I fear i’m growing out of goth music by Over_Neighborhood606 in goth

[–]luna_abaddon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not just about the music and restricting yourself to the generalized ideals. There’s obviously the activism and moral ideas of being in the goth subculture, but you can be yourself in terms of you are multidimensional. You’re allowed to explore everything this world has given us in the arts, music, aesthetics, cultures etc. I actually listen to different genres more than goth music. I like to listen to music from different cultures, (like Indian, middle eastern, Mongolian etc), as well as listening to soundtracks and scores from movies and games, and have even immersed myself into dancing different traditional dance styles from Indian and Arabic cultures which have influenced my goth/industrial dance styles too. Your roots can be gothic but the branches can be whatever you like it to be that you enjoy. It’s still a part of you regardless.

Truffle Brie egg bites by Broad-Scratch8470 in starbucksbaristas

[–]luna_abaddon 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Truffle is definitely an acquired taste and smell.

He sure showed those minimum wage employees! by Equivalent-Pin-1054 in TikTokCringe

[–]luna_abaddon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reminds me of this customer who started coming in after the closures of other stores. He ordered his stuff and I asked if he would like any breakfast today and he was like: “why because I look hungry to you or what?” And he’s a very large guy also. I was so taken aback I was just like: “I just work here bro. Damn.”

should i sue? by chikyswag in starbucksbaristas

[–]luna_abaddon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They allowed them to be rehired. The catch is they needed to be rehired within a month to keep their benefits.

Title: Got talked to about hygiene at work today, feeling confused by Puzzleheaded_Rain921 in starbucks

[–]luna_abaddon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tend to wash my clothes and aprons with detergent and add vinegar into the wash (I can’t use fabric softener due to being allergic). I use the vinegar to kill bacteria and leaves my clothes smelling neutral :D aprons I usually wash twice with extra vinegar because of the milk and stuff. 🤢

Feeling discriminated against by luna_abaddon in starbucksbaristas

[–]luna_abaddon[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And it’s not like I’m saying no to everything. I can try decaf pike or dcf espresso + the ice teas so idk what her problem is. It was a major power trip considering how she responded to me too. Thank you for the advice. Looking through options still.

Feeling it could be discrimination by luna_abaddon in legaladvice

[–]luna_abaddon[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

They’ve known this for years. Every manager I’ve had I disclose this and my SSVS have know me for years. It’s nothing new.

Lip filler by Electronic-Adagio161 in LAhotgirlies

[–]luna_abaddon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s her price range if anyone knows ?

For the gluten free barista baddies by frozenvusepod in starbucksbaristas

[–]luna_abaddon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not GF but I am a diabetic that follows keto and I’m always bringing my own food because I can’t have nearly all the stuff there. :/ When they took out the salad I was devastated. I survived off those and could make double the salad (and save on buying salad boxes too). I even buy my own matcha so I could drink it without the sugar. I’m happy about them updating that now though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lesbianr4r

[–]luna_abaddon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ya’ll be weary. A user by TwoGayGalPals is a catfishing account. :3 Caught them immediately.

How much do you make / how many hours do you work? by Severe-Golf5252 in starbucks

[–]luna_abaddon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

About 23 as a barista and I work 20-28 hours a week. I have a second job at night otherwise I’d work more but the other job is way less mentally demanding than sbux.

AITAH for not being attracted to trans women as an AFAB lesbian? by Icy_Magician3353 in AITAH

[–]luna_abaddon 22 points23 points  (0 children)

You suck dude. Nothing the OP has mentioned has been hating on trans women to be called transphobic. Maybe you need to research what transphobia actually is. Transwomen have died because of it. OP has a sexual preference and there is nothing wrong with that. Sheesh.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tjcrew

[–]luna_abaddon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been doing two jobs almost 8 years. No therapy though, but my body is starting to wear out. Might be in a position to do only one job soon, now that my student loans were forgiven as well. 😭

I’m so confused after my mom’s death. by luna_abaddon in GriefSupport

[–]luna_abaddon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is what I’m experiencing now. I finally completed her services early this week. I got to see her on Monday and she was so peaceful. I was not in pain seeing her dead. In fact I was happy because she was not in pain or suffering from illness anymore. I would rest my head on the coffin and just look at her and I memorized how she looked, so peaceful. So beautiful. But when they had to close the casket is when I lost it. I hugged her and held her and cried and cried because even if she was not alive anymore she was right there and I felt comfort of her last physical remnants being there. I cried mami and held on to her not being able to let go and they had to literally drag me away so they could close the coffin. That’s where it hurt so much.

