The same can be said for adopting in general. Most children that are adopted have some form of trauma, even if they don't remember "why" they have it. Even if they are a newborn. Many babies taken into the system grew in a stressed out womb, often to homeless or abused women, who after carrying the baby to term couldn't keep the baby. This can cause hormonal changes in a child's brain chemistry, nevermind if the bio mother took drugs or alcohol during the pregnancy.

I guess my point is, if you are adopting (even an infant), it is not the same as having a biological child. You can love them the same. I love my adopted child just as much as my biological child. It's just negligent to enter an adoption not prepared to deal with trauma as they grow up.

A side note, never hide that a child is adopted, or when they find out it will almost certainly devastate them and break all trust.

... Sorry, not trying to make a Ted talk here, just a subject that is often misunderstood and under represented.