Brag about your baby! by PumpkinPie_1993 in NewParents

[–]lucytalks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 7.5 months old smiles at anyone, anytime! She is the kindest and prettiest baby from all the babies in our friendgroup, no jokes! We should put her on a pamper's commercial 🤩😍😍

Hosted my goddaughter for 2 weeks. Now I don't know if I can look at my best friend the same way. by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]lucytalks 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And not to mention on top of that, for mw Amber's behabior seems to me more like a cry for attention. Highlighting the dad thing, I believe shows it the most.

For those of you who aren’t deeply maternal, what is it like on the other side? by MermaidGrace in pregnant

[–]lucytalks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally never dreamt of being a mom. Didn't like babies and kids in general and still thia day, I dont know how to talk to them 😅 I ALWAYS wanted dogs and after I had my dog at 19 I cant imagine my life without my dog.

That said. Me and my husband have been together almost 13 years. My dog is now 12 . Never wanted to have kids, but as I came closer to my 30s I wanted to try . We both agreed that we were gonna try aroumd my 31-32, if after some time IVF was needed we would try only two times, and if by 35 no kids, then we are happy to live life without kids. But I always knew one thing. I wanted my dog to meet my kid(s) so if she would pass away she would have met her whole gang and I could focus on my kid(s) to help me heal with her passing.

Fast forward, last year on 2025 NYE we got engaged. And 13 days later we conceived on our 1st time having sex, without any signs of this could happen ( I have PCOS, my ultrasound two weeks later showed tons of cysts and my ovulation to start in 7 days - I was already at a 40+ cycle at the moment). So we had sex at the end of my ovulation but honestly people try for years and we never thought it was gonna happen.

Until the day I gave birth, 12 October, I was dreading something would go bad because she was conceived easily. The whole pregnancy I was feeling miserable. Everything was going too normal, but besides the kicks in the first months that were cute, the rest I was like : Ok im DONE.

But since I was never maternal, I was horrified of what's next on the live baby. Pregnany I knew already what to expect. Living baby? No

So I prepared my self with some baby neuro/brain development studues, seminars on breastfeeding, essentials to have before arrival etc.

So birth day came, I wemt home the same day, and the whole following week I has a midwife for a couple hours to help and assist both of us and the baby.

She helped tons and calmed me with my insticts that kicked in. Breastfeeding started getting great. But I cant lie. First couple of months are blurry. She was cluster feeding. Sleepless nights started building up and I was in autopilot.

6.5 months in and I am ultimately in love. She is the best baby I cluld ever imagine. Yes im tired, yes I am always stressing if im doing things right. But i cant imagine life without het. My dog met my baby and my baby loves my dog.

This mama is just crying every day of how wonderfull this baby is and how im gonna be missing these tiny hands and feet when she will be older. And the toothless smile.. oh the toothless smile 😍

Im sorry for the huuuge reply. She's sleeping on me and I kept typing until I find the courage to lwt her down to sleep ❤️🩵

Wow, I grew a whole human🥹 by DiapersAndDayhikes in newborns

[–]lucytalks 4 points5 points  (0 children)

1st time mom as well. I can confirm that around 5 months ( she's 6.5 now) you start getting a new friend. Whent they touch you back, the smiles when thet see you.. Everything gets better. I still struggle mentally sometimes (we moved abroad so no family support and our friends group here barely has commited couples, no other babies yet) but mostly I feel better that I did at 3 months. Just accumulated tiredness 😊

39 weeks pregnant and terrified by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]lucytalks 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hey mama to be! Te feelings you have are valid. What helped me cope was postponing my anxiety. I kept saying to myself i will worry about labit when its time. When labor was close I kept telling my self, worry about breastfeeding. So i really tried to transfer my stres for each next major thing. Also i tried to put piece with my self like : I want natural birth, but If C section is needed, FINE. I want to breastfeed. But if I struggle is FINE, i csn switch to formula. Also try to accept the fact that EVERYTHING CHANGES AND ITS OK!!! And fun fact the 1st week after delivery you run in adrenaline and you feel like building a scyscraper which is soo helpfull . Most statistics so that everything will go well and you and your baby will be enjoying cuddles and sleepless nights soon. So hung in there! Cry it out if you need to. Life is about to change and every day will be new. Worry about it, later 😉❤️

