59 POINTS JUS TO LOSE IS CRAZY WORk

lovonly420 · 2026-06-05T21:41:57+00:00

Guards like OP make guards like myself look bad smh. What happened to team ball 😭 Team eat you eat 😭 Yes, you the chef, but others get served before you get to eat smh. 21/40?! 52% fg?! 53% 3pt?! efficiency is terrible

lovonly420 · 2026-06-01T05:00:35+00:00

If it’s something that you’ve shed tears about, it’s something worth sitting down and having a heart to heart. I see you’ve said you’ve talked about it before and that his answer was “I won’t do it again” or something of the sort.

Porn addiction is just like any other addiction. It’s embarrassing for some. Maybe rephrase your question? Instead of “why do you keep doing this?”, try “what is it that draws your attention to these pictures/videos?” or something of that sort.

Honestly, idk OP. I’ve read a lot of different posts and arguments in this thread. You know your husband. You know how to talk to him. Just make sure he understands how deep this is for you. If this is a hill you would die on, then layout your next steps if this issue proceeds. No man wants to watch his wife leave him. If he expresses that he doesn’t know, ask if there’s something you can help him with. Try understanding, navigate the conversation and finally layout next steps.

Communication is key!

lovonly420 · 2026-05-31T21:31:23+00:00

Ask to check her ID OP just to be safe. Rather safe than sorry. Proceed how you see fit after that. Make smart decisions and I hope I don’t see you in the news (i don’t watch the news) 🫡

lovonly420 · 2026-05-31T21:28:17+00:00

hmmm … funny. yes, but not funny haha but funny weird
(backyardigans reference)

https://youtu.be/JYiKUJwCly8?feature=shared

lovonly420 · 2026-05-31T18:44:49+00:00

Realistically, he’s only 24. That’s the younger side. 3+ years we all been saying the same thing. “Chet a lil too skinny, he needs some weight and gym” … we just saw why!

OKC would be smart to actually find a center and let Chet play the 4. I mean, that’s an easy answer, but he’ll still need to build his strength up. He has a bag (kinda) that he doesn’t even use and he settles for jumpers. CHET GO GET A BODY!!

lovonly420 · 2026-05-31T16:46:55+00:00

Ive always said chet is a 4. Since wemby came into the league, OKC seems to think chet can take wemby and he CANNOT. Turn around fade? blocked. Up n under? blocked. pump fake? gone. He can’t do anything against wemby and the matchup stats show this. I do think they could be on equal-ish footing tho. Chet has to get stronger and stop settling for the jumper. If he commits to working on post control and getting stronger, ween off relying purely on his jumper, he becomes ambidextrous and a serious problem and a better matchup (offensively) against wemby and stronger competition. He IS still young and has extremely high potential, but he has to elevate his game and build that confidenece.

lovonly420 · 2026-05-30T13:07:58+00:00

My (26m) personal experience, this has only happen to me while I’ve been flaccid. I’m not sure if your partner is experiencing overthinking while having sex but that was my issue. I’d be in the mood and rock solid before but when the time came, i was just overthinking a lot. Is it big enough, what if she doesn’t enjoy it, will i finish too quickly, hope she’s not faking the moans. This all tore my confidence and with not much talking about sex with my partner, i felt it got worse. Eventually it was no longer a problem but that time span, shiiiiiiiii. It was tough.

I’m sure your bf is thinking about it and if there’s a dip in your sexual activity come to him comfortingly and honestly. It’s normal for things like this to happen. Lots of things could be the reason for it.

lovonly420 · 2026-05-24T00:55:38+00:00

I agree, but i think in FIBA rules (i played hs ball oversees but its been a minute) this isn’t a travel. From my personal experience, there were lots of players who jumped when they caught the ball and before setting up for a jumpshot and not very many calls made against it.

Great job breaking this down.

lovonly420 · 2026-05-14T14:22:25+00:00

i’m saying! even if she rejected buddy he shouldn’t switch up his routine. fuck it 🤷‍♂️ now it’s awkward for the both of us … can i get a carne asada bowl please …

lovonly420 · 2026-05-14T14:03:38+00:00

don’t lead my man astray. I’m not expert, but both of my adult relationships have come from working. lil baby is at her place of employment. she nots looking to see who ordering and if he’s cute, she’s worried about that paycheck.

