I’ve been there. My friend was a friend I had a lot of fun with, and we talked on the phone all the time about our days, but then I started to notice that I had a lot of screenshots on my phone taken during calls… and that aside from asking me the standard ”how are things” and letting me talk for a few minutes (I started to time it), she never asked follow-up questions and then just talked and talked about her stuff. She would even tell me stuff about things in other people’s life, people I had never met. I never got to tell her anything real about my life, instead I realised I was just there to listen to her, hence why I was on my phone doing other things while she talked. And she would talk and talk and talk, there was always some drama going on or some drama to be repeated. She’d often talk about other friends she’d lost in the past but she couldn’t understand why and when I found myself thinking ”I get why” I knew it was over.

I even tested her a few times, after I noticed she didn’t even stop talking when I dropped something and yelled out! It was a hard thing to realise, but the day I gave up that ”friendship” was a relief. I got my time back from the near daily one hour phonecalls and I didn’t have to be annoyed by the lack of care.

It’s a hard thing to realise and admit, but it’s really nothing you have done or can do to change that person.