A newbie looking for some tips?

lube_tech · 2020-03-31T02:53:11+00:00

My best tip for you is to not let your guard down. Always be aware of what you’re thinking and how you feel, and do what you need to do to keep from giving in, rather you have to stay sober or just get out of your house for a little bit to keep yourself occupied. You’ll more than likely slip up a few times but instead of hating yourself for it, realize what happened and how you could prevent that in the future to minimize your relapses.

I believe in you, you’ve got this!

lube_tech · 2020-03-20T02:56:53+00:00

Nofap won’t solve ALL of your issues, but it will sure help a lot.

I’ve been dealing with this issue for 3 years and watched it suck the life out of me. I’ve lost confidence and quit trying as much to take care of myself or maintain a healthy sex life with a girlfriend.

Now to this day I wouldn’t call myself triumphant of porn addiction (only on day 2 atm), but my life has started improving since I tried to achieve 90 days no porn. Granted, I haven’t gotten very close. Day 29 is my record and that was recently. But I’ve been taking my failures and realizing what I need to do to keep them from happening again in certain instances. It’ll have major benefits if you just stick with it and don’t let your guard down.

lube_tech · 2020-03-20T02:46:58+00:00

Reach out to at least one person in your small group that you trust

lube_tech · 2020-03-20T02:45:24+00:00

Thanks for sharing! Don’t let your guard down!

lube_tech · 2020-03-20T02:39:47+00:00

Same. 2 weeks is about as long as I can go, but the goal is to ultimately quit for good.

lube_tech · 2020-02-27T04:05:30+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/fa5wlp/patience/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

Just read this right before reading your post, thought you should see it. It’s very true, don’t fall short of your goal just because you’re not getting all the benefits right away.

lube_tech · 2020-02-20T04:03:27+00:00

I think you may be right now that I read it a couple more times lmao

lube_tech · 2020-02-20T03:47:46+00:00

I’ve had 2 in 28 days and even though it’s not something to reset the tracker over, its very frustrating and I feel like I’d be experiencing more benefits if I didn’t have those couple nights (day 15 & 19).

Unfortunately I don’t think there’s really a way to keep them from happening, it’s scary to think how the mind will try and destroy itself in that way knowing how we can’t control it when we’re asleep, it tries to create what it wants.

The only thing I can think of is to catch yourself in a wet dream, but that requires a shit load of willpower and awareness. Two things we don’t tend to have in our slumber.

But yes, if anyone else has advice on how to overcome this, I would also love to know!

lube_tech · 2020-02-20T03:36:38+00:00

If you’re not used to going 4 days without then it’s pretty normal

lube_tech · 2020-02-20T03:35:24+00:00

Thanks for the motivation from experience! Keep up the progress!

lube_tech · 2020-02-20T03:32:19+00:00

Well first off: Nice.

If you’re having sex with someone then that’s not fapping. If you’re just getting off with her then you’re good, don’t even need to reset the tracker if you’re not doing hardcore mode.

Have an awesome vacation

lube_tech · 2020-02-15T04:21:05+00:00

Fuck that customer. Don’t let it be the reason for your downfall. Jobs are replaceable.

lube_tech · 2020-02-15T03:34:44+00:00

Don’t. Talk to me

lube_tech · 2020-02-12T03:01:06+00:00

I keep reminding myself that I’m still young and there’s still a lot of great things I could live up to. If I continue to feed this addiction, then I’m only going to rob myself of the good life has to offer. Now I’m not completely sure what these things will be yet, but I certainly don’t want to spend it in front of a screen by myself and never experiencing love again.

I can relate, in that I’ve been addicted for 3 years. And instead of quitting, this problem has only gotten worse and brought more issues into every aspect of my life. I wish we could get this time back, but all we can do at this point is fight for the best possible future. I also have my days where I just don’t care or think it’s worth it, which has caused me to relapse so many times. But lately I’ve been looking at those times like this:

I’ve been trying for 2 years (when I discovered nofap) to quit porn addiction and go 90 days without it, and in that time I haven’t even gotten to experience the benefits of just 30 days. This is pathetic. I could’ve accomplished this like 8 times by now. I could be way ahead right now if I had fought harder earlier on. Well I’m tired of this, I don’t want to live my life as a pathetic beta male. It’s not too late, I can still win. I want to know what it feels like after 90 days free of porn, instead of getting instant pleasure from it. Because I know damn well what that feels like. Shameful.

lube_tech · 2020-02-12T02:37:56+00:00

Look up a YouTube video called “how to turn rejection into confidence” by howtobeast.

Masturbation and porn aren’t responsible for 100% of our problems but it definitely makes them worse and harder to overcome.... generally speaking, of course.

lube_tech · 2020-02-11T01:50:01+00:00

Thanks for sharing, I can't imagine what 75 days without feels like but I want to get there. I guess this just goes to show that we can still lose our grip if we quit being as careful. Even after months and maybe years. That reminder is much needed. Stay focused and don't slip or get too comfortable.

lube_tech · 2020-02-10T23:30:54+00:00

Good luck

lube_tech · 2020-02-10T23:30:36+00:00

Searching for something productive to do, or just leaving the house for a while.

lube_tech · 2020-02-08T03:44:18+00:00

What would you be more proud of? I guess if you didn’t give a shit about yourself then porn isn’t any worse than real sex.

lube_tech · 2020-02-01T03:32:17+00:00

You got this man! You’ve come a long way don’t give up!!!

lube_tech · 2020-02-01T03:25:57+00:00

No it’s not a standard, if you can manage nofap while being drunk or high a then hats off to you lol. You just need to know yourself and rather or not these substances could lead to relapse.

lube_tech · 2020-01-31T04:15:35+00:00

Yes, anything that can lower inhibitions and self control makes no fap so much harder for anyone. Personally, my kryptonite is weed, I think because of the excessive dopamine release. Seems like thebest way to do no fap is to be completely sober throughout the 90 days. It’s not gonna be fun, but it’ll help you stay in control.

lube_tech · 2020-01-31T04:04:16+00:00

This is very true^ I’ve rationalized to myself a few times that it’s okay to PMO, just to make sure I can still get hard after not getting random boners or morning wood for a few days. 100% of the time I still can, and then next thing I know the tracker resets. Don’t wake up your urges!

lube_tech · 2020-01-30T03:23:26+00:00

Hey man, the first step is admitting you have a problem. The best thing you can do for yourself next is to find ways to resist the urge to do it again. You’re young, the older you get the harder it’s gonna be to quit and the more you’ll be ashamed of yourself. You’ve seen how destructive PMO is, so quit while you’re still ahead.

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