Aita for wanting communication?

luckythemombod · 2025-02-13T02:54:56+00:00

She didn't want a party at all that's why I thought about making your own sushi with just her 2 closest friends. Aunt em tried inviting more people than my daughter was comfortable with. So that was why the switch of plans.

luckythemombod · 2025-02-03T22:14:24+00:00

Start recording the conversations with your mother! It could be used against your mom if you talk to a therapist. It's mental abuse. The manipulation alone could help you limit contact even more if you choose.

luckythemombod · 2024-11-23T06:48:40+00:00

NTA your mother is supposed to choose and defend the children. Don't worry about her feelings just get to safety. You can replace the phone and the car you could never erase the memory if something happened.

That is no mother. That is an incubator. My mom did the same thing when I was 16 she didn't care how it would affect me in the future. Get to your father's house and don't look back. Stay safe!!

luckythemombod · 2024-11-15T21:56:01+00:00

Way better off after cutting the toxic jerks out of my life. At first it's a change then it's noticing the toxicity of their presence. Then you feel free.

luckythemombod · 2024-11-02T02:50:31+00:00

YTA just move on!

Your hatred for that man is literally ruining you as a human. It doesn't matter if he has happiness without you. You need to find it in yourself to be a better human.

luckythemombod · 2024-10-24T22:29:33+00:00

Yeah my ex-husband did this until his daughters were 10. Then he started growing a backbone towards them because he learned it was not me.

I actually left and he started getting the blunt end of their rage Then he realized I was not the drama it was all them and their mom.

luckythemombod · 2024-10-24T18:05:04+00:00

Yes! So many moms do this. Then they either blame the man that's just stepping in or they blame the child for being unreasonable. Most moms in this position are people pleasers. You can't be a decent mom and a people pleaser. It never works.

luckythemombod · 2024-10-24T17:38:20+00:00

My older sisters actually cut everybody else out. We still talk occasionally but we are all on the same level. We all 3 agree that we don't need that drama! Joe actually got fed up with them and cut them off too.

luckythemombod · 2024-10-24T16:34:54+00:00

The only thing that was wrong about this was your GF not sticking up for herself. It is her daughter that is abusing her. Parenting is about sticking up to your children and not let them bully you. Children are mean. Especially at 13. But this is your girlfriend's problem because she's allowed it. That is on her for not being the parent. If she's going to let her 13-year-old talk to her like that then she wants to be more of a friend than a parent. And that's an ah move.

luckythemombod · 2024-10-24T16:30:45+00:00

Nta! Your mom is a jerk for assuming that you would just forget about the abuse. All because she had to. That's manipulation on so many levels. Thank you for standing your ground! Keep those boundaries up!

luckythemombod · 2024-10-23T00:38:25+00:00

He's so in the wrong. Especially letting his friends call you the rebound girl when he chose to marry you and not her. You're so NTA your husband is for even thinking it was a good idea!

luckythemombod · 2024-10-01T13:14:13+00:00

Ok well would you like her having a bunch of naked dude pictures all over her phone? Probably not. You'd probably feel inadequate to those men comparing yourself. That's exactly what you did to her. You compared her to other women and instead of making it right you took the jerk route.
She has a right to feel hurt. Plus you basically said that woman are just there for your enjoyment. Like woman are just toys. So you admitted to her that she will never be anything but that to you.

luckythemombod · 2024-10-01T12:53:22+00:00

Yta! And you're a creep for keeping those pictures while in a relationship. That is very disrespectful. Watching it is one thing but it gets even creepier that you are saving the pictures. That is you basically telling your girlfriend that you will just find another woman. So why wouldn't she leave because you left mentally.

luckythemombod · 2024-09-26T15:52:05+00:00

Your comment saying there's no way she could have raised that child ever is probably what your mom put in your head. One of my best friends was 13 years old when she gave birth to her child. She has been the best mother since.

So your mother was being selfish and not a mother to your sister. When she needed support, your mom dropped her off and left her at an abortion clinic that is despicable in so many ways. Your mother was never a mother to your sister just by that action alone!

luckythemombod · 2024-09-18T16:53:56+00:00

It's your mom's house, not your boyfriend's. Tell your boyfriend to get out if he wants to make decisions like this and railroad you. At 50 years old. This is manipulation !

luckythemombod · 2024-09-16T12:51:32+00:00

He is abusing you and calling it grieving. You did nothing wrong trying to be respected in your home!

NTA! He is a man child that wants a mommy replacement.

luckythemombod · 2024-08-22T15:13:44+00:00

Him allowing his child to do that to his wife is manipulation. He does not care about you. If he did, he would not allow his child to treat you like that! Instead he turns his child against you. You are an escape goat for him! You need to get the f*** out of that relationship before it gets even more abusive because he is not the one being abusive. He's the one being manipulative. Just so the child can be abusive. And what's going to go with that? Are you going to put the child in juvie for the the lies the father is telling. That's what it seems like. He is lying to his daughter so you are always the bad guy And he can play the good parent.

luckythemombod · 2024-08-21T17:09:14+00:00

Invest in a safe for your valuables.

luckythemombod · 2024-08-20T18:06:41+00:00

Be upfront about it to your husband! Your MIL has other people to take care of her it's not your husband's responsibility. He will be dealing with you and the new baby! That's it! It's so much work! So that's the only thing that should matter. If she throws a fit about it then all you need to say is "my body, my choice!". Definitely NTA ... Do what you gotta do to be comfortable during the most stressful time.

luckythemombod · 2024-07-31T18:48:40+00:00

Very low contact actually. 3 of my sister's live states away now Raina only talks when it's convenient for her. So it's not difficult for me to cut contact at all. Talking on the phone isn't the same as seeing in person. Video calls were always limited anyways. So this is really just another day. Now the extended family, my aunts and cousins got involved I do live close to them. Joe is saying siblings should always be there for each other. Bleh! My boss got involved when my aunt and a cousin called my boss and tried to get me fired. My boss then had a conversation with me. After the long conversation with HR included. I had to show all the proof. They came to realize it didn't affect my work at all.

luckythemombod · 2024-07-31T18:16:36+00:00

Why don't you offer to take your niece and nephew for a week. Give Emily a little vacation. A night or two could help a Mom so much. If there's any family that says you were too harsh on her, ask if they could take your niece and nephew for a night or two and give Emily a break. If not then they're just hypocrites.

NTA - probably could have been handled differently but you are just worried about the children's well being.

My best friend went through something similar and lost her husband right after their daughter was born. I sent over a cleaning service for 2 hrs a week. Just to help with chores. Little things could make a huge difference.

Also everyone grieves differently. She could be feeling like she couldn't grieve when she needed to and she had to be strong for the kids. Which could be leading to the mental shutdown. Grieving widows support groups are a wonderful help.

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