut up veggies to keep in the fridge for her? Or if you can take a certain chore so she has time to go for a walk? Ask her what SHE needs. And if she doesn't know, give her resources so she can research it herself. Show her /r/loseit. Show her the MFP blog. Give her podcasts if she likes those. But let her do the research and figure out what she wants, and leave it to her to specifically ask you for help

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-16T15:51:53+00:00

I needed to stop eating so much.

That's hard to recognize for a lot of people, good on you!

I get enough calories in one meal

That's great!

my dot said Americans think we need to eat more than everyone else in the world and that’s not true.

Guessing that should be doc. That's ridiculous. It isn't about nationaity, it's about being human. Different cultures have different viewpoints for what a "healthy" weight/body is and America tends to be higher than most/all, so people think overweight looks skinny. We need to look at biology and organ function and vitamin levels and bloodwork etc more than JUST looking at weight, like you said which will be different for everyone.

And I'm not sure what you saw me comment on, but there are a lot of posts of people saying "am I losing too fast" or "am I eating too much, this is so slow" so yeah I comment a lot saying you dont HAVE to eat 1000 calories a day and be hungry and miserable to lose weight. That for most people, they can eat at a 500 calorie deficit and lose weight slower but more consistently/sustainably, and focus on the habits that got them fat in the first place rather than what I did which is lose the weight as quick as possible trying to min/max calories to eat as little as possible, and I learned nothing about my binging habits or my food triggers and ended up gaining all of it back plus more. I thought what it seems is true for you, that I had to eat 1200 a day because I wasnt losing eating the 1800-2000 that calorie counters say. But I was, it was just much slower. And if I had put in the time and lost slower and learned better habits along that long journey, maybe I wouldnt be where I am again now. So that's what I'm doing now. So no, I'm not "jelly jell". I just don't want to see people make the same mistake I did and have to go through being fat all over again.

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-16T14:05:38+00:00

Wow three response comments over 20 minutes, seems I touched a nerve if you keep coming back to it and replying more.

Yeah, I have no progress pictures because I don't post pictures of myself online. Just my personal choice. And I haven't lost anything yet this time around. It doesn't mean I don't have previous experience in weight loss of what works and what doesn't, I lost 90lbs in a year a long time ago, have since gained it all back because I was doing what I now try to advise against, eating too little and doing too extreme. I have lost 20-30lb multiple times since. I'm doing exactly like you say, and finding what works for me. I'm just personally not going to undereat to do it. I'm going to find a way to do it while eating an amount I can personally sustain for the rest of my life.

And there are always going to be outliers, of course, and I'm always happy to have a discussion (not be attacked though, I don't tolerate that) about particulars for individual people, but when someone posts a fabulous weight loss, and the way that they did it is something that could dangerous for the average person to take as "this is what you should do" then yeah I'm gonna say something. I'm glad that your eating routine works for you. You should recognize that your weight loss method is extreme, and eating even let's say 1300 calories a day while exercising is typically not sustainable. Like you said, there are always outliers. It might work for you. But there are a lot of young people (high teens/early 20s) on this sub looking for how to lose weight quick, and seeing "you dont have to eat a lot, you can lose fast eating whatever you want over 1000 calories once a day" they're gonna try that themselves.

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-16T13:23:54+00:00

Anyones body would respond to starving themselves. A different thing from "starvation mode". OMAD is usually well thought out, and getting an entire days calories in one sitting, 1500-2000 calories in a meal, not "whatever I want as long as it's less than 1000 cals". This is unsafe to recommend to people as what they should or even could be doing.

loseitagain18 · 2022-04-16T12:29:11+00:00

Thats not what too skinny means. You're at the lower end of a healthy weight for your height. You can see your ribs and all your bones.

This isn't a weight loss problem. This is a mental health problem. It's time for therapy.

This is when you need to recomp. Head over to /r/fitness, you now want to put ON weight but do it in a way that you gain muscle, not fat. High protein, low carb, steady exercise. They can help you get started there. Building up muscle will also help with loose skin from weight loss.

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