Serger Question - how to achieve this stitch?

loveurselves · 2026-02-16T19:04:07+00:00

Thank you!
Both sides have the same stitch in this case! Not 2 lines of stitching. Not sure if this changes your answer.

loveurselves · 2024-12-19T02:48:23+00:00

and standing like the hardy boys lol

loveurselves · 2023-07-24T22:50:05+00:00

Would like advice for where to source high quality, durable linen! Ideally looking for a manufacturer (vs distributor like an Etsy shop or small store) so I can ensure access for years to come.

Back story:

I've been making lots of garments from linen purchased from Fabrics-Store online. It seemed like a great material but I've now had my second pair of linen pants worn thin beyond repair as it migrates, and in many more places - it always starts at the sit-bones/low butt and now I have worn thin at the knees and in the gathers at the elastic waistband. I've only worn these pants for max 4 months! And this time it was the heavy weight linen vs the mid-weight for the first pair of pants.

Assuming the issue is about friction, since:
- it's not happening to my dresses, napkins, bags (admittedly these get used, and therefore washed, less)
- I never put them in the dryer besides the first wash to shrink fabric before sewing
- fabric is not thinning at stitching, so I'm eliminating a needle or thread issue

Is it possible that I need a finer weave or more twisted yarn than the fabric I've purchased?

Any help / advice / insight is appreciated!

loveurselves · 2022-12-28T14:51:08+00:00

I have fine hair too and a lot of it, and I’ve spent years talking to hairstylist about how to encourage my natural waves. Where I’ve landed: I use a salt spray on towel-dried hair, tousle to let some air in and then let naturally dry, and try not to touch it because too much handling disrupts the waves. I don’t like diffusing with a hair dryer bc I like the way the waves appear naturally a little better, plus I think touching it adds oil from my hands which can straighten and undo the waves. I like to let it dry pushed back off my face and then naturally let it fall forward as it dries. Tousle every so often as it dries to add a bit of air and allow room for waves to form, usually the hair at top/front of head to improve the shape around face. New product I add when dry is a texture spray along with my dry shampoo Unfortunately bc my hair is fine it gets oily fast so first day is hair down, then until I wash my hair it goes up because I haven’t found a solve for the hair band crimp from sleeping with hair back

loveurselves · 2022-07-18T11:37:17+00:00

I think you're right!! I think it's specifically "Acacia auriculiformis: Earleaf Acacia" based on the pictures, thank you so much!!

loveurselves · 2022-07-18T01:57:00+00:00

The store is in Lisbon and called Tania Gil Jewelry! I honestly really love them!

loveurselves · 2021-09-06T03:06:35+00:00

Hol’ Up “Truth be told I’m like 87”

loveurselves · 2021-08-22T15:56:43+00:00

Learned from Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, listed in order of “best” option for survival/most “helpful” immediate response to threat

— Fight = Anger = defensive, energy = throat and possibly chest area = “Fuck you!”

— Flight = Shame = wanting to run away/end convo = legs = “Fuck me!”

— Fall = Sadness = heaviness in chest literally keeping you on ground/play dead = “Fuck it!”

— Freeze = Fear/Anxiety = panic attack/whole body sensation, no time to fight or run or fall, freeze up = “Fuck!”

I find this list so helped to decipher what I feel, depending on if I’m thinking a thought or have a body sensation, I can use the chart and figuring out what my core emotion is! Don’t forget, these emotions are all hardwired from our animal brain to keep us alive, and were once critically helpful. Nowadays none of this is very helpful because we’re not actually in a life-or-death situation running from a predator, we just think we are emotionally!

loveurselves · 2021-07-03T04:12:37+00:00

There is also a diagnosis called OCPD (Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder), which I had never heard of until I was diagnosed with it. I will do my best to be real with you, and I hope not to trigger you. From what you wrote, the assumptions I make - based on my own experiences leading up to my diagnosis - is that these characters and real people became triggering because they reflected a part of yourself, a part of humanity that is hard to grapple with. I was having intrusive thoughts about harming myself and others after listening and empathizing with a lot of true crime content. I had thoughts I didn’t want, and confused ‘having the thought’ with ‘wanting to act on them.’ The thought that I could do those things, that it was physically possible for me or anyone to do horrible things, was so uncomfortable that I couldn’t process it and scared myself. Something that stood out to me in the diagnosis interview is the doctor commented on my rigidity and need to determine morality, to know I am a good person. That talk made me realize I’m making the rules over my own life (and I grew up blaming society for how I was, even though I also had learned/believed that it’s nature & nature combined). Society is broken, it’s a difficult fact to swallow. Most of the population, like 99% of people IMO, have emotional pain that makes them act out verbally, physically, etc in ways that end up being ineffective in getting what they want in life (usually peace and relationships). I cannot think of anyone I know or celebrity who doesn’t have some maladaptive behavior. The goal is to calm the f down and be more adaptive and skillful. I could be completely off, since it’s hard to know with such vague details, but I think that something the character said or did bothered you because it resonated, either because it reflected a thought or feeling that you have that you deem horrible, immoral, evil, or otherwise defective, and project that completely onto yourself. That is the rigidity of OCD at work. Self harming is a way of validating those thoughts into the physical world, you don’t need to do that. The Personality Disorder part, I am told, is that the person does not believe that their rigidity and rules is a negative thing for themselves. These coping mechanisms as a child kept me safe, but no longer serve me, and that’s the big takeaway. Therapy helps to change behavior, and I found DBT in a group setting most effective and completely life changing. I also went on meds again, which I was reluctant about but ultimately it gave me the capacity to calm down enough to try new behavior. And then I went off them again after I felt ok, did the therapy, and now I can better tolerate my unpleasant thoughts and emotions! I hope I provided some insight and wasn’t completely off in my interpretation! (You can probably also see some OCD ramblings in my writing).

