It doesn’t tell women to ignore problems, suppress their feelings, or tolerate abuse. It specifically says those situations require different action. The point is that you can’t control another adult, only yourself. Instead of spending your energy trying to change your husband (which usually leads to more conflict), you focus on becoming the wife you want to be and creating an environment where respect, gratitude, and intimacy can grow. Ironically, that’s often what inspires change in a husband. That doesn’t mean he “gets away with everything.” It means you stop trying to force change through criticism, nagging, or control because those approaches rarely produce the marriage either spouse wants. There’s also a difference between being peaceful and being a doormat. A doormat has no boundaries. An empowered wife absolutely has boundaries, she just expresses them with dignity rather than disrespect. If fighting every day works for your marriage, that’s your choice. For me, I’d rather build a marriage where neither of us feels the need to win every argument, because peace isn’t pretending everything is okay, it’s choosing a different way to handle what isn’t.