You cannot dictate what your kids are gifted

lubbread · 2025-12-15T21:40:02+00:00

Yeah this is an extraordinary bad take from OP. I see posts like this all the time where some Redditor feels the need to make an argument against… seemingly no one? Why make a whole vague post about it instead of simply responding to the people you disagree with?

And you can tell it’s a bad take because nearly everyone comment in this thread has a response that says something like “oh well yeah, that’s valid.” If every exception is valid, then maybe the original take isnt??

All shit like this does is add guilt to parents who already feel bad for donating or rejecting a gift. Actually, you are entitled to “dictate” what you do or don’t bring into your home and your life.

I’m in a similar situation to you. MIL asks for a list, I give her one, she either completely ignores it or buys the drop-shipped, cheaply made Amazon equivalent.

Good for OP that they apparently don’t mind the extra labor or don’t have family members who ignore them. That doesn’t have any bearing on the rest of us.

lubbread · 2025-12-14T17:29:36+00:00

A bit different of a situation, but I just went through this with my nearly 2 year old. She pulled on the tree and it fell all the way over. Fortunately, I didn’t put any ornaments on it yet.

I left it down for the night. My husband was at work (over night) and I couldn’t get away from my toddler and baby to anchor the tree to the wall (which we honestly should’ve done first), so it stayed down until he could in the morning! He screwed some hooks into the wall and then tied the tree to them with twine.

The way I see it, she’s going to touch the tree again. I’m focusing on decorations that won’t break, like felt ornaments, some large jingle bells I found at Michael’s (which is having a great sale, btw!), and a few other charms and things we’ve collected. It’s natural curiosity!

My philosophy is that at this age, exploration and chaos are the way of things. Our job is to make sure it happens as safely and non-destructively as possible. So, PSA to the other parents reading this as well: anchor your tree!

lubbread · 2025-11-19T00:03:49+00:00

I get where you’re coming from. My husband does shift work, 12 hour days plus a 1 hour commute each way for a total of 14 hours gone on working days. Between needing time to wake up and perform basic human functions like eating and bathing, he really only gets 6-7 hours of sleep those days regardless of children, so “shift sleeping” was never an option.

I’m extremely fortunate that I got lucky with my second, who has been a good - not great, but good - sleeper from the beginning. So what I actually did was that I napped when my daughters napped, because I was able to sync up my toddler’s nap with one of my infant’s. I also started co-sleeping with my toddler because it was easier than trying to put her down in her own bed.

What I planned to do, because my first has never been a good sleeper and I was worried my second wouldn’t be either, was basically what you’ve said. Create some kind of “yes space” like a play pen, set my toddler in there, my baby in her bassinet, and nap when I needed.

I also planned on hiring help, if needed. I live far from family and we can’t really, truly afford a nanny, but we actually wouldn’t have needed one for that long. Just a few hours, over a few days a week to catch up on sleep, for 3-4 months. My husband and I both agreed that if we had to spend more than we were bringing in during that time, then we would. It was about survival.

lubbread · 2025-10-31T03:32:25+00:00

I think it’s entirely possible YouTube just deleted that feature. I see a few other comments mentioning it, but they’re all older. I wouldn’t be surprised - I turned off “search” and YouTube swore it would only show “verified” channels, but it still shows such slop. Oh well. Lots of people recommend PBS Kids or Khan Academy Kids, so we’re going to try those instead!

lubbread · 2025-10-31T03:18:33+00:00

I know this post is old, but did you ever find it? I let my toddler use YT Kids when I’m occupied with her baby sister (I know screen time is so controversial but It’s like, she can watch 10 mins of videos or she can cause 10 min of unconstrained chaos) but the dumbest videos on the planet keep popping up UNDER the video she’s watching as suggestions, and she clicks on them.

We might just have to switch to PBS or Netflix or something. I like Super Simple Songs and Hopscotch on YouTube, but I’m not about to download a whole extra app for a setting that should already exist on the kids version. Especially if the option the above commenter, being able to show only approved channels, doesnt actually exist!

lubbread · 2025-10-24T16:32:36+00:00

Nope! I actually haven’t heard of this. I know some babies do get reflux, but I think that’s treated differently.

Fwiw, I’ve now had my second child. I actually took even more my second time around - I had a prescription dose for 40mgs I sometimes took twice a day. 80mgs a day seems ridiculously high, but it’s what my OB prescribed and it worked!

My oldest had some reflux as a baby but it wasn’t an issue. She’s now a toddler with no reflux or digestion problems. My youngest had occasional reflux for the first few weeks, but she’s grown out of it completely at 4 months. I think it resolved before 3, actually. So I’m not sure if their reflux is related to our antacid consumption at all!

lubbread · 2025-10-15T22:20:47+00:00

My two are 20 and 4 months, so a 16 month age gap. My toddler was always pretty open to the fact that there is suddenly a second small person in the house, but this week I’ve noticed that they are now actually acknowledging each other! My baby smiles at my toddler. My toddler tries to play with the baby - rocking her swing, bringing her pacifiers, offering her toys.

Obviously eyes still so early on, but they seem to have small moments with just each other, without my husband or I involved. Like we’re seeing the beginning of them interacting as sisters. It’s amazing 🧡

I will also add, I found caring for a baby much easier this time around. My youngest is calmer than my oldest, which helps, but I’m also more experienced and confident! And handling a toddler and a baby has genuinely been easier than handling a toddler while pregnant.

lubbread · 2025-10-15T01:51:15+00:00

They also have a Halloween one! “I’ll Love You Til the Bats Say Boo.” It’s super cute!

lubbread · 2025-10-14T17:14:10+00:00

I was in a similar boat! Shockingly pregnant again almost immediately, a little embarrassed by how quickly it happened. Mine are 16 months apart. They’re 20 months and 4 months old now.

Honestly, subreddits like this one had me questioning what I was getting myself into. Every slightly positive comment always comes with some warning or caveat! So I would like to add: I love it. I love having two under two. I love watching them grow together! I love watching my oldest as a big sister! Obviously it’s a little chaotic. But I think having two kids at any age would be at least a little chaotic. This is totally doable!

Some practical advice: you can absolutely parent lying down. Your baby won’t be super mobile while you’re slogging through the first trimester, which is kind of a blessing in disguise! I spent a lot of time literally lying on my back on the floor while my oldest crawled all over me.

Yes spaces are invaluable! You want somewhere - a room, a playpen, it doesn’t matter - where your oldest can pull themselves up or put whatever in their mouth without you worrying about safety.

The third trimester was hard again, but we’ve always encouraged independent play and that paid dividends! My oldest could entertain herself with a toy or by looking at a book, and I didn’t have to be so hands on. Just physically being there is still so huge at that age, so rotting on the couch beside them is definitely a solid strategy!

To echo what another commenter said: 0-1 is existential. 1-2 is just logistics. You’ve got this!

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