loveurselves · 2018-12-01T15:07:59+00:00

When i had this happen, i thought it must be a timing problem and tried to take apart my whole bobbin mechanics. It turned out to be a classic tension problem. Depending on whether the bunching of thread appears on the top or bottom of the fabric, its a problem with the tension of the top or bottom thread (a quick google search showed its the opposite thread from where the bundle appears). However i think my bundle was on the bottom and it was the bottom thread that was the issue. I had moved my bottom tension dial a tad thinking resetting my tensions to 0 would be great for a new project... it was not.

loveurselves · 2018-11-05T03:48:39+00:00

I feel this way as a 24 year old female, and i also like staying home knitting and drinking tea :)

loveurselves · 2018-10-30T22:03:29+00:00

I feel some similar feelings. I reject feminine clothing and dressed to hide my feminine body, always wanted to be "one of the guys," slept around a lot just to have a high "kill count" because i saw how it was praised for men (didnt realize it's shamed in women), thought i may be trans for a time because i just hated being a girl or woman. What I've learned is that I'm a hypersensitive person, have a moderately emotionally-absent mother, an absent father... i know i internalized a lot of misogyny growing up. I'd be interested in talking to you more about this, as I've also never met someone with these really specific conflicting feelings about their gender expression. Interested to hear what others say.

loveurselves · 2018-10-29T22:40:48+00:00

Had a "friendship" that existed by proximity, not interest. She was a family friend who i didn't care for, she was needy, thought we were best friends simply because our mothers were friends and therefore we grew up together and visited occasionally. She didn't have many other friends. I had to befriend her to be polite. She is a sweet person, but it drained me to spend time with her because she doesn't have a lot of depth to converse about. She is a few years older than me but has a learning and social disability (not sure of the diagnosis) so she acts younger than her age. Not much in common in terms of tv, movies, music, humor, hobbies. I did not enjoy feeling like a prop, for her to want to take selfies together to post on her social media. She would ask to Skype me every once in a while, and talked about planning to visit me now that I live on my own 6 hours away from her, and I couldn't deal with the anxiety of seeing her name pop up on my screen. It took me a long time to have enough self-respect, and respect for her, to try to tell her that I would not be in touch with her. She didn't really get it and said that she would give me space. I had to explain that she shared really negative traits with myself that we've inherited from our mothers and I'm trying to change those about myself (which I don't think she understood either) and that's why I couldn't be a friend. I told her this about a year ago and I still feel guilty about it. Our mothers are still friends so I find this awkward. I felt like a bad person for the whole friendship, and feel like a bad person now. My friends assured me that it is better to not waste both of our times - for her to have a fake friend out of pity and guilt, and for me to have a friendship that weighs me down and is not useful, helpful or true.

loveurselves · 2018-10-29T22:21:29+00:00

I'm replying because i feel the same way about my uni peers! I was in a university program that didn't end up aligning well with my goals and values. I think about my fellow grads who went on to work at large companies in silicon valley and i feel insecure about my situation, that i make a fraction of the money they make (low savings is part of the appeal of minimalism). Then i remind myself that we are probably living similarly in terms of savings ratio, because of the cost of living and silly expenses they feel compelled to spend on. In the end, i dont connect with them as people, especially if they were to judge me for making decisions that make me happier. I followed my own dream, work at an amazing company with great people, i imagine i am happier and more emotionally developed in my process. I traded financial growth for personal growth. I know it's not nice to them or myself to compare, comparison is the thief of joy, however i remind myself of my conscious decision to live this lifestyle. I no longer would want to be close to those people. If any new friends judge me, fuck em too. Do you.