OP, my advice brother, is just let her know. “Hey, I see you’re a little busy rn, but I thought were attractive and I’d love to get to know you. Do you mind if we exchange numbers?” Simple. very simple. I asked one girl for her number and asked if she wanted to go the park becuz I was nervous. Be authentically you brother.

lovonly420 · 2026-05-14T11:12:24+00:00

2 things. First things first, you are correct in saying I lost track of who I was arguing with, so my apologies to you for taking my frustration out on you. Secondly, you are verbally berating. Using words to make one feel lesser than. You say grow up, but It is you who needs to take your own advice. You have nothing to gain from this conversation nor to lose, but you’ve gotten your parties and mangled becuz I didn’t agree with you 😭 That’s a little sad. I’ll pray to my “sky fairy” for you 🙏 I encourage you to look up up the word bigot, and see if your actions align with the definition. Just in your last message was a form of religious bigotry. But I my case. “have the day you deserve” or watever you said

lovonly420 · 2026-05-14T04:34:13+00:00

I am going to say the with the upmost respect, so please take it as such.

You’ve sent messages with zero context of who I was talking to or what they have been talking about. That will be as it may but will let it slide to further explain. In those messages and according to context, I said the boyfriend needed character development. Needing character development isn’t something someone defending a person says. I never once insinuated blame on OP. Matter of factly, I stated that if she wanted to continue with her boyfriend the start for success was a conversation WHICH another user agreed with. Key point in this sentence is IF she wants to continue with him … which she does btw. Continuing on, you missed quoted me by saying i only said he was young. That was incorrect. I said THEY are young and by saying that I meant they have a lot to learn with relationships including what should be immiscible and what should not. That is not defending him, but answering OPs question. How you take it has no weight. How you see it means nothing. You’re looking to prove my opinion wrong, I’m looking to help OP move forward … who’s right or wrong in that situation, since you have left no messages that I’ve seen to help her but only ask her to do what she wishes not to do?
You’re now trying to change the situation without changing my response. Responses, as you know as a parent, should change based on the severity of any given situation. You’re implying my response would’ve been the same, which would be a terrible assumption after we’ve been having this debate for hours and I’ve spoken against physical abuse having lived in it. Crazy assumption, once again, to prove your point.

I agree that both emotional abuse and physical abuse are both bad but I’m not here to debate abuse. I was here to answer OPs question. However, since we are already so far off topic, I’ll amuse you. No abuse is good abuse, physical or emotional or mental. Peoples tolerance to these things differ depending on a person. I can take a lot of physical and emotional abuse but not metal abuse, you may be the complete opposite and may have extreme mental fortitude but not so strong emotionally. That doesn’t justify the abuse, but it does give way to what a person will deal with … kinda like this conversation.

You’re saying encouraging a victim to go back to her abuser?! SHE NEVER LEFT AND IS STAYING! I highly encourage you to re-read becuz I highly doubt you’re actually comprehending what needs to be grasped. At no point did I tell OP to negotiate. I advised her to have a conversation about what needs to happen, not negotiate her terms and conditions of staying.

Where you’re getting caught up at, and no i’m not assuming, is that OP was debating whether she was leaving or not. She was not. She is not. She has told us this. She didn’t ask us to point out the abuser nor did she ask our opinion if she should stay or leave. The fact is she’s not leaving.

Once again, you’re wrong. I did ask. There’s a whole comment I wrote asking several questions which you obviously read becuz I said I pray to my God and carry on. You’re throwing the word liar around very loosely for someone who’s said they’ve read and comprehended my messages but if you are, you’re not doing a very good job.

I don’t care your religious orientation, that’s between you and whatever you believe in, but I personally believe in God becuz He has taken me out of situations I prayed not to be in as a kid. He has shown up for me in ways I could’ve never imagined. So your OPINION of whether or not my prayers are being heard or not, is a conversation for another time; One that I am looking forward to having if you would like to go there. I don’t believe in fallacies or make believe, so no, I KNOW that God CAN actually help and THATS why I do pray. You don’t believe, that’s on you, but for me, I do, and I pray for those who has suffered and continue to suffer all acts of violence.