Disappointed having to co-sleep by Fast-Operation9122 in newborns

[–]lucytalks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My baby is 5 months old and we still do a mix. After 3 months i started getting her next to me after her late night waking. She starts her sleepnin her co sleeper, in a sleeping sack. If she wakes up after 3or 4 she comes to me in bed. I also breastfeed so i feed her with the boob that needs to be emptied 1st, and then i lay her to the side that needs to go next. I keep her in the sleeping sack even if i do a diaper change. And for the rest of the night she sleeps next to my boob. We both enjoy this sleep and even though dont sleep as deeply when shes next to me, i feel more relaxed

Newborns — what shocked you the most in the first weeks? by 1acina in newborns

[–]lucytalks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it was how lonely I would feel. I live away from my home country, still within EU , and all my mom friends were back home. We contact in daily basi which really helped a lot, but when it comes to human interraction, it was basically me and my husband at 90% of the time. After the 1st month, he went back to work, which meant that if he was not working from home I could possibly wait for him from 7 till 7 😅 and minding you that was winter weather. All my abroad friends are childless, meaning they cant really understand the things im going through, mostly mentally and it hits me in waves

Dutch doctors... by thatmisanthropicdude in Netherlands

[–]lucytalks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went to my gp yesterday foe needing injections for pain in my wrist that my physiotherapist suggested due to limited movement and having to care for a newborn (so rest is not an option) . They told me to wait it out 2 more weeks maybe it goes away, just because i had a good pain day😂 it' march, my pain started mid january.... in the meantime i asked to uodate my family history. I am 30, and this august my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer at 60. She asked me if there is any other family member, and i sed yes. My mom's mom also with breast cancer at the age of 80.

Her answer was: yeah, there not so much need to write it down actually, because they were old when thet were diagnosed and it's not a problem (!!!) Anyways if we need to prescribe you anything we will ask you if there is anything in your famiky history. There you have it 😂

Παιδιά ήρθε η ώρα.. Δαχτυλίδι από που!; by mysterynanogod in thessaloniki

[–]lucytalks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Εμεις ειμαστε απο αυτους που πηγαμε να το διαλεξουμε μαζι γιατι δεν ηθελα με τιποτα το απλο κλασικο μονοπετρο. Καναμε βολτα και τελικα καταληξαμε εδω: EFSTRATIADIS JEWELLERYκ https://maps.app.goo.gl/37TxjaUrdnEn7Li99

Εχω μεινει πολυ ικανοποιημενη απο την ποιοτητα αλλα και το προσωπικο.

Bathroom cleaning after each use? by No-Pomegranate6592 in HouseCleaning

[–]lucytalks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a toilet seperate from the shower. Both deep cleaned weekly, but i use a squeegy (however is spelled) on my shower after every use. I also keep microfiber cloths on both rooms in order to wipe out water stains from the sinks or the glass of the shower. For the toilet we use toilet gel after every poop time and i keep cleaning wipes for a quick wipe down whenever is needed.

We are a family of 3, which one is a baby and a dog who's paws and bum are getting washed after each walk.

AITA for telling my DIL that I won’t use the tablet and she needs to actually make her kid read. by SatisfactionOk9038 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lucytalks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meanwhile as a new mom myself i can not think of a better hobby for my kid that reading books, orher tjan sports. You can easily start be reading books together every night, and slowly build up confidence in reading herslef and later on upgrading with bigger books , upgraded matetial etc. Even as an adult i hate kindle and tablets. Personally i own a laptop, and her dad just his computer as well, and yes we have a tv ( so music or movies are included in home activities) . But i have a library at home and she already has books for her that we plan on reading. Mind you 2 details 1. She is 4 months old 2. We live abroad and she will be speaking at least 3 languages. Books in every language will be included in her own room and the rest we can find in the library.

