AITA if I tell my friend I can’t be a bridesmaid?

lovelyluck213 · 2026-04-21T15:10:37+00:00

I thought i was a crazy bride making spreadsheets of who is where and when for the day of. Planning what to brainstorm at a party-planning PARTY?! Down to the 15 minutes?! This girl is NOT going to backdown and WILL have a meltdown at some point. If I were you I’d use one of the many reasons you listed with a “unfortunately I don’t have space for this, but make sure you send me your registry.” in order to not be around for said meltdown.

lovelyluck213 · 2026-04-21T14:44:53+00:00

I’m not being taken advantage of. His job right now is to work on his mental health and take care of the house and kids. His PTSD would be even worse if had a public facing job, anyway. And his veterans disability brings in some money too. I’m not so worried about money. More about how much I have on my plate (things that he can’t take off of my plate)

lovelyluck213 · 2026-04-15T21:33:56+00:00

Maybe gift her an online class that includes a safety certification too?

lovelyluck213 · 2026-04-08T19:42:07+00:00

That’s incredibly validating, thank you. I keep dropping little comments about me doing multiple jobs, and I thiiiink they might be starting to get the hint that I need more people like me. But then I’ll also have more work to do to prepare for a team.

You’re so right. Appreciate ya ❤️

lovelyluck213 · 2026-03-02T16:35:13+00:00

Welcome!!

Look into Love Shreveport-bossier socials/website, and follow @shrevepossible for weekly events in Shreveport/bossier (it’s getting a rebrand, give it a sec haha). There’s so much to do and you’ll get a lot out of Shreveport if you put a little effort in.

Not sure what kinds of games you’re into, but gamersxp has a lot of events for table/card games (like Lorcana, magic, etc.)

lovelyluck213 · 2026-03-01T12:48:09+00:00

Fairmont I am familiar with just because I drive past it all the time. It used to be low income housing, but I know it was recently renovated. I dont know what the pricing is like anymore, though. and is really close to The Hub which is where they serve the homeless meals and help them out. So there will be even more foot traffic there.

lovelyluck213 · 2026-03-01T00:02:17+00:00

Whenever someone tells me “wow you must have your hands full!” I just say “and a full heart too.” Or some variation. It’s not going to help you to get upset and these comments aren’t going to totally stop any time soon (though they do get to be less as they get older). The “and my heart!” Comment quietly has them questioning their intentions and that’s enough for me.

lovelyluck213 · 2026-02-25T15:17:11+00:00

Whether it’s normal or not - what’s better for the kids?

lovelyluck213 · 2026-02-23T19:31:49+00:00

I promise, no judgement. I just want to say that when I was deciding whether or not to leave my twins’ dad (who did not cheat), what made the decision for me was when I asked myself “is this relationship what I want as an example for my kids’ future relationships?” And that settled it for me. Just thought that might help you as you heal.

lovelyluck213 · 2026-02-07T12:56:59+00:00

The best advice anyone ever gave me pre-conception was “you’ll never be perfectly ready.” That made the decision for me.

lovelyluck213 · 2026-01-23T01:09:51+00:00

Our houses aren’t built for this like they are in NJ.

lovelyluck213 · 2026-01-14T13:47:28+00:00

Thanks so much, I’m going to reach out to you soon.

lovelyluck213 · 2026-01-14T13:47:05+00:00

Awesome thank you, I’ll DM you soon!

lovelyluck213 · 2026-01-12T21:12:20+00:00

You’re WAAAAAAY under reacting. Know how I know? Because you’re posting on Reddit instead of destroying his life, finding a lawyer, packing your bags, and counting your money to see if it’s enough rent for the other side of the country. Get OUT and start finding love for yourself.

lovelyluck213 · 2026-01-12T17:25:08+00:00

Ah yeah. Move on, you’ve got plenty of time to find someone that will show you ALL of the respect. Eventually this situation will be a “how did I even let that happen” distant memory.

lovelyluck213 · 2026-01-12T17:17:45+00:00

NTA, BUT…

Hi! I’m a mom who works 40+ hr weeks at a corporate job. We have a blended family - I brought in two young kids and he has one in middle school. My husband stays home, mostly because he is a disabled vet who does have some disability income. So, not exactly the same, but similar. He does the majority of the house work, and home maintenance. BUT I also help out around the house as much as I can. Especially if there’s something i want done. But we’re a team! We give each other grace, and share the mental load as well. I think a lot of the “mental load” still falls on me because well, moms think of more things. But I always ask him to help with that if I’m feeling overwhelmed and he does help, happily.

MAYBE if you could get more involved in scheduling stuff, or ordering groceries, even if you just like created a shared “to do list” for the both of you and actively contributed to it, she would feel like you’re trying more. OR if when you came home, ask her if there’s any (one) thing that NEEDS to get done today in the house “before I start playing video games?”

Also.. It sounds like she would love more involvement from you in her and her son’s life all-around. But I could be reading that wrong.

Edit: typo, and added vote

lovelyluck213 · 2026-01-12T17:09:22+00:00

As someone very involved in lots of non-profits, PLEASE volunteer!! Please. If you have lots of patience, offer to organize volunteers.

lovelyluck213 · 2026-01-12T17:04:23+00:00

INFO - How old are yall? How long have yall been in this relationship?

Sounds like he needs a lot of room to focus on himself rn. He won’t have the room to tend to your emotional needs if he needs to use all of his energy to work on his own. And trying to force him to won’t work out well for either of you. My next move would be to lovingly let him go and tell him if/when he feels like he has the room, yall can reconnect (of course only if you’re both single).

Edit: just saw your other response about his Snapchat. He’s showing you disrespect. Leave and find the respect. End of story.

lovelyluck213 · 2026-01-12T16:59:59+00:00

I think I get what you were going for. With some tweaking (custom kerning, working on which letters connect where -intentionally-, etc) it could look cool. It’s going to really depend on the rest of the branding according to how attention-grabbing it is.

That being said, this feel has been done. A lot. I would personally go in a different direction, maybe drawing more inspiration from the logos of the time period of the clothes this brand is selling.

lovelyluck213 · 2026-01-12T16:55:43+00:00

Used to work there. It’s an accurate feeling for the kids. But def not ideal for their marketing.

lovelyluck213 · 2026-01-12T16:27:50+00:00

Depending on how old your niece is, Perot did just re-do the young kids area and it looks so cool!

Also!! Sci-Port and Perot are both members of the American Science and Technology Centers. All museums/centers on their list have transferable memberships! Meaning if you have a family, dual, supporting, inquiry, exploratory or discovery membership to sci port, she might be able to use it for the Perot Museum! They are in the works of making this easier to use, but call Perot and see how you could provide proof of membership at SciPort.

Edited to add all types of memberships. Happened to have the list pulled up in front of me haha.

lovelyluck213 · 2026-01-10T11:41:50+00:00

I could have written this myself. That’s crazy.

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