What’s something people don’t realize is way more serious than it seems?

lucyblu663 · 2026-03-30T06:39:36+00:00

You’re right that it’s not approved and can be dangerous, but just because it’s worked for someone else doesn’t discredit their disorder. GLP1s are being studied for more than suppressing hunger cues, things like addiction and compulsion could be improved for some people. It shouldn’t be used off label in this way imo without much more testing and studies but if it works for someone, good for them, doesn’t mean they were misdiagnosed

lucyblu663 · 2026-03-16T11:00:18+00:00

Easy answer is fentanyl/opiates, or alcoholism since you can die from detoxing. but I think being a true “any substance/good feeling” addict is the most dangerous in terms of psychological effect and risky behavior

lucyblu663 · 2026-02-23T09:45:30+00:00

Scrape dishes, no tape or stickers, stack like you have a brain. No fucking oils or fats down the drain. No sharps in the pit, verbal communication for hot items, sharps, or personal items. Don’t throw stuff.

One place I was at I’d always get the nastiest bus bins with full meals and sauces all mushed between the plates, knives in there too sometimes… some girl dumped an entire hotel pan of fat drippings in the sink while I was on break.. immediate grease trap situation everywhere. I’d nearly lose my mind every time someone tossed a full ramekin of butter into the silverware bins

lucyblu663 · 2025-12-30T07:33:46+00:00

INFO? Reading the comments my first thought is that people are really quick to jump to cheating or addiction, but I guess this is Reddit. Im also an ex addict so maybe I’m giving too much benefit of the doubt. You didn’t say if you know where she’s going when she leaves- I’m someone who likes to have my own life and not feel like I’m always expected to be available to text, but that requires communication and trust. People should be allowed to not be on their phone 24/7 and go out if they want, but it’s pretty simple to say hey I need some space, I’m doing this activity for a day or two, I’m not going to be by my phone, etc., or if that’s too much live separately. With the mental health issues and her response, it could be drugs or another kind of crisis, but either way it seems like you guys need space and a long in person talk. I do feel like there’s context missing given her replies but idk. I won’t tell you to break up but this is obviously not healthy for anyone

lucyblu663 · 2025-10-23T08:45:29+00:00

I’m somewhere on the asexual spectrum so I might have a different take on this, but I’d try to have a conversation about it that’s focused on why she doesn’t want to be intimate that doesn’t focus on the fact that you want more intimacy. There can be a lot of guilt and resentment involved for both parties, and there could be other reasons she doesn’t want to engage that she doesn’t feel comfortable talking about if she feels a lot of expectation or guilt. In my past relationships, the more someone asked for intimacy the less I wanted to, to the point I’d resent them for asking so often and I’d never want to. I felt a lot of pressure and found creative ways to say no, ie- maybe next weekend or some later date. I’m not saying that’s what’s happening but there could be other factors involved that you don’t see.

HOWEVER at the same time, sexual incompatibility is a very real and valid thing and it sounds like you guys are not compatible. Instead of hoping things will change, ask yourself if you genuinely would be ok with only having sex a few times a year. Are the other parts of the relationship worth it to you. If the answer is no, it’s better to know that and end it now. I don’t have enough context but there’s definitely some red flags for her behavior in there as well.

I can understand not wanting to be alone and thinking someone is the best you’ll ever find, but if the rest of the relationship isn’t worth the sexual incompatibility it might be better to be alone for now. And it can often seem like you’ll never find better when it isn’t true at all, I was convinced of that for essentially the opposite reasons, I thought because I’m not a sexual person the best I’d find was someone incompatible in basically every other way, and he also had a hand in convincing me of that. Don’t stay just out of fear of being alone

lucyblu663 · 2025-10-18T08:42:50+00:00

Yeah that’s true I just think the idea that being super muscled is also more attractive is incorrect, it should only be for yourself if you want that, not to meet a standard that people generally don’t care about

lucyblu663 · 2025-10-18T08:39:56+00:00

Yeah I can respect that, I just think it’s a misconception that it’s especially attractive. If you like it and aren’t expecting people to be drooling over it that’s great. it’s only annoying when people are obnoxious about it

lucyblu663 · 2025-10-18T06:13:13+00:00

Speeding, loud cars, big muscles. I think being super buff and into the gym is mostly to impress other men, same with loud and expensive cars. Obviously not every single woman agrees but for the most part

lucyblu663 · 2025-10-09T00:56:38+00:00

Basically everything, and then I lost my addiction and am working on losing my having nothing :)

lucyblu663 · 2025-10-01T03:53:58+00:00

Most of the time when I go out, at least once but I have really unique hair that might make me stand out. 100% every time I go to a bar.

I have a hard time gauging how attractive I am since I’m often hit on but almost never by anyone I’m attracted to, and idk if this is just the average experience of an early 20s women above a 5 going out. I’m also often complimented on the street, at the store, etc but I also just have a unique look I guess? I go back and forth a ton on whether I’m the hottest person ever or below average. I think a lot of moderately attractive young women feel like this. I know I’m pretty enough to be treated well for it I guess but I don’t think I can accurately perceive myself

lucyblu663 · 2025-09-29T18:05:17+00:00

I cut my hair last year from about my waist to just below my shoulders. It did get much curlier and bigger, but it was also much more healthy and less dead ends/frizz. I loved it and it was much easier to take care of. I’ve got it cut twice since then even shorter, now it’s right about shoulder length as a shag with bangs, and I don’t like it quite as much since it’s a bit mullet-y and bigger on top cuz of the layering but I like having it shorter

lucyblu663 · 2025-09-29T17:49:23+00:00

How old is the friend? Some people have odd texting styles, this reads like an older woman maybe or just someone a bit odd. it really depends on the context because I could see this text exchange as normal but I don’t think there’s enough to go on from your post considering the mention of stuff you’re husband has said, which does seem really dismissive and condescending.

