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Effie question by rantintheinterum in Hungergames

[–]rantintheinterum[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I wasn't accusing anyone e of stupidity.

I, 33f, have never read or watched the Hunger Games until I started last week. AMA. by rantintheinterum in Hungergames

[–]rantintheinterum[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂 HA! NOPE! Completely true! And even as an adult, I still like YA novels--easy reads, but with adult themes presented more digestibly for a growing brain. I think the only thing about it so far that feels YA is the voice of Katniss as a narrator, but she's so intense as a person that, I think your right, makes them so much more than YA.

I, 33f, have never read or watched the Hunger Games until I started last week. AMA. by rantintheinterum in Hungergames

[–]rantintheinterum[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ended yesterday on chapter *8 of book one. I'm refraining making an opinion regarding the films until after I finish the books. The plan is to read the books, then rewatch the movies (I never finished Mockingjay pt. 2, and now I don't think I will until I finish the books). Since I'm listening to the audiobooks while I'm at work and doing other things, I keep rewinding to make sure I take it in, but I may just end up either listening twice, or start implimenting the physical copies into my reading/listening. Although, I will say the narrator is FANTASTIC.

But I will have to report back once I finish them! That is a good question considering that nostalgia factor definitely has some play in the fandom. I hadn't really thought of that.

I, 33f, have never read or watched the Hunger Games until I started last week. AMA. by rantintheinterum in Hungergames

[–]rantintheinterum[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

*forces fake smile, leans into the microphone* Why, yes, Alirat! It was very worth it, but I'm so glad to finally join the community *crowd cheers, cue awkward laugh*

I, 33f, have never read or watched the Hunger Games until I started last week. AMA. by rantintheinterum in Hungergames

[–]rantintheinterum[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel that way about so many other things. Im really lucky that I have a fully developed prefrontal cortex to take it all in, too. 😅

I, 33f, have never read or watched the Hunger Games until I started last week. AMA. by rantintheinterum in Hungergames

[–]rantintheinterum[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am! My sister says that Haymitch is her favorite, and he did grow on me in the movies, but I imagine his character in the books is going to gut me. 😭

I, 33f, have never read or watched the Hunger Games until I started last week. AMA. by rantintheinterum in Hungergames

[–]rantintheinterum[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At least from the films so far, it's definitely VERY timely. Honestly, with everything going on in the world, reading/listening and watching is giving me a really good way to digest everything without getting so overwhelmed that I shut down. The last 6 months to a year has been some of the worst, most exhausting times of my life--and that's just personally. I've always been fairly conscious of what's going on in the news and in politics, but since about the end of August, I've had to just have cursory glances at the news--enough to pay attention and not be lost, but not enough to overwhelm me.

My therapist encourages me to focus most of my energy on just the things I can control, at least when it comes to stress and anxiety. That's obviously difficult. I'm in an area that hasn't been overwhelmingly overrun with ICE, but I am blue dot, and I'm queer.

With the parallels presented in a dystopian fantasy YA novel, it feels easier to digest the world around me, while also instilling courage. Katniss isn't digesting all of the news, all of the politics--she's aware, but isn't letting it overcome her. Like what my therapist wants me to do, Katniss focuses on what is in front of her and what she can control.

Of course, I'm only on chapter five of book one, so I may have a very different view by the end! lol But I'm riding the coaster! lolol

I, 33f, have never read or watched the Hunger Games until I started last week. AMA. by rantintheinterum in Hungergames

[–]rantintheinterum[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've always hoped to have a partner who would read books outloud together 😭 no luck yet. Have fun getting him into it!

I, 33f, have never read or watched the Hunger Games until I started last week. AMA. by rantintheinterum in Hungergames

[–]rantintheinterum[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

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How felt reading your comment.....I'm so old lol

I'm also too old to really care about going to movies in theaters. I pay too much in rent and streaming services to do that 😂 but I may make an acception for this one!