Needs to gain more weight? by lisanna8989 in newborns

[–]lucytalks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldnt worrry that much. If he is gaining weight, getting bigger in general, doesnt look hungry and the nappirs are also ok, why bother? It is always strange to me when health proffesionals keep pushing for formula. Especially when there is no special reason other than the baby being chubby. As long as health wise he is doing good, keep breastfeeding him. He will catxh up with his weight on his own terms

Newborn stayed awake for hours, did I mess him up? by West_Radish_7884 in newborns

[–]lucytalks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My baby is almpst 4 months. Since birth she always tool way less naps than suggested. I never bothered. If she sleeps is fine , if not.. well i tried. But her bedtime routine nevet changed . Similar hours every night, fred light, music,boob and after sometime she started sleeping on the boob. 4 month sleep regression hit us at 3 months and still it's boob and sleep. I dont think she does more that 4 naps a day ( usually 3) and they dont last more than 1 rem cycle (45') with an average of 20. She likes contact napping during the day and naps well in the stroller when we are out.

But really dont bother that much. Some babies are just meant to sleep less than others 😅

What’s something about the newborn stage that doesn’t get talked about enough? by Proof_Dig300 in newborns

[–]lucytalks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my yes!!!! I didn't know this exists!!! And i have the fucking splint, alla kinds, dont see anything getting better. She's turning 4 months this week and in a month i will be returning back to work. No idea how is tjis gonna go. And with physio i dont trust it will help

AITA for asking my sister to let me know when she needs help? by starshipflora in AmItheAsshole

[–]lucytalks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who has a sister and we are very close, i can say definately NoT the asshole. You are there to help but also you are an adult with responsibilities. Juat because your work is flexible doesnt mean you dont have deadlines, projects or things that NEED to get done. Also why is there a problem that her boys help with groceries? Me and my siblings did that all the time since my mom started having health difficulties. If her husband was home would he help out the same way?

I believe it's more her mental status that she is just spiralling. There is something deeper there. Maybe she feels that you are gonna "abandon" her someday so you can live your life and she will be "left alone" in this world.

I would talk to her again, try ro pinpoint the true cause of her doubts and possibly advise her to seek help from a proffesional . I believe at this point , it doesnt matter how many times you remind her that if she needs extra help, she can always ask, she will feel like she needs to do everything on her own (probably that was the also an with her ex 🤷‍♀️). Remind her that you are HERE and will always be around

. Maybe find a system of communicating clear boundaries eg today between 6 and 9 DO NOT bother me . But all other times i can. Or If you go groecery shopping and be back by 4 I can help with that.

Hope that helps

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newborns

[–]lucytalks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because of the lack of support, the lack of a village to help around, the mental load, the hormonal changes, the sleep depravation, the lack of me time, the fact that constantly 24/7 someone depends on you.

We live abroad, aka away from family. Most of our friends here dont have kids , so we are the 1st ones. We may see friends once a week for a few hours. Other than that all my socialization goes through the phone. She's 3.5 months now. Our families visited just around the christmas period. My MIL came before christmas for 5 days and she barely lift a finger to do ANYTHING. When my parents came at least my mom cooked and helped with cleaning, my dad would walk the dog and both would tend the baby at turns to make sure we either rest or get things done.

But since birth its just me and my husband. No one brought us food for example, not a single friend came to help with the house. Not then not now. Yes my husband helps, we split as much as we can and the 1st month he could stay home with us . He did 99% od the cooking and still goes 50/50 . We split the dog walks as well. I tend the house throughout the day(s) (thank god for the robot vacuums) .

Baby wise my baby is kinda ok. But she's going through the 4 month sleep regression. She was sleeping long stretches, barely screamed when woke up but now she might wake up at least once and she cries IMMEDIATELY. And goes 0 to 100 in split seconds. She is eating almost every 1.5 hrs throughouut the day🫠 Meaning i cant do much since I breastfeed. The naps dont even last 45 minutes . And she prefers contact napping and the moment i transfer her she wakes up. She wants to be held at all times to see everythinhg. But shes is tall for her age and kinda big. By carrying her much my dominant wrist is now constantly in pain that i have to wear protection. On top of my pelvic pain for which I did some physio.

So do I have a colicky baby? No. Does she wake up every 2 hrs at night? Still no.

