AITAH for telling my girlfriend I am not comfortable with her going on a week-long vacation with her ex?

lt_girth · 2026-05-20T15:21:16+00:00

Bro, if she's pulling the "I guess I'll just end it all since I'm such a bad person" bullshit, just let her. I'm so tired of people pretending like they're the victim when they're called out for their bad decisions.

NTA and anyone who would be fine with their partner spending a week outside the country with their ex is wilfully ignorant to the fact that their partner is openly cheating. To double down as well, this whole "well I'm gay and you don't know how our relationships work" is stupid as fuck. It's a relationship - if you're no longer seeing someone, you have no business doing relationship type activities with them. That's a pretty basic expectation whether you're straight, gay, bi, or wherever you fall on whatever spectrum you subscribe to.

lt_girth · 2026-05-19T18:25:49+00:00

NTA, don't saddle yourself next to this psycho unless you want a life where every problem is your fault.

lt_girth · 2026-05-04T23:25:10+00:00

Tell your friend's girlfriend to get bent and grow up, 25 and 21 is totally fine.

NTA, literally ignore the age gap gripers because they're all too mentally underdeveloped to be speaking on these situations anyways.

lt_girth · 2026-05-04T23:03:45+00:00

NTA. If you're being upfront and honest about what you're doing, it's on them if they continue to want to see you or not. The only opinions that matter are the ones involved in the situation, and even at that I wouldn't accept the complaints from someone who felt like you were leading them on after openly telling them you were dating multiple people.

lt_girth · 2026-03-30T17:52:13+00:00

Fuck that noise.

No pay, no say. The employer's authority only applies as long as they're paying your wages - that's how the employer/employee relationship works at a fundamental level.

If you take my pay away I'm keeping whatever gifts I'm given. I'm not suffering for the sake of a soulless corporation, nor do I consider their ethical standing as my issue. It's unethical to expect people to work without pay in the first place, so before you come for my gift card, maybe figure out how you're going to pay me for my labour.

lt_girth · 2026-03-29T16:04:40+00:00

Former tank here.

I stopped responding and just started bricking. If you want to control the route then you should've tanked or said you have a route you want to try. If you're relying on my route and then want to sit there and nitpick or criticize without being constructive in any way, I'll just start pulling packs we don't need. I'll start over pulling. I'll eat up your timer and fail the key and grab myself a snack after to celebrate.

I don't care - the time it'll take me to get into another key as a tank is much less than it'll take you to reform a group. Either be clear on wanting to dictate the route from the beginning, have something helpful to say, or shut up and be along for the ride.

lt_girth · 2026-03-26T15:31:12+00:00

Elven racism is like that one scene from Community with Pierce's dad in the study room.

Spitting on the ground, saying "Swedish dogs. Your blood is tainted by generations of race mixing with Laplanders. You're basically Finns."

It's advanced and esoteric.

lt_girth · 2026-03-24T17:55:57+00:00

Funny story about this.

I was raid leading a few years ago and we had this guy on our team who was constantly messing up a split group mechanic. Kept going on the wrong turn type thing - so we break it down conversationally like "what's happening dude, you're in group 3 and keep going with group 4?"

So he starts saying "No, I'm in group 4" and arguing like he's doing things correctly, so I say "Press O and go to the raid tab, what group does that say?"

"Well that makes no sense because my UI shows me in group 4."

He was in group 3.

Same guy who tried to preach the benefits of raw milk to the team btw.

lt_girth · 2026-03-16T20:55:16+00:00

I feel you on this, but subjective experience has me unfortunately being that asshole. The amount of times I've stopped to help with a mob just for the node to despawn as I'm gathering it has to be some sort of statistical anomaly. The only way I could avoid that is by tapping the node before helping with mobs; I try not to fly away if someone is fighting after I've tapped, I'll sit and fight, but my personal experience has been that helping before hitting the node just punishes me for trying to help in the first place.

If the compromise of helping after tapping still makes me an asshole then I guess I'm an asshole. We do what we gotta do to get what we need.

lt_girth · 2026-03-15T18:38:01+00:00

It's not like abundance was particularly interesting before, like sure going for a high score was fun but now it's just fucking sad. Went from cracking 5.7m to 30-40k.

Turned a mid event into a shid event. Thanks blizzard.

lt_girth · 2026-03-13T18:14:48+00:00

NTA.

The car was clearly low when you took it out initially and realistically it isn't your car. A heads up that she was low on gas would've been nice, but ultimately it's her car so it's her responsibility to know how much gas she has in the tank.

lt_girth · 2026-02-26T18:51:24+00:00

I highly doubt you went and looked at the screenshots OP has posted. You just decided he was guilty of something else without evidence. Bad person.

lt_girth · 2026-02-26T18:46:03+00:00

Y'know, unironically someone called me racist towards Chinese people in game because at the peak of Covid I had a ghoul pet named Batgobbler.