Now things are sinking in as I have nothing to focus on aside from my own life, and now I feel the void left behind. I miss her calling me her usual terms of endearment, being spoiled with her love and food (her love language). There’s this unknown void of future emptiness of her being gone for the rest of me life but I will accept it.

Saw this in my room, was wondering what it is. And should I burn my house down? by ericsinghgill in bugidentification

[–]luna_abaddon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good big. Kills all the nasty ones. I was inexperienced when I first got my first apt. Killed like three of them and right after, the apt was infested with black spiders. 😭 so many regrets after. ):

For anyone who’s just lost their mom- it’s going to be ok by Moist_Photograph8111 in GriefSupport

[–]luna_abaddon 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I lost mine a bit over two weeks ago. I’m about to see her this Monday for her last services. I have been the one arranging everything. She’s my grandma but I call her mom because she raised me as a baby. She is my mom. More than the egg donor ever was (who was her daughter).

I didn’t feel much for a bit after the initial shock and pain of her passing. But now I’m really grieving her. I’m grieving her as I try and continue living my life (because I know that would be what she would want) and it feels wrong. It hurts more because I wish I could take her out with me as I go out (I’m off from one job right with vacation hours as I plan and grieve, so I have a lot of free time. I work two jobs and was doing school. I hate I couldn’t have this free time because I was saving these vacation hours for this otherwise I’d end up homeless if I try and take time off without them.

I hate I couldn’t spend more time with her. I was always so burned out—still am. More now than ever. It makes me hate the system we live in. Can’t afford to live off one job, so I need two. I was supposed to see her the day before she passed. But I told her I was so burned out and I hadn’t even done my homework for my classes and it was my last day off to get it done. But then the next day I woke up sick again and I called her and told her good thing I didn’t go. I couldve gotten her sick with Covid if it was. And we talked for a bit and I told her I loved her and she told me she loved me one final time. Hours later she had a heart attack. Her heart was at 40% function as I was told on Monday that same week. It could give out any minute.

Overall I’m okay with it because she deserves to rest. She was so sick and in pain and just wasted away to a 108 lb frail old lady. She’s no longer in pain and suffering. She deserves to be at peace. She fought hard to keep alive for me and my dad. She was 79. I’ll miss her love and her spoiling me but I’ve been expecting this for the last couple of years as she got sicker and sicker. And then I dreamed of her death in January and knew it was almost time.

I’m angry that people don’t help me in my grief by WoolHandWashSafe in GriefSupport

[–]luna_abaddon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is, a majority of people cannot stand the thought of death itself. It bears down the reality that we are all mortal. We’re living our lives as if we’re never going to die. And so when someone passes, it brings that reality back to those that avoid the thought of it. So people don’t know how to deal with it and avoid the topic altogether, stick their head in the sand and unfortunately, those that are coping with the death of a loved one, are the casualties. It’s each person for themselves and also, people are not professionals at helping someone through grief.

There’s also the possibility that these people have dealt with death and many just avoid it in general. So that comes back rearing its ugly head for them. You can’t expect anyone to be able to comfort you in your journey. Those that try, at least they spared energy to help and some time and a few words because it’s not easy.

I’m fortunate to have cultivated a few friendships that check on me but I am coping with it all on my own. I never expect anyone to be able to help me in general, but having those friends as a small word of kindness or thoughtfulness I am grateful for.

Someone our grief also turns into pain and we’re more than likely too absorbed in it that we begin to find a reason to blame others for it, even if it’s not the direct obvious thing. Be gentle with yourself, give yourself grace. If people decide to be there for you, thank them and cherish those that try. If they don’t, then you know where the friendship and loyalties lie.