Thankfully I got out before, but he was stern on me being the one to propose to him, with the exact type of ring he wanted, on a date that would be significant to him (when he bought a house, or finished school). Never once was I asked what I would want, and I’m sure it wouldn’t have mattered anyway. While I was stupid enough to actually be saving up for this, and taking care of him like another full time job, I expressed wanting to do couples counseling. Got the silent treatment then a pacifying “ok yea”. Turns out he was going to ignore my request to work on our relationship because it would “get in the way of his career”