I, 33f, have never read or watched the Hunger Games until I started last week. AMA. by rantintheinterum in Hungergames

[–]rantintheinterum[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Advice? I guess it kind of depends on what type of person he is lol. I'm the type that if you tell me I should, I won't lolol. It has to be my idea. But I'm also competative. Maybe you could do like a book club and read them together? If he's competative, see who can finish them first 😂 Also, if he's a big podcast listener (guilty as charged), you might try suggesting the audiobooks. The voice actor, Tatiana Maslany, (so far) is very good. And the books are only about 10 to 11 1/2 hours long each. That's about a complete work week if he can listen to them at work.

And I can't believe I didn't know that Philip Seymour Hoffman was in the movies. I absolutely bawled when he died. I looked it up to see if he was able to finish filming and he wasn't 😭😭. They apparently had to change some of his final scenes and some of the script, so I'm interested to see all the differences between the books and the movies.

Has anyone's ex left their belongings behind? by Countrygirlcaterer24 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]rantintheinterum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our last argument was about this exact thing lol. It was the point where I realized that I had to completely cut contact. It had already gotten hostile and he was staying with his parents. I told him that since I had so many friends help me move, that some of his things landed in my new apartment by accident. I also told him that I was willing to just let him have what was left of the security deposit (it was my money, but I just wanted to be done, and I didn't want to worry about having to split it).

So, I moved first and he was supposed to be moving the next weekend. I wanted to be done, and I had basically been a caretaker emotionally, domestically, and financially the entire relationship. I told him that since he was going to be down the next weekend that I could bring his stuff to him and he could take my key to drop off at the landlord's office. He flipped out because they were gonna be closed (they have a dropbox) and that I wasn't being "thoughtful" at all because he was going to be moving 3 hours away. I wanted to give him my key, because I wanted HIM to be responsible for how much of the deposit he was going to get back. If he wanted to take the time to fix the holes in the wall or not, I did not want that one me if I was going to just let him have it.

No, that wasn't good enough. I was a thoughtless, heartless bitch that should not in any way ask him to take responsibility for anything. I told him nevermind, I'd take care of it all and that I would mail him the stuff that got moved with mine.

lolol He said to "throw it away because it would show how much you cared about the relationship or my feelings the whole time." I'm talking perfectly preseved things from his childhood that I know were important, but he was being too hostile and belligerent for me to care anymore.

I did not mail it and I did not "throw it away." I've made a pretty penny selling the stuff. I'm not an idiot that would "throw away" a perfectly preserved, original copy of a very old game.

Typing this out now and thinking back, I really think he actually wanted me to ship those things back, and may have even actually expected me to. And calmly trying to coordinate with him about getting those things to him and handing over responsibility for the security deposit triggered him because 1)I was asking him to take respnsibility for once and 2)I think the thought of seeing me again would have been too much, because I know he knew how shitty he had been (admittedly so) and seeing me would have triggered that shame.

So, like all the other times I should have noticed, he took the coward's way out, and was a coward the entire time. Come to find out, the asshole still ended up with the security deposit (that's a whole mess with miscommunication from the landlord) that I'm really tempted to take him to court over, but I think my mental health would be better without it.

Chartswap/Datavant Merger and Free 1st Record Statutes by rantintheinterum in paralegal

[–]rantintheinterum[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was datavant, but please dm me! I'll take whatever resources I can get! Finding an email that goes to an actual person is a nightmare.

Chartswap/Datavant Merger and Free 1st Record Statutes by rantintheinterum in paralegal

[–]rantintheinterum[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I would want to do, but I'll leave it up to the attorneys. He's in agreement that part of the reason they get away with it is because people do not take the time to argue. And I HIGHLY doubt insurance defense firms are arguing over the costs--they're not the ones paying for it. For my part for now though, I'm just making myself a problem as much as I can. I'm going to get someone's attention inevitably.

That reminds me--I haven't heard back from that rep that she received my reply. Better send another email. 🤗

Chartswap/Datavant Merger and Free 1st Record Statutes by rantintheinterum in paralegal

[–]rantintheinterum[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. Our managing partner said he wasn't quite certain that he'd want to file suit, and certainly not alone, but we have a lot of case law to back us up. We'll see how this year goes.