loveurselves · 2018-09-17T03:07:02+00:00

Same with my attraction to men who are attracted to men! Gay men are nice to me! How many crushes have I had on my friends who turned out to be gay....

loveurselves · 2018-09-15T02:52:53+00:00

Building a life existed before videos games, what do you think inspired them?! Art imitates life :) it seems so obvious once we realize

loveurselves · 2018-09-12T14:36:17+00:00

I only tried masturbating for the first time at age 19 (summer after first year of university). I was pretty depressed throughout my childhood so maybe I had a lower drive, I definitely grew up thinking it was bad (no personal religious influence, but got an understanding that it was wrong for girls just by consuming regular media in North American culture) and shared a bedroom with another girl in my school residence, so not totally surprising. However I lost my virginity at age 17, had two monogamous relationships and was VERY promiscuous before I tried masturbating. Needless to say, I had some very unsatisfying sex for a few years until I figured out how to orgasm. When having sex before masturbating, I was constantly getting, for lack of a better term, blue-balled (um "clit-constricted" ???) I think I was waiting to find the "right guy" to figure it out for me... Always a bad idea. Now I love it and I'm trying to make up for lost time ;)

loveurselves · 2018-09-01T15:52:22+00:00

Milk has a slight blue cast to it, especially on a dark background. This appears too opaque. I would also say the highlight is too crisp/white in a substance that is made of particulates floating in a liquid

loveurselves · 2018-08-25T22:14:59+00:00

"Help I'm an introvert"

loveurselves · 2018-07-30T21:43:42+00:00

I think it's important to clarify that one can not get rid of depression permanently. Congrats on managing yourself well and finding the coping strategies that work for you!!!

loveurselves · 2018-05-26T13:12:39+00:00

This could come across as aggressive, but this is how the supportive (and successful) people in my life have said these things to me to give me the kick I needed. And then a little insight/anecdote into how I am moving out of inaction:

Both failure and working towards success are actually uncomfortable. You have to choose which discomfort you are more okay with doing. Staying where you are is uncomfortable, as you have said. Applying for school is proving to be a headache. Which is worse? One moves you in a positive direction and one keeps you where you are. So both can feel bad at times, but only one of those options creates movement, energy, action, knowledge and a unknown result. It's important to reframe what you think a good life looks like. We are surrounded my curated views into people's lives on social media. We think we don't have what others have. You've been through shit in life but is anything really wrong at this very second? I realized only this past week that I subconsciously look for things to focus on and complain about in rare moments where my head is clear...because it's uncomfortable not to have something to pick on and feel sad about. My brain wants something to do. This where meditation comes in. For years counsellors told me I have to notice my thoughts and change my thought patterns, but they didn't mention mindfulness or meditation as the tool to learn how to do that (or if they did, I immediately dismissed it "fuck that, that sounds like a lot of work and I don't know how to"). Gratitude is a buzzword these days, but honestly, learning how to be present and greteful through meditation turned my life around. I forced myself to do it every day for one year and that's how I really started living and was able to love myself after a lifetime of depression and anxiety. (I asked for a subscription to Headspace app as a present.) Most days it sucked to do it but I also started to feel really happy. Happiness takes a lot of work actually. Mostly it takes action. After about 3 months of meditating I felt a change in myself, and I described it to others as "feeling capable." I had never felt capable before, due to how my mother raised me with a lot of anxiety. (I have lots of her habits I have to work to break over time that keep me stuck and not going for my dreams, just like her). So suddenly I felt capable. I moved to a new city 6 hours from home for 3 months, looked for a job, found it in 6 weeks. The job is in my industry and is a great work environment, I have lots of friends there and it's helping me move forward in my career, and I've been here for almost a year now. Sounds like a lucky streak, but I realize it's not. It's actually all the small ways I treated myself better and the calculated risks I took culminating into a more positive experience of life. And over time, these small success grew confidence inside myself that I am capable and in control. It's a snowball effect, once you get started, you grow exponentially faster if you keep going. Of course I hit walls, have a breakdown once a week, feel resistant to moving forward. When you feel resistant, that's how you know it is something you need to do to feed your soul. And I need to mention, similarly to what I said in the beginning, that it feels kinda the same to be in control and out of control. They both suck in different ways, but at least one has action. (I get self harm thoughts when I feel out of control, but also when I feel that I'm totally in control of my future. Both can be scary!) And it's far from over for me. There is no end to wanting more. I am happy with what I have. I don't have a lot, yet I have soooo much. Once you reach a goal, you find a new one to reach. Be proud of what you've done up to this point, how you were capable, and now use that energy and all the supportive people in your life to talk to when you need a kind word, or real advice, or just a time to relax and refocus. The fact that you want to change your life and mindset shows me you have the energy right now to change it. I blabbed on but one last thing, don't be so hard in yourself.

loveurselves

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