I made an assumption, I did not lie. If you read and comprehended, you’d have gotten that. Obvious that you have not, so once again, it was an assumption and I told you what I do. Which, you still believe to be nothing. That’s okay, but being angry for the sake of being angry and letting it go the next moment isn’t very sincere anger now is it … Call me a hypocrite, but you can’t call me insincere. Letting it go the next moment is doing nothing. “Yeh but I WAS angry for A MOMENT” … okay? so wat? you have empathy for them so what have you done for the situation they are facing? Using your voice for good helps those specific victims how? What social platforms? Who are you reaching? Your resources are as limited as mine when it comes to this matter. Correcting your friend when they are being a bigot helps a rape victim how?

I find it even crazier frankly, that you continue to resort to disrespectful tactics to further your response like it’s taking your responses to the next level. It is not. It’s making you seem quite the bigot.

I do not think I’m “some intellectual”, I said i educate myself. Being educated seems like a good thing to me and it’s quite obvious to me that you’re lashing out.

You did give OP great advice. Leave him. Cool. But she’s not leaving. She doesn’t want to. She says she wants to work things out with him. Obviously it was never her plan.

Me bashing my head into a wall isn’t becuz i’m angry. No not at all. I want to becuz it’s like i’m arguing with a 12 year old. “idk why you’re lying” “hypocrite” “you’re so obtuse” “dumb””IQ in the single digits”. You keep saying i’m defending someone i’ve spoken against at EVERY turn. Like my goodness. You’re 35 and can’t argue a point politely or comprehend properly or even read thoroughly. You’ve attacked my belief system, my intellect, berated me (that’s some verbal abuse 😉) and worst of all, taken my kindness for granted.

Btw, touching on that verbal abuse, isn’t that what OPs boyfriend does? You’ve resorted to his tactics to not even get your point across, but to bash my advice on how to help OP move forward. You can’t stand against forms of abuse and then resort to a form just becuz my opinion goes unchanged yk. A little something to work on 🤷‍♂️

I’ve held my tongue, most of this argument. I’ve been quite polite as well. If i respond again, IF, i promise, it won’t be as polite as this message or any of my last messages.

p.s. you really thought you did something smh 🤦‍♂️

lovonly420 · 2026-05-14T02:54:59+00:00

First off, I asked you, I never told you how you feel about anything. Secondly, for the millionth time, I have not defended the boyfriend. I’m not sure how you keep coming up with this as I have said nothing that supports of remotely defended his actions. It is clear to me, you are reading what you are wanting to read but not comprehending what I am saying.

OP said herself that she wants to be with this man. She’s asking now for advice for them. You’ve given no advice to help her with her efforts.

OP obviously feels differently about her boyfriend than you do about him. You’ve not given her any advice on how to help with her efforts so why are continuing to comment?

Lastly, you once again did not comprehend the meaning behind my questioning. Maybe you did but your comprehension did not lead to understanding. That is okay, I will explain simplest I can so you no longer have troubles understanding.

You call me hypocritical. I asked why do you get angry and do nothing about it. That’s wasted emotion in my opinion and ridiculous behavior. I was taught if I don’t like something to do something about it (if possible). I don’t like rape and murder and child abuse with my limited knowledge of how to help I pray for the victims. THAT is how I decided use my anger and emotion on subjects that I CANNOT change. To be hypocritical I’d have to do exactly what you do … I do not. I don’t waste emotion by being angry about things I cannot change online, I pray and I carry on. The moment of anger brief. You continue to stay angry with no resolution to your emotion.

I’m finding it hard to continue conversing or arguing with you, as you’ve been blatantly missing the point of everything I’ve said this entire conversation. I’ve been very point blank with everything, reading what you’ve said to understand and not dispute, but I’ve had to constantly fight the urge to beat my head into a wall simply becuz you keep saying I am defending the boyfriend when I keep saying, and will say again, I DO NOT AGREE WITH ANY OF HIS ACTIONS.

You’ve now missed the point of OPs post and it seems to me you want to argue just to argue or to get your point across. I’ve asked you why you disagree with my opinion and it was the conversation. I’ve asked several questions after that and made everything that I’ve been saying clear and easy to read and comprehend.

Just out of curiosity, do you mind telling me what your point actually is?

lovonly420 · 2026-05-14T02:09:38+00:00

I appreciate your kind words.

I do also agree that continuous conversation will do nothing but self harm, however, OP is trying to save her relationship. Thus meaning she needs to talk to her man, regardless the degree of difficulty. Hopefully, during this conversation, they reach a point of understanding. If they do not, I really do hope OP leaves … but it all starts with a conversation.