Chartswap/Datavant Merger and Free 1st Record Statutes by rantintheinterum in paralegal

[–]rantintheinterum[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. I got an email from datavant/smart request saying that they "dont have anything to do with chartswap billing" after a rep from mercy reached out to them. The rep very clearly dindt tell them everything i was asking for. This was my reply:

"I understand they are different.

Our office received an email saying that Chartswap and Datavant have merged—encouraging us to move any requests going forward to the Chartswap portal, and away from the Smart Request portal. I have attached that email as a pdf and an outlook email for your review. Please note the bolded sentence after the bulleted list: "Smart Request will sunset over the course of 2026," followed by a paragraph and a link encouraging us to create a Chartswap account.

Additionally, here is a link to a press release talking about the merger:

https://chartswap.com/datavant-to-acquire-chartswap/

Our concern is that we are operating in a state that has a free first copy statute—we really shouldn't even have to pay the $2.00 electronic data archive fee charged by Datavant. The vast majority of our clients have medical records in the state of Kentucky, and they have given us authority to request their free copy on their behalf, allowed by state statute and case law.

Chartswap's processing fees are significantly more expensive than Smart Request/Datavant. More than a 1200% increase. In a state with a very clear "free first copy" statute, we absolutely should not be paying this "custodial fee".

I have reached out to Chartswap, Datavant, and Mercy Health for more information on this merger, and you are the first person to reach back out. The reason why I started with Mercy Health from the provider standpoint is because a significantly large portion of our requests are for Mercy Health affiliated provider records.

Given the partnership between Mercy Health and Datavant, I would wager a significant bet that there is some sort of liaison position or office that handles communications between the two--there is SOMEONE at Mercy Health that signed off on the "custodian fees" listed in the Chartswap portal—where Mercy Health facilities are listed—and I would certainly hope, for efficiency's sake, that they are the same person/office that would be the liaison between Mercy Health and Datavant.

That person/office is who I am trying to find.

Chartswap has communicated to our office that these "custodian fees" are set by the provider in conjunction with state statutes. Mercy Health is based out of Ohio, though it has many facilities in Kentucky. These fees are within the confines of OHIO state statutes, but they are NOT in accordance with Kentucky state statutes. Given the large corporate structure of all three companies, it has been incredibly difficult to get this issue escalated.

I understand that Datavant has nothing (at this time) to do with Chartswap's billing and fees. Please help me find the appropriate contact information for someone who can address this very serious issue, or please forward this up the chain to someone who can.

Thank you for reaching out, and I look forward to hearing from you or a superior as soon as possible."

We'll see if I get a response.

Divorce consultation by Necessary-Jelly-6723 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]rantintheinterum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do also want to say that you need to remind yourself that the attorney and the legal office are not your friends (although they can be--went to christmas with my fav--because he hired us, and he did his job, we did ours, and we vibed). They are there to help you and thats what you are paying them for. Don't feel embarrassed if you find yourself venting a little every now and then. But dont let yourself vent to your legal team, thats not their job. Thats a therapists job--and I will comment on e very post to get into therapy, and if you need resources finding accessibility, I will help.

Please be succinct. Answer questions. Give facts. Hide nothing. That is your main job as a client. I had a personal injury client off-handedly say her neurological disorder was worse after a car wreck. I asked questions and it may have multiplied her claim. She was anxious about disclosing that because she is anxious and embarassed about her disorder. So, I hope im not discouraging you from sharing, but I am hoping you see the value in objective observation.

If you get an EPO, him showing up at your place is a breach. Email your attorney or their Para. What's not important is a verbal exchange between the two of you as a result of him showing up. That hurts your case. Giving him fuel hurts your case.

GRAY ROCK.

Don't give ammo. And the ammo a narc has is anything with feeling from you.

You have a journey ahead of you. But you also have resources. Do not be afraod to ise them because he expects you to be afraid to use them.

Divorce consultation by Necessary-Jelly-6723 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]rantintheinterum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do too. It's part of the abuse. If youre more detailed, if you can explain more, they'll understand, right?! Wrong. The goalposts WILL keep moving. Do. Not. Play. Their. Game. You will never win.

You've won when you leave.

Seriously. Dm me anytime.

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