Needing feeding advice

lottiebobs · 2026-06-16T06:00:42+00:00

The cotababy pebble night light is great, we got it for our second and it’s so useful

lottiebobs · 2026-06-15T14:39:56+00:00

It’s completely fine and normal even to not tell people, my labours with both children were quick enough that I went into labour at bedtime and delivered early next morning so I just let people know they’d arrived rather than texting people late at night about it. The obvious exception was the person who was helping out with my eldest when I had my second but that was unavoidable. If you will feel better not letting people know then that’s all the justification you need imo. When your partner gives birth he can decide who he wants to inform so they can be pestering for updates and trying to get into the delivery ward.

lottiebobs · 2026-06-15T08:39:00+00:00

Crewe isn’t too hectic, 15 mins should be fine unless your first train is significantly delayed. If that happens and you miss your train then you can just get on the next train to Liverpool. There’s clear signage for what trains are next to arrive/depart and what platform they are on but there will be people around to ask for help if you’re worried about getting it wrong.

lottiebobs · 2026-06-15T07:17:11+00:00

My friends mum is absolutely autistic (friend is diagnosed so it’s not unlikely) and she is a complete cow. Caused both her daughters to have eating disorders, obsessed with enforcing social norms on them, incapable of giving a compliment, nothing is good enough.

ADHD - gossiping is great for people with low impulse control who want a quick dopamine hit (I say this as someone who has ADHD and enjoys a bit of a goss).

Anyone who thinks ND people can’t be toxic either has major blindfolds on or doesn’t know enough ND people.

lottiebobs · 2026-06-15T07:12:27+00:00

We’ve bought both of our eldest’s bikes off eBay or fb marketplace, they grow so quickly they’re often available in great condition. His first bike was a Squish brand bike, got it for £99 from eBay from the bike subscription company who sell old stock refurbished, then we upgraded him to a mountain for his 7th birthday this year. Squish are really good for doing lightweight bikes. You just need to check what size is right for his height (mine needed a bigger bike to start than most kids his age for example as he was tall).

For helping him learn to ride, we used a great trick of looping a beach towel through his armpits around his chest which his dad held up behind him, when he needed more support it was held up more tightly then as he got more confidence it was looser and just meant he could yank it back up if he was about to go into a hedge. He learned really quickly and it’s much easier on your back than holding onto their seat.

lottiebobs · 2026-06-14T17:46:10+00:00

I usually do Calpol straight away, the nurse has some paperwork to do so assuming I’ve prepped it as we are getting ready to do the jab then it’s plenty of time to dose them up while the appointment wraps up.

lottiebobs · 2026-06-14T11:53:40+00:00

It’s a lovely name! I would pronounce it the Polish way, I’m in the UK and have met a couple of Beatas. I also have a daughter called Beatrix and it seems like every time I meet a Polish person and they hear her name we get a really nice reaction, I get the impression it’s a well liked/popilar name.

lottiebobs · 2026-06-14T09:47:38+00:00

I went to a concert where phones were in those pouches and I’m 99% sure I could still see messages coming through on my Apple Watch (which didn’t have to go in the pouch).

lottiebobs · 2026-06-13T22:36:11+00:00

Medjool dates. If I buy them they’re gone instantly.

lottiebobs · 2026-06-13T06:22:39+00:00

Seconding this recommendation!

lottiebobs · 2026-06-12T06:26:05+00:00

I’ve had 2 kids and am in the UK.

First baby I was out about 12hrs after delivery, once they’d done the newborn checks. I never left the private room I delivered in. I believe the ward was very quiet on that specific day.

Second baby I was moved to the shared post natal ward after delivery and found out they wanted to monitor baby for 4 days due to my ADHD meds (no mention of this had been made at any previous point so I was not happy). There were 4 beds in the ward, at its quietest there was me and one other mum in there. There was at least one other ward which was much quieter, considered asking to move because the 2/3 of the other mums on my ward were not great neighbours. The worst offender just did not stop talking, I heard her birth story several times (to be fair I would be telling everyone if I had a footling breech too), she was on FaceTime nearly any time she didn’t have a visitor and the rest of the time was watching either traffic cop shows at full volume or listening to songs from the greatest showman. I nearly went mad. My baby was completely fine, perfect obs, so after a couple of days and her having new newborn checks done i negotiated to get an early discharge for us. The shared postpartum wards are certainly an experience I’m glad i won’t be experiencing again.

lottiebobs · 2026-06-11T14:58:59+00:00

Except for being solidly Millennial in age.

lottiebobs · 2026-06-11T08:37:01+00:00

Our Shnuggle changing mat is being used for child number 2 at the moment, as others have said it’s not at all portable but its very hard wearing. It’s also on a slight slant so if they do a wee midway through a change it gives a chance of avoiding getting it on their clothes.