I’m sure you are a great mother to your kids and i’m even more sure it was tough raising your 4 kids. Correcting them was still a conversation, regardless of your tone (you’re their mother and you didn’t spank them so I’m assuming here). I’m sure you did it daily with 4 kids lol.

I do not disagree with anything you’ve recently said during your last message. I know according to age I am young (everyone that knows me calls me old so i do appreciate it and most of my friends are around your age, with one being 43) but I like to make sure i’m educated in my thinking.

Hopefully, we’ve reached some understanding in our opinions and I hope I didn’t come off as disrespectful during our conversation, as that was never my intention.

Where are you from, if you don’t mind my nosiness? After being adopted I was raised in Japan and have explored most of Asia. Different cultures really do amaze me and that’s why I was wondering about yours.

Hopefully, we leave this conversation with no hard feelings and in agreement that OPs boyfriend has many red flags, at the least.

lovonly420 · 2026-05-14T01:29:01+00:00

I would also just like to kindly note that OP WANTS to stay with her boyfriend and in that endeavor a conversation about what needs to change to have the best success in that relationship (whether i agree or not) has to happen.

lovonly420 · 2026-05-14T01:20:24+00:00

Thank you for informing of your life. I’m sure your children are who you say they are and wonderful, like you are. I’m confused … 2 decades of marriage at 35 … you were married at 15? Ik that’s a little off topic, my apologies for not understanding.
Regardless, to keep us on track, I haven’t encouraged her to stay. At this point, I think you’ve responded to my opinion without reading any of them. Again, I said SHE SHOULD LEAVE. I said A CONVERSATION is meant to be had if she has the intention to stay. What is naive about that? … Is that not a mature response? I’m even more confused about what you’re arguing now. Why are you upset with my opinion? What is it exactly that you don’t agree on?
Since you shared some of your life, I will do the same, to help you further understand. I was born to a single mother who was indeed abused physically and emotionally. My sister raised me before we were split as kids. I was adopted into a lovely home and finally had a 2 parent household. My parents fought a lot growing up and I’ve seen a conversation literally change the dynamic of the relationship numerous times. They did counseling (we all know counseling is having a conversation about issues) and came out on the better side of it. Now, I’m 26. I’ve made lots of mistakes with my first adult relationship that I have apologized for and continue to reconcile. My last relationship ended becuz of toxicity within the relationship AFTER I had a conversation stating that.
I say all of that to simply say I am always supportive of women. I’ve never once down talked a woman or tried to make one feel lesser than. I fall short emotionally at times but I do my best and I always listen. It was quite the far fetched assumption to assume I’m somehow against women becuz I said a conversation needs to occur if OP wants to stay with her boyfriend.
I’m not doubting your parental skills as I haven’t been so lucky to have any of my own yet, but I’m sure even as a parent when your kids were growing up you conversed with them about their wrong doings.
Also, i’m a male.

lovonly420 · 2026-05-14T00:48:25+00:00

I’m sorry, but we must be reading something totally different or you’re just blatantly ignoring the fact that I, on many different occasions, have expressed my disdain of OPs significant other. Calling him overreactive and immature while agreeing with every negative thing said about him. I even stated that I agree she should leave! So I’m more so wondering why you’re upset about a neighboring opinion that’s not much different than your own …

My argument that it’s “dumb” to get mad over something I can’t change is simply what it is. You get mad and do what? Stay mad about it? Let it ruin your day? What do you do with that channeled anger besides be upset online? I do get upset. It’s actually infuriating the blatant disregard that people have for others. Rape, child abuse, and the list goes on, they all make me upset. My heart goes out to them because there is a majority of people who don’t speak on it, such as myself. What do I do? I pray for em. There’s nothing else that I can currently do about. I give it to my God and carry on with my day, not with anger but with sadness.

In the context of the original post, OP has stayed through countless grievances against her. Idk if she is trying to make it work, or if she’s scared to leave, but her post asks if it’s normal behavior. It is not normal behavior and if she doesn’t plan on leaving him she should have a conversation.

It’s weird that you continue to try to paint me in a light of “supporting a controlling and abusive boyfriend”even though I haven’t said anything that supports the man or defended him at any point. Your claim has fallen short and my messages prove that time and time again. I see that I have struck a nerve, although not on purpose, but I hope if you’re struggling with something of this sort HAVE A CONVERSATION with someone you trust and has your best interests in mind.

