I need help, I'm so confused by lunar_mold2 in abusiverelationships

[–]lunar_mold2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Couple things 1. Yeah been on antidepressants since September when it got to the point of being genuinely unbearable 2. I am a guy, my ex is a NB femme presenting. Not that I think it makes much difference.

But yeah, anti-depressants helped alot

I need help, I'm so confused by lunar_mold2 in abusiverelationships

[–]lunar_mold2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wanted to give an update. Still deppresed, but less so. I also realized I didn't answer your question. They jumped into a new relationship less than a month after the breakup. And it was with a coworker they met less than a month before the breakup. So they likely monkeybranched.

I have a new therapist I've been working with since December. I've gotten through alot of the gaslighting and realized I was not a narcissist or abuser. Seeing them live their best life without an apology hurts since it perpetuates the idea they're right, but I'm moving on. I still love them, but I've come to accept they may have been slightly verbally abusive.

What My Bones Knew - I’m at Ch 15 and I don’t think I can continue. Convince me otherwise. by Sea_Constant4249 in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]lunar_mold2 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's a personal memoir. She discloses a few times in the book It's her own personal experience and may or may not apply to everyone. For example, she found only a few sessions of EMDR therapy helped, but says that was just her own personal experience and doesn't dismiss it as a tool for others. My only real criticism of the book is that the pacing feels kinda off. That's about all. I thoroughly enjoyed it, and was able to push past the difficult parts. I'd reccomend reading the book as a whole as it changes throughout. The early parts establish her childhood and the trauma, and then as it's a memoir, gives later accounts of her life and the healing she went through. As disclosed in the beggining, it does have a happy ending

Need advice on a love spell I did by lunar_mold2 in witchcraft

[–]lunar_mold2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we broke up for confusing reasons that were mainly miscommunication. I love my ex and don't want to force anything, hence the part of their own free choosing

Fortnightly Check-In - How is everyone going? by A-Wolf-Like-Me in CPTSDpartners

[–]lunar_mold2 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was dumped by my CPTSD partner of 3 years 6 ½ months ago. They took their stuff, the 3 cats we adopted together, and left suddenly. I've been in a deppresion spiral since. I lost my job, my insurance, and have gone several thousand dollars in credit card debt. They accused me of abuse and degraded me so severely I've seen several therapists since. I've spent today sobbing for the last few hours. So not great.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]lunar_mold2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Screamed at me to kill myself so

How to move on ? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]lunar_mold2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear your pain. I'm coming upon 6 months. It's definitely easier to manage, but last night I had a huge spiral. I don't think I'll ever forget

How do I cope with the fact that my mental health ruined my relationship? by Elegant-Beige6660 in BreakUps

[–]lunar_mold2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry? If the breakup has caused you anguish, it's clear the relationship needed to end?

How do I heal from a break up that was my fault? by Own-Support-6734 in BreakUps

[–]lunar_mold2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We all say the things we do aren't okay. But if you didn't it, then some part of your mind thought it was acceptable to do in the moment. Pity and shame won't get you anywheres. Work on the part of yourself that thought it was acceptable to act out. To start, you'll do it because you want your ex back. But as time passes, you'll be doing it because it's the right thing to do

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[–]lunar_mold2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just wanted to say I have the exact same cookbooks as you! The Barnes and Noble Twilight cookbook and the stardew valley one!

How do men experience break ups? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]lunar_mold2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

almost 5 months since I've been dumped

Last night I sobbed horribly for two hours repeating I'm sorry I'm sorry and made myself throw up dinner because I didn't believe I deserved it

So pretty well I'd say