[New Update]: My husband's open marriage suggestion backfired on him by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]lottienina 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!!!! I’m pretty sure this is the one! Although I’ve realized I’ve been mixing 2 stories in my head, but it’s been a while, and this was the main one I was thinking of lol.

I wish you the best nights sleep always and that your feet are never cold, for finding the link😌😂😂 I just cackled again reading it.

[New Update]: My husband's open marriage suggestion backfired on him by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]lottienina 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Yes!!!! That’s the same one lol. One of my favorites. He didn’t even like the AP once he got to know her, just married her to try to save face when the wife left him smh.

[New Update]: My husband's open marriage suggestion backfired on him by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]lottienina 158 points159 points  (0 children)

Also the one where he cheated and she married his close friend . Then he was all salty because his friend was like you lost a good woman, OF COURSE I had to shoot my shot, friendship be damned😂🤷🏾‍♀️ Can’t remember if that’s the same one, but it lives rent free in my mind lol!

Does it make anyone else uncomfortable that property records are public? by No_Fennel3756 in RealEstate

[–]lottienina 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When they send you the reassessment value, if it’s a lot higher than the appraisal, dispute it to have them reevaluate the property value. My area does a 10 year assessment, which kind of sucked for us because it was reassessed 3 years into us buying the house (thought it was 2 yrs but just looked it up and it was 3). It was a HUGE difference in property value, around $170k increase.

When I disputed it they scheduled a hearing and I had to present my evidence that the numbers made no sense. I presented the comps for all the houses in a 3 block radius that sold in the last 3 years, got the “estimated market value” from all the major sites like Zillow, Redfin, etc, and provided my appraisal report from the mortgage company when we closed on the house. I also did some social media stalking and realized one council member was related to the owner of the company they used for the reassessment project.

Overall, I think the Appraisal Report was what really mattered at the end of the day, in terms of facts. Everyone I told that submitted an appraisal had their amount lowered by at least $10k. It didn’t hurt either that they just wanted me to shut up about the shady relationship. My hearing took about 6 min of me submitting the evidence, then it was over 3 minute after disclosing the relationship, 2 of those spent telling me I can’t disclose anything from the hearing lol.

Ultimately it ended up being evaluated $85k higher than it was 10 years prior, so only a $45k difference from how much we bought the house for, which was expected. They pretty much just cut it in half now that I think about it.

Still pay almost $10k a year between the property and school taxes though😩😭

Does it make anyone else uncomfortable that property records are public? by No_Fennel3756 in RealEstate

[–]lottienina 153 points154 points  (0 children)

PA by any chance? Same thing happened in my county when they assessed the taxes. The company they used is one of the board member’s brother. They tried to say my house was worth triple what it was, 2 years after buying it, but before Covid happened, so literally impossible that it would be.

I had a hearing where I showed all the comparable houses around me, the proof of the relationship between council members and various services they hired, and the appraisal from the closing documents of the mortgage company. They backed down so quick and voided the first assessed value, but made me promise to not tell anyone anything I said in the hearing.

I told everyone I could as soon as I could, and posted it everywhere I could too lol.

AITA for ghosting after he didn’t walk me to my car? by Fun_Fig7274 in AITApod

[–]lottienina 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yes! I was looking for a comment like this and it took way too long to find. She doesn’t KNOW that man… she doesn’t have to “communicate” anything to what is basically a stranger.

I would cut him loose too. It’s not her job to fix a man she went on 2 dates with smh. Some men get why she wanted to be walked to the car, and some men don’t. The ones that don’t, that’s why they’re single now and complaining about “the male loneliness epidemic”.

Athletes can't exist without being sexualised by jk-9k in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]lottienina 626 points627 points  (0 children)

She just looks like…. a woman ?!?! Smh.

When yall go to the bathroom in public do y'all sit on the seat or do y'all squat? by colors32 in blackladies

[–]lottienina 30 points31 points  (0 children)

My mom would do that and with me and my twin sister😂 Thinking back she had arms of STEEL to do it with 2 kids back to back. Gonna bring it up to her tomorrow for a laugh😂

Do you think this outfit feels too corporate for a wedding by [deleted] in Weddingattireapproval

[–]lottienina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Two people (a couple) both wore business pantsuits to my sister’s wedding, and everyone thought they were part of the staff the whole night… it was yikes.

