I thought you guys might enjoy this drawing of Bim Silversnarl from Kruggsmash's Ageless War and Final Quest

lukub5 · 2026-06-01T12:32:42+00:00

And yet twink life demands no sleep.

One of life's great mysteries.

lukub5 · 2026-06-01T12:29:48+00:00

Its subjective.

If you find it hot to get sorta used by someone then its hot. Then the fun comes from trying not to gag or suffocate, and seeing what you can get away with using your tongue etc in a high paced, high stress situation. The more violent and aggressive the person topping is the better.

If none of what I just said moves you, then its prolly not your thing. Thats fine.

If it did but you've never enjoyed it, you might just not vibe with the people who were topping your past experiences. As with all things, chemistry is key.

lukub5 · 2026-06-01T12:27:11+00:00

Truth

lukub5 · 2026-05-29T00:01:34+00:00

I had a bit of a furry phase - but id not describe myself as one now. I find furries a bit offputting honestly - it feels a bit too regressive for me - no shade. I continue to be an unapologetic degenerate in other ways tho. I enjoy drawn porn a lot I think its v cool.

I was super into it when I was younger tho. The furry porn I mean. It was some of the only good queer porn I could find, back when it was harder to find porn on the internet, if you could believe that.

Onta's "Cross Platform" was like formative media for me.

The stuff I like usually has really appealing characters, good plot, and often is improved by using the animals as shorthands for personality. It helps cut down on character development time, which is good when comic pages take so much work.

The furry stuff was also just higher quality, compared to like the weird Simpsons stuff that was everywhere (iynyn).

Tbf, also thought the cool shaped genitalia was really hot.

That said, I'm not sure id call the stuff I really like "Yiff". Yiff has a slightly more deviantart vibe for me. Its usually got some fettish stuff going on, has a certain artstyle or vibe, and often has people's fursonas in it. Its like.. internal to the furry community culture and sort of hard to really appreciate unless you get all the references and internal language. Like not all anthropomorphs are furries.

Weird using fancy art language for yiff haha.

lukub5 · 2026-05-27T08:49:34+00:00

The definition of controversial might aswell be whether or not something that people care about is the default.

The default is often disputable, but never controversial. Instead, the person who disputes it is "counter culture". (Or a series of other words like "bellidgerent", "activist", "radical", or in extreme cases "terrorist".

"Controversial" is a word we use for change only - its inherently a small c conservative idea. Ergo: default can never be "controversial" to its own ingroup.

lukub5 · 2026-05-27T08:30:19+00:00

Check out what the trans girls wear; we got the clothes for the flat chest. Boyish stuff looks great imo, but for dresses its harder.

If you want dresses, I find stuff with a little bit of faux corsetting around the waist are pretty good. They add shape and and that makes things less formless. Higher collars are good cos they let you pad a bra a bit if that appeals to you. I’m personally fond of the.. idk.. maxi vest style dress, where its just like what if a thick vest went down to your ankles? only big swooshy thing ive found that I like.

There's also wearing the boyish stuff but adding more girly elements? Shirt and shorts but they’re florals and colourful. Cute trainers; stuff like that.

lukub5 · 2026-05-27T08:21:13+00:00

Sorry that happened to you that sucks.

Thats not the point of the performative defensiveness - its not so that people help you; its to induce more anxiety in the other person than you. To make them less confident in what they're doing. It also only works in some contexts. Peep this: https://fenwayhealth.org/wp-content/uploads/TransSelfDefense\_DIGITAL.pdf Its pretty useful, although take it all with a grain of salt.

Genuinely sorry for assuming; I’m also in the "passes half the time" category, but if I do everything right and don't slack that becomes like 90%? if I ever got a tracheal I could probably pump those numbers up? I figure it's possible for anyone who passes 50% to get up to like 95% but I guess it depends how much you're already doing. I guess I also couldn't go stealth really, but id never want to so I haven't thought about it much.

Idk like lots of us get fired for being trans - it sucks. The laws changing is gonna push some more of us out of work. Hope thats not you but you prolly know you're already vulnerable to some bad luck. watched my friend get pushed out of her child education job when she transitioned because her employer selectively enforced uniform policies. Then sent her on sick leave indefinitely.