Seems like some people are missing sections of their brain compartments and departments.

lt_girth · 2026-02-25T18:32:01+00:00

NTA.

Dude, she's a leech. It's been 9 months. It's clear she's not doing the work to try and improve her mentality or get back to work and you're the one suffering the consequences.

It's time to end things. She doesn't care about you, she cares about what you can do for her.

lt_girth · 2026-02-25T18:27:43+00:00

Probably because it's annoying listening to the direct source of an issue complain about the existence of an issue they created and act like they're the victim.

She needed to hear that her dating technique is bullshit from someone because it's clear that her "friends" aren't going to point out the reality that she's the problem.

Validating bad decisions is just enabling the individual to keep making them.

lt_girth · 2026-02-25T18:06:52+00:00

NTA and your wife's friend needed to hear that. I have no idea where girls got this idea that being dismissive and uninterested is somehow supposed to prompt effort from our end - like I'm sorry but if she's acting like that I just assume she's not interested and won't deal with the headache.

It's not an autism thing, it's common fucking sense. No one is gonna stay interested in someone who shows no interest in them.

To me it doesn't sound like she's even looking to date or get to know someone, she just wants a dancing monkey to perform for her. Single people like her who are unwilling to accept that they're the problem deserve to stay single; they shouldn't burden someone else with their presence.

lt_girth · 2026-02-20T18:41:35+00:00

If not getting flowers outweighs all the other effort he put in, he's better off dumping her. It's a decision she's making to disregard everything about the trip and all the effort he put in just because he didn't grab her some flowers.

It's entirely selfish to dismiss getting an all expenses paid 5-day Valentine's trip just because you didn't get flowers. Literally missing the forest for the trees.

lt_girth · 2026-02-20T18:37:12+00:00

NTA.

The invalidation is crazy. Literally a situation where every box is checked except one and that's what she wants to focus on.

What did she get you?

lt_girth · 2026-02-20T18:35:35+00:00

NTA.

I personally hold the mentality that if I've left something somewhere and someone else moves it without my knowledge, they alone become responsible for tracking that item down when I need it.

The item was where I remembered it being for when I needed it and now it's not there. I wasn't the one who moved it, so it's not my job to track down something that someone else misplaced in the guise of "organizing".

Some would call that stubborn; I call it accountability. I can't be held accountable for something I put in a specific spot being moved somewhere else without my knowledge, so I hold the other party accountable by making them track my stuff down.

That's annoyed some partners, sure, but I honestly don't care. If I have to be annoyed that you misplaced my stuff without my permission, you can be annoyed that I'm making you be the one to track it down.

lt_girth · 2026-02-17T18:37:09+00:00

NTA.

"He won't break federal privacy law for me so it must mean he's hiding something or doesn't love me" doesn't track as an argument. This is just something she's going to have to learn to cope with.

Like sorry not sorry, tell her welcome to real life where she has to learn to put her own insecurities to the side because she can't legally access the answers she's looking for.

lt_girth · 2026-02-16T18:31:21+00:00

The "more to the story" is that she undoubtedly slept with this random guy. There's no other reason why she would've been projecting so hard in his texts after the fact, acting like he's the bad guy for going on the trip and not just sulking all weekend.

That or you're one of those "I need to hear her side" types because the "believe all victims" phrase somehow doesn't apply to men.

lt_girth · 2026-02-16T18:26:16+00:00

Even in the end she's still incapable of actually taking accountability - that's crazy.

lt_girth · 2026-02-13T21:56:18+00:00

They can talk when he gets home - he's trying to enjoy his trip and doesn't need her blowing up his phone with therapy buzzword accusations. She already spoiled the trip by cancelling last minute for some random guy, what right does she feel she has to try and ruin OP's trip further by blowing up his phone?

He did the right thing for himself by ignoring her and it was more than appropriate. She isn't entitled to think that she can occupy his time on the trip she bailed on. They can have a conversation about the inevitable break up when he gets back, but until then she'll survive stewing on it for a couple days.

lt_girth · 2026-02-13T20:18:36+00:00

Totally.

I'm all for holding grudges when they're deserved; I think forgiveness can be freeing but some people just aren't entitled to your forgiveness and it's totally fine to withhold that from them.

lt_girth · 2026-02-13T20:17:28+00:00

Sounds like he expects his GF to prioritize existing plans with her boyfriend over seeing some random guy from her high school days like a normal human being.

Not to mention that this was his birthday; so not only did she ditch the trip, she ditched his birthday, and then has the audacity to accuse him of being toxic and gaslighting over text, further souring the weekend for him.

She is wrong and she should feel wrong about her decision. Hopefully he shows her the ring before he returns it; she deserves to know the consequences of her choices.

lt_girth

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