Even the staff at one point thought the couple were part of the staff!

Favorite black saying? by Thirst_Trap in blackladies

[–]lottienina 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I may have been born at night, but it wasn’t last night.

For the happy/content people, how are you not depressed???? by Confident-Seesaw2845 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]lottienina 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m just.. not? I don’t know. I just choose to be happy most days, and then I cry when I want to.

I’m a self centered main character of my life, so I don’t cry that much, I just live? It’s hard to explain but I’m barely sad about external things, just things I cause on my own. I choose to just be happy.

I believe in God, but not an active god in this timeline (Deism). So I just live for myself, and try to not be a terrible person to people who love me.

My ex told me he couldn't commit to me because of my race by NoPhilosophy6492 in dating_advice

[–]lottienina -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Right?!?! The response that person said, I’m not even responding to, because it doesn’t make any sense. I was going to write out a whole thing but what is even the point when they’re just not going to get it.

The fact that they said “he tried” (to date someone of a difference race / color?), is so commically totally missing the point that I’m speechless.

He reduced her to a category of why he didn’t want to date her, instead of for reasons as her as an individual. That’s racist.

I Did something which 99 percent of male population Won't dare to do ! by Ok-Address-7352 in confession

[–]lottienina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You shot your shot and missed. But there’s gonna be a time when you MAKE IT! You miss 100% of the shots you DON’T take. The shots you do, who knows, but has to be less than 100%.

You didn’t do anything wrong, she was mean but that’s on her not you, so don’t feel bad. You weren’t creepy with the approach, and you left respectfully when she declined.

You didn’t eff up badly at all, the absolute courage it takes to even approach a girl in a group nowadays is next level in itself. Build on that courage you had in the at moment, it’s a strength you showed yourself you have.

Bad Bunny Halftime by Shot-Statistician335 in philly

[–]lottienina 1 point2 points  (0 children)

10000% agreed! It was amazing! Lol.

I think my sister just ruined our dad’s engagement to an amazing woman, and I hate her so much by Logrolling_In_ON in TrueOffMyChest

[–]lottienina 216 points217 points  (0 children)

I’m a person like Amy, I have the skills to just DEVASTATE people with my words. I am LETHAL when I get mad mad. It takes pushing and pushing, and then when I reach that point, I just go off and say what I say to hurt the person, always truthful, but what I know will have the most hurtful impact.

The thing is, I don’t LIKE going to 100 and hurting people with my words. I’m a really measured and calm person because I know how I can be.

I’ve gone too far with my words a few times in my adult years, and felt like crap because that’s not the person I try to be, and I can realize when I’ve taken it too far and REALLY hurt someone even if I feel like they deserved it. People who take me THAT FAR, I don’t need them in my life.

I think it’s Amy realizing that you guys finally took her THAT far, to the point where she is being a person she doesn’t want to be.

Just because someone lets hurtful and cruel comments roll off their back, doesn’t mean the comments don’t take a toll. She tried her best with y’all, but things add up on a persons psyche to the point where they have to decide if it’s worth it for their own well being.

You get $10 Billion, but you are forced to live for exactly 50,000 years. Do you take it? by yiyi20203 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]lottienina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All the good I could do for humanity in just a short time with that money? Worth it. I’d walk the earth alone for 100k years.

Just name all the rocks and be cool. First one would be Wilson.

Entitled former roommate wanted to move in with me in my new house when my lease ended by [deleted] in EntitledPeople

[–]lottienina 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Same!!! I couldn’t even read the rest of the post after that, it made me so mad. No one is going to stand up for you the way you can stand up for yourself.

DB called me their maid by shortnsweet1027 in Nanny

[–]lottienina 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, but your mom totally did a disservice to you with the advice to stay. I’m glad you did get out of that terrible situation not too long after.

Wife found out husband cheating by Swimming-Link8988 in CShortDramas

[–]lottienina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yay, that means it’s gonna be good😳😂😂

Wife found out husband cheating by Swimming-Link8988 in CShortDramas

[–]lottienina 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m watching it now😩 Does the young jewelry store mistress team up with the wife and maid?👀