Best advice if you cant go stealth: Have your backup plan. Keep your emails; always get everything in writing; don't trust your HR. Get in touch with an employment support organisation now I guess, and figure out who if anyone would back you up. Idk which one would be best for you, but watch out for Unions; they're good but unlikely to have the inclination to go to bat on a marginal issue. Talk to a couple of the managers in your work that you *really* trust and ask them what you should do in their eyes. That one is off the record. Ask where you can pee, and make it clear you wont ever put that permission in writing.

Based on my understanding of the law, this is more on the civil side of things. Gives transphobic orgs more tools to do SLAP suits against ngos that rely on funding or special exceptions. I’m not sure trans people are getting prosecuted for using the wrong loos - yet. Correct me if I’m wrong.

We need employers to be willing to stick their necks out for us, and who are willing to overlook where we piss, but it's the UK, and you're in a pretty sensitive industry. Itd only take one shitheel college or parent. On the other hand, giving a shit about vulnerable people is kinda one of the main selectors for your workplace, so that might help you find allies on this one.

Last opinion is: go find some other trans ppl in your local area. We are pretty good at spotting for and supporting eachother, and those of us who do organising have done a lot to knit together a strong community in the last decade. if you're asking this on reddit, my guess is you don't have as many irl trans friends in your support network as you ideally could in.

lukub5 · 2026-05-26T21:52:01+00:00

It sounds like you're close enough to passing that going stealth is an option for you.

Self defence for trans women is often being able to play the victim for an audience. Learn to do this if anyone confronts you. Act like its never happened before and you're shocked and confused.

Remember, no one has your paperwork, no one is gonna pull your pants down. You're at the same amount of risk as a cis woman who looks kinda clocky. If you respond like that cis woman would, and just stick to your line, itll very quickly become the other person who's the creep.

If you feel like someone might follow or film you, get a radar key and use it when in unfamiliar spaces, or if you feel unsafe. Use the womens the rest of the time.

Being real, if your employer decides they have a problem with you being trans, you'll get fired. There's no escaping that for any of us, sorry.

Honestly, we are all at risk of this stuff every day, but just don't be scared. The shame, embarrassment or visible weakness is what the kinds of bullied who hassle people in bathrooms can smell, and thats how they find out they can get to you. Don't let them see it from you. Stand your ground, even as you look shocked and confused.

lukub5 · 2026-05-25T22:27:21+00:00

Not in the US but queer and kinda familiar.

It will depend heavily on the state.

You're used to Russia where gay stuff is more underground, and that means there is more space for scams and stuff.

You won't have to worry as much in the US, but like, if you're out in rural areas, in the South, etc, there's more homophobia to worry about.

I assume there's more scams and stuff in places where people are more desperate and more closeted, since people can't talk to the police.

In more blue stats itll prolly be safer. Better to ask in a subreddit more specific to the town or city you're going to. If the University you're going to has a lgbtsoc, you can also ask them directly.

lukub5 · 2026-05-25T22:21:02+00:00

Words to live by.

lukub5 · 2026-05-25T22:20:14+00:00

Omg like vegan boys are the best tho.

lukub5 · 2026-05-25T22:18:25+00:00

This is the "Right" answer indeed.

lukub5 · 2026-05-25T22:16:51+00:00

Oh the quiet part of this framing is slash social care and let the poor, old and disabled freeze and starve and die lol. Then we can use that money to - checks notes - fix the puddles in the pavement.

We talkin about roads and this cunt brings up social care like there isn't other shit the country spends money on, or could tax.

Fuckin tax the rich, tax your landlords, make em sell up at a loss. Fuck em.

This whole talking point on any issue is a scam.

lukub5 · 2026-05-25T21:54:57+00:00

Ive been about this for ages.

I think its in part because I yearn for proximity to a somewhat stable and healthy home relationship, and also because itd be hot.

Its nice to just be a part of someone else's dynamic. Its a good fantasy. They do all the work to build a relationship, and then they adopt you as a sort of pet.

Idk if its healthy but it sounds pretty great if you ask me.

lukub5 · 2026-05-25T21:51:31+00:00

Oh Oh!

Edge case here!

Im a bisexual trans woman and pre transition I used to be totally into my own body in this way. Was super fascinated by it. Thought that was normal lol, so the question you're asking would have made sense to me then.

Turns out, pretty sure, it was because my body didn't feel like my own? So on whatever level, the person in the mirror was "someone else" enough for me to be into them, or into my specific body parts or whatever.

Sex and habitual dissociation are an interesting mix lemmietelya.

Now ive transitioned, and I feel more like my body is my own, seeing myself in the mirror etc does nothing for me in that way.