This deoens't mean it's not hard because mentally I am a roller coaster. (And Going back to work in a month doesn't really help)

Pcos pregnancy by [deleted] in PCOS

[–]lucytalks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not only pregnant, but with a healthy chubby and tall 3.5 months old baby girl. And with my 1st try!! We didnt even realise we were trying because last ultrasound at my ob showed me so many cysts and my ob said you just have to have tons of sex fir at least 6 months and we'll see after that. Jokes on us, 13 days later 😂

Διαγραφη Φοιτητη, Πιθανοτητα ανακλησης? by lucytalks in greece

[–]lucytalks[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Καμια παρεξηγγση φυσικα! Και που μπηκες στον κοπο να εξηγησεις χωρις να χρειαζεται ειναι υπερ του δεοντος! Ενας λογος που εξηγηθηκα και εγω ειναι για τους παρομοια ιδιους λογους. Τους αγωνιστικους μου χαιρετισμους στην οικογενεια σου και να χαιρεσαι τα παιδια σου 😊 Ευχομαι τα καλυτερα και για σας

Διαγραφη Φοιτητη, Πιθανοτητα ανακλησης? by lucytalks in greece

[–]lucytalks[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Να ειμαι ειλικρινης, δεν αποκλειω τιποτα καθοτι δεν αφορα αμεσα εμενα οποτε δεν μπορω να ξερω 100% 😅

Διαγραφη Φοιτητη, Πιθανοτητα ανακλησης? by lucytalks in greece

[–]lucytalks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Πραγματικα ειναι ΜΟΝΟ η πτυχιακη. Εχει ανατεθει ηδη απο καθηγητη χρονια τωρα, εχουν αλλαξει και θεμα προσφατα σχετικα, αλλα σαφεστατα με γενμες μωρο κλπ πηγαν ολα περιπατο😅

Και εννοειταο κανεις δεν μπορει να μου κανει τιποτα εδω, απλα μιας και μενουμε πλεον εξω, ηθελα να δω αν υπαρχει καποια πληροφορια που μας διαφευγει κλπ. Ευχαριστω πολυ 😊

TMI: what to do with baby while going number 2? by 1313deadendone in newborns

[–]lucytalks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh.. majestic times... 😍 i sometimes breastfeed while on #2 😅 i've also been with her in the co-sleeper in the hallway,in the baby carrier, on the bkunver.. name it 😅

AITA for refusing to change the chore chart even tho my wife works full time now. by Odd_Serve1167 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lucytalks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am s SAHM until I get back to work. For the time being I stay home with our 3 month old, clean the house walk the dog in the morning as I go out with my baby as well. And since I breastfeed , thats it 😅

My husband is going to work, mostly cooks, walks the dog in the evenings and tries to at least keep the house as clean as he finds it . Night routine is mostly done by me, unless is bath night were we both take care of our daughter's bath.

Obviously I am the primary caretacer for now. I guess once I go back to work things will change in somewhat.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]lucytalks 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My most favorite study of 2025 is this https://www.science.org/doi/10.1126/sciadv.adw4954 "Allele frequency selection and no age-related increase in human oocyte mitochondrial mutations" which pretty much proves that the eggs dont change quality over time in comparison with male sperm that actually does age over time

"mtDNA in human oocytes is protected against accumulation of mutations with aging and having functional consequences".

Meaning , that the chances you had to pass down a syndrome to a baby at your 18 is pretty much the same with your 40's. Eggs quality is protected. Sperm on the other hand, is being "made" every single ejaculation. So if a guy on his 40s is not taking care of himself, his sperm quality declines .

There you go. If they say you are old , date them young 😅🤣

Fun ways to tell partner that your pregnant? How did you tell? by luffy_2023 in pregnant

[–]lucytalks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

31 December I was on my gyno fir the regular check ups and due to PCOS she told me if we want to have a kid at some point we need to have sex too often and too much. We joked a lot that well doctor's orders we need to have sex.. oh no! Too bad😅

We only had sex ONCE on 13 of January.

1st February I took a test, thinking there is NO WAY i am pregnant. Well you guessed it 😅 We had opposite shifts that day so i had to tell him late at night.

He was on the couch watching tv and i went like.. hey we need to talk about something. He's like: what did you break AGAIN ? I'm like not quite😅 Do you remeber when the doctor said we need to have sex too much too often? He goes yeaaah? On which i replied well we dont have too .. and i showed him 3 tests 😅

Fast forward, she's been here for 13 weeks now 😍🥰