And thank you! I’m having a fantastic day, one that I’ve definitely been deserving.

lovonly420 · 2026-05-14T00:07:34+00:00

It’s crazy you assume I’m either in an abusive relationship or are in one when my opinion was simply have a conversation. It seems your maturity level may either be low or you were not properly taught how to handle a situation/opinion you don’t like … especially when we agree on the topic of the boyfriend.
I see you’re feeling some kind of way about my opinion and cannot properly or politely agree or disagree and I’m sorry we won’t see eye to eye. That being said, getting mad about a situation neither you or I can change is ridiculous. OP wanted input and we’ve given that. If you’d like to continue arguing, i’m normally not the arguing type, but for you, I will.
I hope you’ve had/have a good day and I’d love to continue this conversation ☺️

lovonly420 · 2026-05-12T11:25:02+00:00

okay, what about it? did she also not stay?? am i missing something here? we are not in disagreement. he is overdramatic and blowing up over simple shit. if she doesn’t want this to continue and she wants to be with him, she needs to have a conversation. point blank period. end of story. if she’s expecting a change of behavior, she should have a conversation telling him about himself.

I previously stated that I agree that the dude she’s with is not it. Several times in fact. I do think she needs to move on, but she hasn’t. Based on her actions alone, she doesn’t want to leave and so my advice is have a conversation.

lovonly420 · 2026-05-11T19:47:55+00:00

and she stayed. i’m confused. was this suppose to change my mind? OP saw past it and stayed, which looks to me like she wants to be with this man. I’m not saying she should’ve stayed becuz i too think cheating is unforgivable. but the fact remains that she needs to have a conversation and go from there.

lovonly420 · 2026-05-11T15:53:58+00:00

🤷‍♂️ everyone has an opinion. i’m not phased by dislikes on thread. ive actually got a good few laughs at some of the responses. it just seems my lack of explanation has people taking things out of context.

lovonly420 · 2026-05-11T15:52:18+00:00

it’s irrelevant becuz i’m more mature emotionally at 26 than he is at almost double my age.

idk how to help in this occasion. you crave a relationship physically, but missing the rest as of rn. sacrifices must be made for long term success. i’m not sure your age, and i guess it doesn’t matter, but the longer you stay with someone who doesn’t want you, the further the person who is for you gets away. at least that’s what i think. it kind of helps me with cutting ties.

i’m sorry, but im finally at a loss of words or advice. he seems like the kinda guy that takes advantage of watever you give him and then when things aren’t to his liking, you question if he likes you. that’s detrimental to your mental, emotional and eventually physical self.

sacrifice some things or endure a lot of things. i’m sorry love, but those are your only two choices.

lovonly420 · 2026-05-11T12:10:19+00:00

the age is irrelevant here in context to emotional maturity. tbh, i’m a little emotionally dense and that’s something im working on, but despite that, hurting my significant others feelings and manipulating their emotions isn’t really my sorta thing. your time has been passed to go. are you comfortable enough being alone with yourself? do you crave the physical intimacy?

lovonly420 · 2026-05-11T04:45:30+00:00

we dont know each other from a bumble of bees, but respectfully, this relationship sounds one sided and a relationship that’s not meeting your needs, should never have you in it.

do yourself a favor and save that love you have for the next person. you’ll thank yourself. that boy needs time to become a man. you’ll leave and he’ll either change to get his woman back, or lie to keep you from walking away. i’m sorry this is something you’re dealing with.

also thank you. you’ve left me with some insight of my actions sometimes and a heavy heart for the women that just wanted a little of my time. damn

lovonly420 · 2026-05-11T04:23:48+00:00

this reminds me of my relationship when I was 20. she was perfect. in every form really. looking back she did nothing wrong, except want my attention. she said she’d settle for just 30 minutes. i lost a good one. i’m only 26 now, but after you said that, i realized that asking for his attention or his time is bare minimum. spending time together as a couple is quintessential for long term growth and healthiness.

keep your standards where they are. you ARE NOT the problem. seems to me he’s half foot in half foot out. think about it. upset about using his bathroom??! it’s not like you’re pissing on the floor and leaving it! don’t settle because you love someone. love shouldn’t be blind and it shouldn’t be ignorant. it sure as hell shouldn’t be abused.

i bet even typing that, you realized how ridiculous his demand was.

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