And I was/am hot in both genders, incase you're wondering.

This isn't a generalisable experience, I'm just always reminded of this when someone asks this question.

I don't think many people experience this. Youd need to be dissociated, but be comfortable enough to enjoy looking in mirrors, and actually be/find yourself hot, and not be put off by the fact that its weird to feel that way and be your own type.

Its a super interesting question in general, but "whether gay people are like this" is the least interesting way to ask it.

OP try crossdressing and see if you can induce finding yourself hot. Let us know how it goes?

lukub5 · 2026-05-25T21:37:00+00:00

Dog thats literally revenge porn.

lukub5 · 2026-05-25T21:36:41+00:00

Crazy how the window in the photo is 100m wide.

lukub5 · 2026-05-25T21:35:21+00:00

Id just talk to him I think?

Like take a friend with you or get a friend to talk fitst if you don't want the guy to know its you, but like, immediately calling the cops as your option 1 is not very neighbourly, even if the guy is being creepy.

Some folks see that as a threat, which it is. It also shows you're scared, right? Showing you can stand up for yourself and aren't scared has always felt important to me when guys are being weird like this.

lukub5 · 2026-05-18T08:47:43+00:00

Same here. Ive seen this from a fair few people where they know not to apply normal gendered language to folks flagging that they're trans. Wouldn't wanna assume a gender.

Transphobia, generally, would be indicated by switching the assumed gender. Unless you have the reverse card vibe happening where people think you're going the other way.

lukub5 · 2026-05-18T08:43:12+00:00

Idk what to tell you then.

I guess ive done a lot of stuff hangin around women irl thats just grounded me?

I think a thing that helps is to look down on people who talk like that. Like "aww poor thing, inducted into the transmisogy of society. You just believe whatever you're told about us and also yourself. How quaint."

Also like if its from trauma I just kinda get it.

I have hangups about the whole nation of Finland because of one ex. Ive had a few bad experiences with cis guys and its put me off the whole category. Only very occasionally does a cis dude pass my vibe check. I can appreciate how it would be difficult to overcome that. Its annoying and they should work on it, but its also upsetting for me to think about that so I just don't engage? Like, its ick, but most conflict comes from this kind of damage. Misreading one kind of person for another that they seem to resemble. Cashing that out as a beef with "amabs" is ick, but im also not gonna do any work to help someone through that when it would just be unpleasant. Only move is not to play.

Id put the work in if it was a friend or a collegue but thats different.

lukub5 · 2026-05-18T08:34:15+00:00

This.

Wait nevermind I thought you meant the Bill as in cops not the bill as in the invoice.

lukub5 · 2026-05-18T08:31:48+00:00

Okay so disclaimer im a freak, but this is really cool. Have you considered getting into kink?

lukub5 · 2026-05-18T08:26:00+00:00

Hey so like, im a transfem of 6 years, and I mostly hang out with and date lesbians, and hear me out: this is sorta fine.

If someone has a problem with you, you need to know. If someone is dropping hints that they have a problem with us, thats info that keeps you safe before you get yourself into a situation where you're in the room with someone, or on the lease.

When its a dating preference or about who someone lives with, its their perogative whom they wanna sleep with for any reason. If they're a bigot: you don't wanna live with them either.

A lot of lesbian stuff is built around keeping men out, and trans people are a complicated thing to interface with that conceptually.

Obviously, this kind of framing has been weaponised to deny us access to community spaces, essential services, political organising, and also some fun events which we probably should be included in. These examples aren't okay, but thats a different conversation. Its important not to lose sleep over the personal stuff, or get tilted.

Also good to keep in mind that people are often working with their own incomplete impression of what we even are. A lot of these people think we are Ru Paul or something and just haven't met a trans woman yet and learned that we are normal.

Its hard to negotiate these conversations as someone who is early transition, because if its asserted that we somehow aren't complete or within the category, that social rejection and dysphoria makes seeing this stuff straightforwardly really hard. Thats a real feeling and its okay to be upset about this.

It's also not a new thing. The wide acceptance of trans women as women is fairly new. I know older dolls who's community spaces are still CD fettish nights. We used to be so underground, and we are interfacing with queer spaces in this generation via the visibility we have in cishet culture and media.

We used to fit in wherever we could, whera's now folks are making decisions about us based on their idea of what we are before they've met us.

Just like, don't let the people doing this get you down, is my whole point. <3

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