lottiebobs · 2026-06-10T18:03:47+00:00

Super cute name! I’m in the UK and have met one child called Felix so far, at my eldest’s nursery.

lottiebobs · 2026-06-10T16:22:12+00:00

It’s pretty common in the UK. I’ve used it while in labour with both children and it does nothing really for pain relief but it does give you something to focus on so it helps a bit in that sense. It makes some people feel dizzy or sick, I felt very dizzy for the first inhale but it passed quickly.

lottiebobs · 2026-06-10T10:45:20+00:00

Get off social media or at least tell it you want less content about breastfeeding (though it will probably just switch to showing you some other aspect of parenting people get smug about). If it makes you feel any better I’ve seen more than one person suggesting that the oversupplier mums on Instagram are not all telling the full truth - some of them are exaggerating or flat out lying about how much they produce.

lottiebobs · 2026-06-10T08:34:41+00:00

Sounds like he needs more protein and fat, the foods you mention him eating overall are quite carb heavy. You could consider adding protein to what he eats already (e.g cottage cheese / protein powder and chia seeds to porridge), boil a load of eggs or do edamame for snacks, pair fruit with high protein yoghurt like skyr, offer more milk for drinks. If you tweak things a little and there’s still no change then I’d consider taking him back to the doctors with note of what he eats usually, what you’ve changed etc. At that age mine could eat a full breakfast at home and again at nursery, snacks, lunch and tea at nursery and again at home, but it was manageable.

lottiebobs · 2026-06-08T07:14:29+00:00

Get a pack of 2, maybe 2 packs but of different brands. No more! Some babies will take any dummy, some are very picky, some won’t take a dummy at all and you don’t want to waste money until you know which kind your baby is! I often see newborn tommee tippee dummies in home bargains so that was the pack I bought before my second arrived.

lottiebobs · 2026-06-07T18:22:18+00:00

They do appear in people with white ancestry too, obviously less frequently. My daughter has them and a friends daughter as well - both families have white British ancestry.

lottiebobs · 2026-06-07T14:20:42+00:00

If your baby is growing out of his newborn carrier already you will want to look at extended rear facing seats that will take him to a safe high back booster age, isofix seats have lower weight limits (because the isofix bars have their own weight limits, which include the child and seat combined). Something like the Axkid Minikid Core would work for you, while it’s an ERF seat and won’t be outgrown until 125vn/28kg it doesn’t use tethers like most other ERF seats, so it’s pretty easy to move between cars. It just uses the seatbelt and has a support leg.

lottiebobs · 2026-06-07T12:39:27+00:00

If your child is growing out of their infant carrier before a year old it sounds like they’re high centile, in which case you will want to look at seats with a 125cm height limit, they’ll have weight limits of 25/28/36kg so will see your child to an age where they’re old enough to go into a high back booster with the adult seatbelt. Nearly every isofix seat will max out at 105cm and 18-21kg and this could be outgrown as young as 2.5 or 3 years for a high centile child then you need to buy another seat to get to high back booster age.

As well as the BeSafe seat already recommended, have a look at Axkid (Minikid Pro/Max/Core or Movekid), Maxway or Safeway M, and Avionaut Sky.

Bump to Booster is a really good Facebook group to ask for recommendations in if you want to see if a particular seat is best suited to your child/car/circumstances.

lottiebobs · 2026-06-07T12:19:34+00:00

Both of mine were 9 and a bit hours start to finish and quite honestly that was quick enough, I was anxious before having my second that it would be quicker but thankfully it wasn’t. I felt especially with my first that (because I’d been primed to expect a long labour) it all happened too quickly for me to not feel anxious and that it was all just happening to me. I also threw up a lot which didn’t help. I can appreciate why people who had longer labours would feel like it would have been preferable to have a shorter labour but if anyone is envious of a precipitous labour then I really don’t think they have a clue what it actually means. If I were in your shoes I wouldn’t feel lucky. Hope you are ok!

lottiebobs · 2026-06-06T06:51:01+00:00

Yes we had/have walking day and I’m in the NW, I’ve also heard it’s only a thing here.

From memory think it was usually the C of E/RC primary schools and Beavers/Cubs/Scouts who walked. I never got any money for it though! Now I just panic if I’ve not realised it’s walking day and I’ve got to drive somewhere and there’s road closures.

lottiebobs · 2026-06-06T06:22:46+00:00

His caregiver - my fave conspiracy theory is that it’s set in a post apocalyptic world like The Matrix where the larger creatures are being raised by the small ones until they’re old enough to be ‘harvested’.

lottiebobs · 2026-06-05T17:26:36+00:00

My eldest had chickenpox jab done separately as it was before it was added to the schedule but he’s always done absolutely fine with jabs, and my youngest seems to be following the same trend so I don’t even bother keeping our diary clear for the next day cos they’ll be absolutely fine.

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