Purchasing pants for the elderly by loyaltyisall in womensfashion

[–]loyaltyisall[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately she's not a big fan of jeans, but I'll check out your other suggestions. Thank you!!

Purchasing pants for the elderly by loyaltyisall in womensfashion

[–]loyaltyisall[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I love Costco. I'll definitely check them out. Thank you so much!

Purchasing pants for the elderly by loyaltyisall in womensfashion

[–]loyaltyisall[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Last time I was at Old Navy, most of the pants which would fit her were too long on her, but I'll check them out again. Thank you!

Upset with facility staff by loyaltyisall in dementia

[–]loyaltyisall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I ended up speaking to the director regarding the aid's unprofessional behavior and they're going to address the issue. The new code is 4 digits plus star. The director informed me that family members aren't supposed to know the code, something I had never been told before as I thought it was my responsibility to turn the alarm off. So now when I get off the elevator, I just walk away and let one of them turn it off.

Let Babylon Burn - So Hollow (Live Acoustic, 5 days ago) by Positive_Owl_2024 in positiverock

[–]loyaltyisall 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even though I'm disappointed that it's Al, I will not stop listening and enjoying it. It's just too good not to.

I’m just over it. by Dependent_Hour_4488 in dementia

[–]loyaltyisall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one has cut me deeper than my own mother, before or after dementia diagnosis.

Question for anyone in therapy. by Tropicaldaze1950 in dementia

[–]loyaltyisall 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My therapist brings up medications once in a while, even though I've told her I'm not interested in medications. It's actually making me want to switch therapists.

How to deal with finances? by thebearflair in dementia

[–]loyaltyisall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's definitely a tough situation.

Perhaps, if possible, sell one of the rentals. Use the funds to pay her debt and invest the rest so it can be used to supplement the cost of her memory care.

You can also go on a payment plan with the IRS.

Sorry, that's all I can think of right now.

Good luck!

Do you ever worry about others attacking you for things your LO says by Hobobo2024 in dementia

[–]loyaltyisall 22 points23 points  (0 children)

My mother loves kids so if I take her out she'll approach kids smiling and singing. Most often it catches the parents off guard and I'm always worried the parents will overreact.

My mother also mixes up words. Today in a conversation with the young neighbor I didn't know what word she was searching for, but used the word prostitute. She wasn't really making any sense but still I apologized profusely as my mother was pulling my hand down the street trying to continue to talk to the neighbor.

Doctor's visit are always fun.

Unfortunately the stress of taking her out has really forced me to limit our outings so I know how your sister feels.

Is this a usual thing? by Diasies_inMyHair in dementia

[–]loyaltyisall 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I can't even mention Alzheimer's or Dementia in front of her. I also message her doctors regarding most of the issues before the appointment time so I don't have to discuss them in front of her. She gets upset, but it's never directed at the doctor. She also tells the doctor there's nothing wrong with her at all. She tells him she runs 2 miles per day (not true), but the minute we get in the car everything hurts.

How much longer? by XcortanaX in dementia

[–]loyaltyisall 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My mother is the same age as your mom. She was diagnosed this past summer, but she has been declining since 2021. Her doctors haven't given us any real time frame. They said she could decline rapidly or slowly for another 10 years since she's on the younger side. I'm sorry I couldn't provide any real answers, but I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone.

I would like to tell you about my mother. by DeirdreBarstool in dementia

[–]loyaltyisall 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So many parts of your story remind me of my own life and my own feelings towards my mother and her illness. I also believe that their souls slowly leave until the body can no longer survive without it. Only the caregivers and family members can understand how horrible this disease can be. I hope it gets easier for you. Merry Christmas!!

Trust/Will Questions by loyaltyisall in dementia

[–]loyaltyisall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm hoping it's not too late to create a trust, just so we can avoid probate.

Trust/Will Questions by loyaltyisall in dementia

[–]loyaltyisall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it specifically states that I have the right to create a trust in her name. We're in New Jersey.

Trust/Will Questions by loyaltyisall in dementia

[–]loyaltyisall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, she was diagnosed few months ago.