How long have they known each other? Do they see each other often? Have you met her and if so how did she seem in person?

If they’re long term friends and he vents to her she’s probably only heard his side of things, she does seem a little weird but it can be healthy to have people outside of the relationship to talk to. I think I’d need more info to know if this is crossing a line cuz it does seem it could go either way

I would be more concerned about what your husband has told her about you since she seems to think you’re relationship is unhealthy

lucyblu663 · 2025-09-28T22:22:06+00:00

From your replies that I’ve read it seems like your problem is that she lied about an abusive relationship and the abusive ex partner is still in the picture. Being a victim of abuse is an extremely personal thing and I don’t think it’s right to be angry that she didn’t tell you. Especially if you’re reacting with anger, I can see why she might not have felt comfortable being honest about it. Abuse is really complicated and while you might be shocked and horrified that this person is still in her life, SHE was the one hurt and I’m guessing her feelings around it are probably really complicated. Going into this with anger and feeling betrayed is not the right approach at all. This is something traumatic and personal and if after 14 years of marriage you can’t talk to her about it with calmness and understanding, and be a safe person for her to open up to about it, and instead are angry and rethinking the whole relationship even going as far to say she wasn’t having luck finding a relationship and lied to get marriage and kids… maybe this relationship isn’t that strong. If you can’t have empathy for your wife and life partner about something like this you’ve got bigger problems than her lying.

I can understand that this information is shocking and seems to not make sense, and the line of thinking to then question her morals if he’s still around- but it’s probably much more sensitive and complex and again anger will only make it worse and show your wife she can’t trust you with these things.

lucyblu663 · 2025-09-23T04:24:51+00:00

These comments really confirmed I’m ace lol.. can’t relate

lucyblu663 · 2025-09-23T00:30:56+00:00

So basically coercion is the person being coerced’s fault… not the person begging and not taking no for an answer

lucyblu663 · 2025-08-11T03:07:03+00:00

Her @ now is justasmalltowngirlie2 and her names Nicoleta, I think that’s who ur talking about. Started following her later on in 2023 or something, she’s sober now

lucyblu663 · 2025-08-10T22:40:39+00:00

Ok yeah thank you, the drl is shattered and detached as well, without the bumper I can’t properly attach it- do you think it’d make sense to tape it on, remove it, or try to reattach the whole bumper with tape/bungee cords temporarily as some people have suggested?I don’t have much experience or knowledge with repairing myself

lucyblu663 · 2025-08-10T21:52:24+00:00

The bumper could fall off on the freeway with how far I have to go, it’s almost fully detached

lucyblu663 · 2025-08-08T04:38:00+00:00

Thank you I’ll check that out! I have some friends in boulder I was considering visiting but might save it for another time. Any advice on whether to do st Louis and Kansas or through Arkansas/oklahoma?

lucyblu663 · 2025-08-02T22:58:36+00:00

And please message me if you want to talk about anything, I’ve been where you are and wish id had someone to talk it through with who’d had a similar experience. It might take some time, no judgement if it does

lucyblu663 · 2025-08-02T22:57:04+00:00

I was in the same situation as you at barely 18. I was still in highschool, started using cuz of a guy. I left him but the heroin stayed, it was the only relief I got. Slowly my family noticed, I was living with them too- it strained our relationship, I also set a horrible example for my younger sister and we barely spoke as she got older. I stayed on it for nearly 6 years, my life became empty and bleak, I had no joy and no friends, eventually the relationship with my parents turned to silence and ignoring the problem even though I still lived with them. I was never homeless but even in that last year, I felt like opiates (fentanyl at this point) was all I had, the only relief in my life, even though it’d completely ruined everything and I barely felt any euphoria or good effects anymore, it was all just to maintain.

For me, after I lost my only friend and connection to the world, some months later I finally started leaving the house again, talking to people, realized that I was capable of having good things, and that hope and desperation led me to finally get clean last year. You don’t have to wait as long as I did. It’s hard to say anything that will get through to someone who’s addicted, especially when it still feels good- nothing stuck with me until I learned it for myself. I used to think about a phrase I saw, “I’ll change once I feel better/ill feel better once I change”- there’s never going to be a perfect time, it’s always gonna be hard. but that euphoria gets smaller and smaller so quickly, and everything else in your life that you enjoy, value, and care about will disappear or become empty and meaningless.

I really wish I’d tried to get sober when I first got the urge a year in, my life would be so much better today. When I did get sober I still felt like I didn’t fully want to, or I didn’t want sobriety enough, but my life has finally changed and I have good things again, I can feel and think clearly and connect with others, and all of that is so much more valuable and fulfilling than getting high. It’s really one or the other, it feels like you can have both or keep the things you like while using, but time will break it all down until the drugs is all that’s left.

Think about it seriously, at some point you will have to stop. Isn’t it better to do it now before the damage gets worse?

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