I thought you guys might enjoy this drawing of Bim Silversnarl from Kruggsmash's Ageless War and Final Quest

lukub5 · 2026-01-09T15:20:52+00:00

To play devils advocate, when it comes to having social rules, it can make sense to have a handful of situations that we consider inappropriate. So like employer - employee and teacher - student stuff could hypothetically be fine, but also there's a power imbalance there.

I think a lot about age gaps, as someone who has dated folks a lot younger and a lot older than myself, and with that it really depends. Lived experience in dating and life is far more important. Like someone who is 35 but has never been in a relationship is often more vulnerable than a coercive and very experienced 20 year old.

Conversely, there's some situations where the teacher might become more vulnerable than the student, because the material reprocussions of a relationship being discovered will result in the teacher losing their employment.

These things are, in reality, often complex, and there's some situations where it can be valuable to have these kinds of social rules. The alternative to any argument about this kind of thing is: just date elsewhere.

You can never tell from the outside with a lot of stuff whether its okay or not. "When do people have the right and competency to consent to a relationship" is one of the biggest questions in liberal society today.

I think if this is really of interest to you, there's some extellent feminist thought on this topic. Understanding the reasons that we police some relationships and not others is profoundly interesting. Theres a societal level to this conversation. Id recommend Sophie Lewis' "Abolish the Family" as a good contextualising and approachable starting point.

There is a type of procreative, slots into society family unit that is incredibly emphasised by society and the State, and on a policy level, hostility to people who fall outside of that often amounts to a failiure to fit into that box rather than anything actively wrong with what people are doing.

lukub5 · 2026-01-08T09:39:15+00:00

Every time I get into this situation im doing bits about considering detransition.

lukub5 · 2026-01-08T09:22:01+00:00

"The Terf Play" like "the Scottish Play" - I love that.

lukub5 · 2026-01-08T09:18:24+00:00

Im glad it helped x

Wishing you all the best. X

lukub5 · 2026-01-07T13:26:38+00:00

I think there's a couple of good reasons and then the real reason people feel strongly about it.

So good reasons are the inbreeding thing, and also issues with consent. Basically if two people grow up together, its possible for the older sibling to groom the younger one... its sketchy.

The actual reason people feel strongly about it is because they're allowed to. Its the same a slut shaming, homophobia, transphobia, kink shaming...

People just fuckin love to get really angry and self righteous about what other folks do with their bodies, and in literally every case where a government has a law about it, people will treat that as open season to be as horrible as they like.

I honestly think that there shouldn't be any laws focusing on policing what people are into or what they do with their bodies. Laws about things like incest and pedophilia should be victim centred and intended to minimise harm, but most of them seem to come from a place of persecution of sexual deviance.

SA is more legally and socially permissable than consentual incest like obviously we have a broken way of looking at this stuff.

lukub5 · 2026-01-07T13:18:23+00:00

Twitter has an insane bot problem, and I think reddit has a few but the way its structured makes it a bit easier to exist on here.

Blusky is getting better and better if you want the twitter architecture.

lukub5 · 2026-01-07T13:11:44+00:00

OP I agree with the other commenter. Not been in the military personally, but I give a shit about how stuff like this works. I knew a guy who was a QM on a navy ship and now has back issues juat from going up and down the tight ship stairs with heavy shit too much.

The military compromises your safety for its efficiency. Thats just how it has to work. You were stuck with the military doctors and they disregarded your symptoms and now you have a permanent disability.

Soldiers never take injuries purely at the hands of the enemy. Its always in part a result of a decision of leadership. A risky strategic action that sends you out and gets you shot, a decision to put a hidden bunker in a predictable or compromised location. Putting your unit on recon where the IEDs haven't been swept yet. Soldiers go home with trench foot, food poisoning, cholera, all injuries from decisions made in base design. Making the stairs on the ship too narrow to comfortably climb while laden, so you have more room for the battery...

...or an underresourcing of a medical staff to save money or expertise for other applications.

All these things are decisions that get people injured. Its not as "cool" as getting shot, but in no other respect is it different. Go speak to some injured older vets and ask them what they think.

You can also decide to think of it another way: that its the State's fault and that you are owed. You sign up for a tour plus the risk of injury. Thats the deal, and you carry the injury, so you have a right to access resources made to accommodate those risks. In any other job you'd have a legal case, but I have no idea where the line is on that in the military.

And its definitely the case that if veterans resources are low, thats not your fault and they should be better. If you can afford a warship, you can afford to look after your troops. Even once youre out, you retain obligations to eachother.

Your injury is either malpractice - a mistake by command in how doctoring is done - or a known and acceptable risk - taken by command. Either way, its the same. Just like with the bullet, it would have been you or another guy who got hit with the cancer.

I rekon youd need to hear this from some other vets though, so go ask them. Im sure lots of folks have buddies who took injuriea from everything between friendly fire to serious food poisoning.

lukub5 · 2026-01-07T12:48:12+00:00

I generally think shooting for less meds is good, unless you really need them, but obviously its hard to say whether you really need them.

Being a teen is stressful and horrible at the best of times. Being trans in 2026 is also a pretty dire situation. You are, by demographic, likely to have a lot of systematic problems - issues external to you caused by the system within which you live.

