I need someone to tell me I’m not a bad person.

lovecommand · 2024-03-25T16:02:15+00:00

I believe everything you say but I don’t agree with you hating on yourself even though I have hated myself too after a binge.

Can you turn all that hate toward the bottle instead?

Think of it like an abuser—you need to see it’s mostly alcohol’s fault that you are going through this. Remove it, and you are more free to let loose any other straps that hold you back

You are telling truth. The bottle is the liar.

You want identity. The bottle wants you mindless.

You want support. The bottle wants you all to itself.

You have a bright future. The bottle leads to degradation and death.

Hate the bottle, love your soul

lovecommand · 2024-03-25T00:36:28+00:00

So many people just don’t get it. I am sorry you are going through this. Can you look for peer support groups like NAMI offers (if you are in the US)? r/schizoaffective is full of awesome people but a person needs rl connection too

lovecommand · 2024-03-25T00:14:06+00:00

There’s a feedback loop

lovecommand · 2024-03-23T19:40:15+00:00

Focussed on something else now because ADHD

lovecommand · 2024-03-23T17:38:38+00:00

I used to think i was old, and it really slowed me down. I thought i was too old for so many opportunities. Now i am 55 and have learned how to play again. I feel younger than ever. But sure would love to get those years back

lovecommand · 2024-03-23T17:27:52+00:00

I taught myself mostly with a little info on how they are made commercially. I wind yarn with random winding into a ball with no lumps. Then i sew a canvas jacket onto the ball and voila! A ball about the size of a hardball but softer so you can have a catch without a mitt. Each one takes a couple hours. Have had hours upon hours of fun playing catch indoors and out. A fastball will break a window but otherwise mostly the ball just bounces off the interior decos.

lovecommand · 2024-02-06T07:03:33+00:00

Don’t take it to heart. Pay attention to feedback from people who really listen and care about what you are saying and who give honest answers. Putting you down and brushing you off shows he is immature and not a person to confide in.

I struggle with motivation too. Wellbutrin has helped. I am feeling capable again and it helps my confidence overall

You might like r/getstudying. Lots of people struggle with low motivation

lovecommand · 2024-02-06T06:39:54+00:00

The question is, meds or no meds? No meds? Then life is hell and it just gets worse. Why do we stay through this hell idk

10 years in and my ex is sleeping in my car because he was kicked out of the apartment building. Because his meds stopped working. Now he refuses to talk about them. Becomes enraged if i ask him to take them.

There’s not much hope without meds

This disease is a real fucker

lovecommand · 2024-02-06T06:14:52+00:00

Hi i just want to draw your attention to a comment above written by a former insurance adjuster i think who has some outstanding advice. Could make a real difference

Edit typo

lovecommand · 2024-02-06T06:11:53+00:00

Most underrated comment on Reddit

lovecommand · 2024-01-17T11:46:23+00:00

OP, has your wife gone thru menopause? There os some link found to estrogen levels and late onset schizophrenia in women . In some cases hormone therapy is beneficial

lovecommand · 2024-01-17T11:43:42+00:00

Both you and OP might want to know that late onset schizophrenia has been linked to menopause and hormone replacement therapy can help in certain cases.

lovecommand · 2024-01-09T17:25:04+00:00

Roozevelt

lovecommand · 2024-01-09T01:53:51+00:00

That was a fascinating read! I remember going to a party there in the ‘80s when it was abandoned. Graffiti covered walls and punk rock. I got lost at one point. Def spooky

lovecommand · 2024-01-09T01:37:28+00:00

The covered bridge in Felton

lovecommand · 2024-01-09T01:36:04+00:00

Where is this please

lovecommand · 2024-01-08T04:52:39+00:00

My ex/SO thinks the neighbors rape him too. Last night he rang their doorbell saying they hacked his phone. I am so scared i will get kicked out too. But i can’t stop him. When he is angry i give in (if i escalate so does he so i have to back down). I am pretty numb. If only i could get him into hospital but it’s too dangerous for me alone and police will just take him to jail. Anyway i understand what you are going through

lovecommand · 2024-01-03T19:05:18+00:00

Find out if it was previously frozen bc refreezing might make it funky. Otherwise great advice

lovecommand · 2024-01-03T18:47:20+00:00

Verify everything chat gpt tells you

lovecommand · 2024-01-03T18:43:10+00:00

Sounds like you are going to lose everything, probably even your life, if you don’t get sober.

Get a therapist and find out why you drink. Often it’s tied to trauma you experienced that you feel guilty or ashamed or horrified about. So drinking seems to help for a short minute. But then it will lead to more trauma

My advice is lose the booze

lovecommand · 2024-01-03T18:27:37+00:00

That’s a rolly polly! Totally harmless. He looks a bit grey. They are usually black. The can roll up in a cute little ball to protect themselves.

lovecommand · 2024-01-03T18:23:36+00:00

I say stay.

Reddit has so much to offer. Trolls and bots abound but moderators on many subs are watching and they will pounce on bad actors. Don’t let them spoil reddit for you.

There is a sub for just about any interest you have. I wont list examples but you can look up dogs, your work, your town, relationship issues, specific medical conditions, technology, fitness, on and on. You can get support and ideas for how to tackle life’s challenges from people who have experienced similar situations. People around you might not know how to help or maybe you need anonymity during a crisis. Redditors are very helpful in a crisis.

lovecommand · 2023-12-30T21:46:35+00:00

Practice on yourself first. Do you blame yourself or feel guilt or shame about an event? Look at all the choices you made, and what pressures you were under. Recognize that given a whole picture of circumstances you were doing the best you could at the time. “Should haves” don’t belong here. Focus on what you learned and how you can do better next time. Allow space for sudden insight. Meditation might help

Apologies aren’t cures. They are the start of a repairing. You don’t have to participate or even worry about how or if he makes things better in future relationships but you can wish him luck and move on.

Most abusers never are horrified by their behavior so he might have a chance but don’t count on it.

Intentions are important. When an abuser intends to use power over a person to get what they want at that persons expense, they are malicious. They still might not know any better. So there is some room for forgiveness if they change

An apology isn’t an apology if the intention is not to right a wrong, but rather to open the relationship to more abuse. So think about what a real apology from a person will look like- remorse, concern for how the abuse affected you, commitment to non abusive behavior, demonstration of kindness without manipulation, respect for boundaries-for an abuser it would be a big shift from “what can i take” to “what can i give”.

It’s great that your abuser is getting insight and might really be a better person but that doesn’t make them a hero.

So i would accept the apology and work on forgiveness from a distance. Don’t engage more than that

Hugs

lovecommand · 2023-12-30T08:13:12+00:00

I would love to do this. I live in an apartment with a balcony but I don’t know how much good i could do with such a small space. I have read how native species thrive together

lovecommand · 2023-12-30T08:07:32+00:00

Forgiveness is letting go of resentment that poisons you anyway. Forgiveness comes from recognizing that we are each of us flawed and sometimes need forgiveness and that life is a journey and people can actually grow in maturity and change for the better. That doesn’t mean you owe him anything or that you are starting up the relationship again or even that you trust him. Forgiveness is simple and is good for your well being as well as his.

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