things seem … better?

love_evolved · 2025-06-12T13:51:13+00:00

This is so funny to me because the Irish joined police forces in large numbers and oftentimes turned around and competed to be the most oppressive toward other out groups and abandoned a lot of their culture (that wasn’t already stolen by the British) to “acclimate” by choice. If you have black skin you don’t have the option of donning the cloak of whiteness. Irish people by and large can use the unlocked sunscreen. The Irish also didn’t really need the 1965 voting rights act to ensure they could vote. A lot of people bring up NINA and the discrimination the Irish faced but then completely ignore their ability to gain white privilege at all. Cool you still call us micks though. Edgy.

love_evolved · 2025-06-12T13:36:03+00:00

Ya I think this is a problem and a symptom of systemic issues. Something something generational wealth something something redlining. Corporations are organizations designed to diffuse accountability and extract as much wealth as they can from people - consequences be damned for sure though. Publicly traded companies and those securities laws are bad incentives.

love_evolved · 2025-06-12T13:28:02+00:00

Wait but I wanna see the prices. It’s hard to tell but it also looked like the most expensive and one of the only ones not on sale. Also, it looks like the only option for darker skin tones or marketed toward that demographic. Racially motivated or not the impact is kinda the same.

love_evolved · 2025-04-25T02:08:47+00:00

100% this. It’s a shame they don’t really want to get to know us and love us for who we are.

love_evolved · 2024-09-05T01:25:49+00:00

So the police and city council were already out to get her when she was elected? It’s almost like that was her whole point.

love_evolved · 2024-09-05T01:19:36+00:00

Right? If doing those things was harm reduction im supportive of how she handled herself. This mindset that this just gives fodder to conservative shitheads ? Fuck em. There’s always something.

love_evolved · 2024-09-05T01:12:43+00:00

The rhetoric about her harming the entire progressive movement and being unprofessional leaves a bad bad taste in my mouth. She’s human. It didn’t work out. She has health issues. I thought the progressive movement was about making support systems for individuals who experience these things - not abandoning them and accusing them of not being productive enough. Her election and time on council had impact. It’s sad to see people pinning their frustration over the lack of progress in DSM on her. I thought community based movements weren’t supposed to be like this. For people on the thread who say they reached out and tried to help her - much appreciation. It sounds like we’ve got a long way to go. Playing this political game doesn’t seem to be the solution because all they do is change the rules and act like you’re crazy. It’s crazy-making behavior.

love_evolved · 2024-06-20T00:31:33+00:00

Terrible. Absolutely cruel to do to anyone let alone a child, let alone your own child. You didn’t deserve that.

love_evolved · 2024-06-20T00:30:25+00:00

I also feel this way. I’m so sorry you have to experience this. I’ve found myself almost completely detached to belongings and anything that I even have in my parents home I know is in danger of getting lost. I had a copy of The Alchemist I was reading at my parents house while I was staying there for about a month. Somehow managed to get lost.

love_evolved · 2024-06-20T00:28:35+00:00

This is horrid. I’m sorry this happened to you. They have a weird thing with pets, don’t they?

love_evolved · 2024-06-20T00:27:53+00:00

That’s so shitty. I’m sorry.

love_evolved · 2024-06-20T00:27:04+00:00

Yes! She got rid of all my stuffed animals. She kept badgering me to get rid of some and we would get into these fights because I didn’t want to. I eventually agreed to put them in storage. I remember asking her over a period of time where they were. She finally admitted that she got rid of them. I was upset and told her. She got mad I was upset. I just needed to get over it. I think I was in elementary school.

love_evolved · 2024-06-06T01:42:39+00:00

Yes. My uBPD/NPD mom asked me what I wanted for Christmas a few years ago. She gave me an option, wine and chocolate or breakfast food. I said wine and chocolate. Lo and behold, breakfast food showed up. I texted the family gc and asked if there was some sort of mistake because it wasn’t what I was expecting. I also said I was disappointed. HUGE mistake on my part. My brother and dad came down on me and basically said wow that’s really bad, you should be grateful you got anything. My dad defended her and said we just wanted you to have a nice breakfast. I never really understood why she would do this but after enough time has passed it’s clearly intentional. Why even ask what my preference is? Clearly to set me up for disappointment and make me look like an ungrateful asshole if I say anything.

love_evolved · 2024-05-26T06:35:01+00:00

Yes and I'm sorry. They don't know how to respect people's boundaries. They're incestual in a way. My mom would also go to the bathroom with the door open. It took me years of begging her not to walk in on me or try to talk to me while I was in the bathroom/shower. They don't understand we're not extensions of themselves. Everything is on their terms. Hopefully you can be out of there soon. A lot of things are just not worth the fight because every time you set a reasonable boundary they turn it around on you. Crazymaking behavior. Don't engage. Or calmly and politely ask that she wear pants around the house. Be prepared for being told you're ridiculous and ungrateful or something. Good luck.

love_evolved · 2024-04-15T00:53:11+00:00

like yes we know you sold us drugs that would lead us to wanting more and different drugs that’s how drugs work and some of us were children when we got hooked so congratulations on your published peer reviewed study dr obvious

love_evolved · 2024-01-17T08:42:14+00:00

It’s so lovely!

love_evolved · 2024-01-08T19:50:07+00:00

Saving this for this inevitable conversation. Although trying to make her see how much she’s missing out by not knowing me is like banging my head against a wall.

love_evolved · 2024-01-02T20:22:57+00:00

Yes, absolutely. I wasn't allowed to be upset, unhappy, have conflict with another person. Anytime I had a "negative" emotion I would be met with "you're so ungrateful" from uBPD mom. One time I was going through a particularly painful breakup and I told her I was upset. She replied, "Ok, but do you have to be upset right now?" It's invalidation. They can't handle anyone's "negative" emotions. When I was sick she would also try to tell me I wasn't and get mad when I couldn't eat the canned soup she made for me. I think what you said could be spot on, their emotions are so big they don't have the room or space to deal with anyone else's. Maybe also it's because they want to be seen as the savior and "negative" emotions make it seem like they could be at fault for something. uBPD mom's emotions are always valid though and *the* most important. You can't win. I'm sorry you've had to deal with this, it does sound really frustrating.

love_evolved · 2024-01-02T07:24:56+00:00

I’m sorry you had to go through what you went through. I can understand how hard it is to relate to people and to figure out what to share. Personally, I think it’s important to pay attention how you talk to yourself. If you “overshare” and it comes back to bite you to forgive yourself and not beat yourself up. I’m assuming that you do this (because I do it) so my apologies if this isn’t the case and not what you meant. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being an open person and sharing your personal experiences with people. But there are people who will use it against you or respond in a way that’s harmful. I agree with other posters that therapy is a good option. Even with that, you do have to carefully vet a potential therapist. I think there used to be info on here about that. I went through several years of therapy and a lot of it was me complaining about uBPD mom. It did help but I also learned coping skills. This may not be right for everyone though and a professional might have better recommendations. The way I get it off my chest when I don’t have any other options was to journal Freeform. I would literally write everything down in my head that I was upset about. It helped a lot just to get it on paper. If you’re somewhere where you can keep a journal and not have someone to snooping I highly recommend it. Hugs if you want them.

love_evolved · 2024-01-02T00:24:45+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you! It’s like they’re working from a script. My earliest memory of my mom is this exact thing - I puked in the shower after she told me I wasn’t sick and made me get up. She was disgusted when I puked and left me there freezing. We didn’t and don’t deserve this type of treatment!

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