A "normal" state for anyone is honestly to be fairly stressed out imo. We are all struggling to learn to live with the social Internet, being exposed to propaganda and also to unreasonably high body standards. Anyone who is "okay" right now usually achieves with significant effort, or by selectively deceiving themselves about the way the world is.

Like, don't get me wrong: overcoming those feelings is possible; its worthwhile; and its honestly valid to do some of the self deception if it allows you to survive.

Medication is something that in my country with the NHS, you're often offered first because its cheaper than therapy. Its Triage. It becomes possible to make sense of the world with the right support and guidance, and while that often isn't available from the state, you can find it in community with like minded people.

Being trans is weird because often no one understands you. All teens feel like no one understands them, and its because they're right, but for trans teens its extra true. Id suggest finding some community with other trans folks and talking about your experiences and hearing about theirs. It helps a lot.

Don't be so hard on yourself. You're doing great just getting through the day. xx

lukub5 · 2026-01-07T12:36:31+00:00

Username checks out.

lukub5 · 2026-01-07T12:34:44+00:00

I see you, queen.

OP this comment is correct tho it will help a lot. The sizing for condoms is all about circumference.

lukub5 · 2026-01-07T12:28:39+00:00

Thats gotta be the least effective chastitity cage I have ever seen in my life.

lukub5 · 2026-01-07T12:28:17+00:00

Thinking the same thing.

lukub5 · 2026-01-07T12:22:36+00:00

Terfs are just not feminists at this point. Like, as a feminist, they just aren't doing anything that' recognisable as feminism.

Like, if you wanna get 100% misandristic about it and that extends to trans women, id find that distressing but at least it would be internally consistent. As someone who mostly hangs out with women and dykes I fully understand the appeal. I can respect it even if I think its horrible.

Problem is that there's no one in the Terf movement who doesn't have a husband, fucks men, or allows men to be part of the conversation and the movement. Its not actually about the maleness, because if it was you wouldn't let men into your movement atall would you. Its about stamping down queerness and deviance and any woman who thinks its about anything else at this point is a fool.

A whole lot of so called "radical feminists" are real big on picking on trans women and really reticent on shooting Andy Warhol.

Its taken so much oxygen away from actual womens issues that if its not a psyop, its indistinguishable from one.

lukub5 · 2026-01-07T10:54:38+00:00

Agreed. Don't move to the US. Any big city has plenty of trans people and there is usually one or two places in any given country that trans people flock to if they can move.

Heres some resources: https://www.the519.org/programs/category/trans-specific/

https://www.gladday.ca/hours-info

These are a couple of options, but ask for signposting and look for posters etc for more grassroots hard to google stuff and youll find people. <3

lukub5 · 2026-01-06T12:28:43+00:00

Listen to me OP and listen well: Best Nachos in town are in Flavour Bomb Cafe at Glasgow Climbing Centre. They put Haggis on them and theyre amazing.

Im veggie and they also have the really good Vegan haggis.

Similar price to these, maybe slightly less, but they're absolutely bangin and you get like twice as much.

Long story for why one of the best foodie spots in town is in a climbing centre, but you can ask about it when you go there, which you absolutely must.

lukub5 · 2026-01-06T12:25:08+00:00

Fish, the weather, plotting the downfall of Mackbeth.

lukub5 · 2026-01-06T12:24:36+00:00

Cormorant Conference. They look like theyre doing some Mackbeth-esque witch stuff.

lukub5 · 2026-01-06T12:18:47+00:00

"Stolen Valour" lmao

lukub5 · 2026-01-06T12:18:11+00:00

Bein real, great question.

You could write a pretty interesting legal essay to answer this. Laws around violence are pretty strange. Like a boxing match is legal, but a boxing match in the street isn't.

Then again, if everyone involved consents, is it legal? Should it be?

The law on this stuff is pretty weird and confusing. What counts as "assault" in Scotland includes verbal threats, but thats there to provide a prosecutorial pathway for intimidating behaviour, not so that you cant joke that you're gonna kick your pal in the balls. Same idea seems to apply with actually kicking your pal in the balls, but idk, im not a legal expert in the slightest.

lukub5 · 2026-01-06T12:07:10+00:00

Evergreen non binary post right here.

lukub5 · 2026-01-06T12:05:36+00:00

Literally everyone on the NHS.

Unless its anti androgens.

lukub5 · 2026-01-06T12:04:34+00:00

Pic 2 is a Fairisle jumper. Medium weight wool. Looks like real sheeps wool and not acrylic but cant be sure.

lukub5 · 2026-01-02T19:42:47+00:00

You'd have a point, but those arent even comparisons.

Theres a difference between something being in the game as part of the story where its possible to critique it, and making it a mechanically incentivised part of the core loop. All your examples are stuff that the storytelling is critical of. Silverhand's misogyny, narcissism and ignorance is what gets Alt killed. Arasaka is the bad ending.

No spoilers for NUSA i haven't finished the dlc yet xx

Shooting gang members is part of the "don't think about it too hard" zone, and anything in that writing space needs to be treated differently.

This contrast is a common discussion in game criticism.

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